• The Emotionally Absent Mother

  • How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect, Second Edition
  • By: Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC
  • Narrated by: Emily Durante
  • Length: 8 hrs and 49 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (291 ratings)

Access a growing selection of included Audible Originals, audiobooks, and podcasts.
You will get an email reminder before your trial ends.
Audible Plus auto-renews for $7.95/mo after 30 days. Upgrade or cancel anytime.
The Emotionally Absent Mother  By  cover art

The Emotionally Absent Mother

By: Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC
Narrated by: Emily Durante
Try for $0.00

$7.95 a month after 30 days. Cancel anytime.

Buy for $15.47

Buy for $15.47

Pay using card ending in
By confirming your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and Amazon's Privacy Notice. Taxes where applicable.

Publisher's summary

The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed.

Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships - or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can't quite put a finger on what's missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse - but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains:

  • Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful - and what she was unable to give
  • The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse
  • How to find the child inside you and fill the "mother gap" through reflections and exercises
  • How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children)

©2017 Jasmin Lee Cori (P)2017 Tantor

Critic reviews

"This book is a revelation to those of us whose mothering was short of what we needed." (Connie Dawson, PhD, coauthor of Growing up Again)

What listeners say about The Emotionally Absent Mother

Average customer ratings
Overall
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    237
  • 4 Stars
    39
  • 3 Stars
    8
  • 2 Stars
    4
  • 1 Stars
    3
Performance
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    191
  • 4 Stars
    30
  • 3 Stars
    12
  • 2 Stars
    4
  • 1 Stars
    5
Story
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    189
  • 4 Stars
    43
  • 3 Stars
    4
  • 2 Stars
    3
  • 1 Stars
    2

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars

Good book but not the audio version

I have the hard copy of this book but couldn't find time to squeeze in the reading so I got the audio version. I got 3 chapters in and had to stop. The narration sounds robotic. I couldn't bare to listen. I went back to the actual book. Much better.

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

20 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Wow ....

It ... it cured me. I am free now ... finally I am free. thank you thank you very much thank you i am free. guys I would like to give you some parts of my story you know what i am happy now depression-free I used every bit of my power to make this happen. I am from EGYPT and here without any regret it is a MISSED up system I DID NOT FINDA THERAPIST AND I KNEW THAT I WAS SICK SO SICK I KNEW IT IKNEW IT> AT THE END AFTER FIVE THERAPISTS I HAVE DECIDED TWO THINGS
1. TO NOT GIVE A FU** ABOUT EGYPTIAN MEDICAL SYSTEMS

2.TO NOT GIVE UP
I HAVE READ BOOKS A LOT OF BOOKS, REACHED OUT FOR EVERY POSSIBLE OPPORTUNITY OF GETTING HELP THAT ICOULD FIND, DID NOT WASTE MY TIME DID NOT WASTE ANY MOMENT ENROLLED IN A PROGRAM IN SCINCE. GUYS

FIVE YEARS GUYS FIVE YEARS OF PURE STRUGGLING JUST STRUGGLE! I AM TOO TIRED TOO TIRED OF THIS WOUNDS TOO TIRED BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I HAVE SUCCEDED! FINALLY.


TO YOU THE AUTHOR I CAN'T THANK YOU ENOUGH WALLAHY I AM NOT ABLE TO MY WORDS WOULD NEVER CONSIDEREDTO BE ENOUGH. YOUR WORK IS JUST STUNNING!
AND YEAH I GOT EMOTIONALL WHILE WRITTING THIS :"D

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

19 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Eye Opening it Makes my life make sense

I survived a sexual trauma in childhood, the perpetrator went to prison. However I was left with all the pieces of that trauma at 11yrs old and my emotional absent and emotionally abusive parents. So to say I had coping mechanism is an understatement, but I had always immediately made the excuse that I had gotten them from the sexual trauma without the consideration that they could be from anything else. I mean both my parents took care of my physical needs just fine; ie roof, food, clothing, attempted to keep me safe thru being a teenager albeit they both considered me to be a wild and out of control one. It didn't dawn on me until reading this book that a parent supplies more than just physical needs to a child. Even after I had my own son 10yrs ago. I still hadn't put that together even though my son's emotional life is equally important to me as his physical and spiritual life.

Strangely I had chosen this book because I am a teacher and I hoped to glean some insight on narratives and life situations that students could be living through to help me be more empathetic and understanding their situations better. It is eye opening for sure. I recommend the book as I gained insight about my own life, others lives, and also The Narrative that societies give "Mother" all through out time.

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

15 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Great self help book, highly recommend.

The narrators voice is extremely important to me, very easy listen.

If these topics apply to you, keep in mind, this is not a story, and can be painful to hear at times. Try to avoid distractions and allow yourself to connect, and don't try to hurry through.

Author connects the absence of an emotional mother to its real life consequences, and offers a lot of eye opening material.

I've been in therapy for 35 yrs, I cannot believe most of this never came up with any or the providers.

This is a great book. I am so grateful to have found an author/book that delivers the information in such a way that it sticks with you.

I feel like I finally have a place to start the healing process.


Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

10 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Very informative and helpful

I have two daughters who are struggling to survive an emotionally absent mother and this book gives all the right information, advice, and references for them and anyone else suffering as they are. I have read many books on psychological self help and this is one of the best. Stays on point and moves along well without unneeded material.

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

6 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Amazing

Loved it to the point real self help book will read again and again each time gives more insight

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

6 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Ground breaking

I struggled with feeling like I do not belong anywhere and feelings of unworthiness. This book helped me define why I became this way and how it happened.

For all the readers who, like me, had to throw away their childhood and grow up to help provide. I feel for you. I see you. You are accepted and worthy and the world is a better place because of you.

Know that your journey to heal the wounds that decision made is long and hard, but it will be worth it.

Respect.

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

4 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars

Wonderfully insightful

I ate this book in a couple of days and feel more in tune not only with myself but with my mother. I had a solider like mother and father that didn't take to kindly to tears or to whining. But now I see it's because they, themselves fear of being weak themselves and screwing me up by spoiling me. Tough parents but honest in their motives.

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

4 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars

worth the time

Book starts slow and very generalized....it gets more informative and much useful after Chapter 12

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

4 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Enlightening♡

Wonderful read, I have read many on this subject but found information in this book I'd never heard before. It was very helpful and wonderfully narrated.♡

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

2 people found this helpful