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How to Be Yourself is the best audiobook you'll ever listen to about how to conquer social anxiety.

"...a groundbreaking road map to finally being your true, authentic self." - Susan Cain, New York Times and USA Today best-selling author of Quiet

Up to 40% of people consider themselves shy. You might say you're introverted or awkward, or that you're fine around friends but just can't speak up in a meeting or at a party. Maybe you're usually confident but have recently moved or started a new job, only to feel isolated and unsure.

If you get nervous in social situations - meeting your partner's friends, public speaking, standing awkwardly in the elevator with your boss - you've probably been told, "Just be yourself!" But that's easier said than done - especially if you're prone to social anxiety.

Weaving together cutting-edge science, concrete tips, and the compelling stories of real people who have risen above their social anxiety, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen proposes a groundbreaking idea: you already have everything you need to succeed in any unfamiliar social situation. As someone who lives with social anxiety, Dr. Hendriksen has devoted her career to helping her clients overcome the same obstacles she has.

With familiarity, humor, and authority, Dr. Hendriksen takes the listener through the roots of social anxiety and why it endures, how we can rewire our brains through our behavior, and - at long last - exactly how to quiet your Inner Critic, the pesky voice that whispers, "Everyone will judge you." Using her techniques to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, you can finally be your true, authentic self.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.

©2018 Ellen Hendriksen (P)2018 Macmillan Audio

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Lots of filling

The useful information can be summed up in 2 pages but of course you need 200 pages to publish a book.

I recommend you to google "social anxiety treatment" and any of the first websites sums up all the useful information presented in this book

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  • Lisa
  • Tulsa, OK United States
  • 05-22-18

"Life" Changing

First off, I don't write reviews. I don't have the time. But the audio version of this book has made me such a braver, better person, I felt compelled to add a review so it might help someone else like me. For once, I'm not afraid and I feel like I'm living and not just going through the motions. I chose this book because of the title. I do feel like a fake most of the time. Always saying or acting the way I think others would expect me too. I remember my Mom being hyper aware of how others viewed her and her family and I picked up on that and didn't even realize. I didn't know I had social anxiety, but every example in this book sounded like me. I don't sleep well because I'll wake up in the middle of the night replaying things I did during the day. Things I could have done or said better than I did. And then the stress kicks in and the next thing I know I've laid awake for two hours pondering something that should have not been given a second thought. This book made me aware of what I was doing and I am falling back asleep quicker than ever before. It also gave me several different tools to help overcome my negative thoughts. And for once, it's not unrealistic tools that don't work. For once, they are working. Now when I start to replay a scenario, I think about Ellen's "movie theatre" scenario. And if that doesn't work. I put my inner critic on trial. A bonus was her chapter on "how to make friends." I've always avoided relationships for fear that someone would find out I'm not who I really am. But now I feel compelled to connect with someone on a friendship level. I highly recommend purchasing the audio version of this book. Ellen does a phenomenal job narrating and I honestly feel like I was sitting in her office at times. But instead of paying $$$ for a therapy session, I got so much more by purchasing this book. If you ever feel awkward in any type of social situation, you must read/listen to the book. It's a game/life changer.

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Very informative and inspirational

This book is my very first audiobook I listened to. I will never forget the tittle and author. This book was very uplifting, informational and brought me hope instantly. I enjoyed listening to Ellen reading the book she sounds very charismatic. Thank you Hellen.

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Very helpful. Well written and easy to listen to.<br />

The subject matter of this book is something that we all assume we had a handle on. Listening to it however shows us our cognative biases and how they're affecting our relationships. Ellen Hendriksen helps us navigate the foggy territory of ourselves with facts, anecdotes and genuinely helpful advice on perspectives.
They're good books, Bront.

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Nuggets to live by

excellent book
well put together
give it some time to sink in
Great 12 step supplental information for those seeking emotional sobriety.

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Absolutely wonderful.

A true treasure of timeless, sagely advice. this book would benefit anyone. We are all human, and we all deal with social anxiety to a certain extent. get this book! You will be glad you did.

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Thank you! Perspective shifter

I can't explain the impact of this book on me in words but I know it is great and I know it is life changing. A door into being confident and controling my social anxiety has been opened and it has never seemed more doable than now to walk through it.

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Enjoyable listen about social anxiety

Just want to start off this review in response to a couple other reviews. I’m not too sure why they put that this book is trying to change introverts into extroverts, but there is a whole section on the difference between introversion and social anxiety and how being an introvert affects your social anxiety. The author even says she doesn’t want to change who you are as a person. She wants to help you overcome your anxiety.

This book was really eye opening in the sense of how many other people in this world have social anxiety. The author has great examples and some good suggestions to slowly challenge yourself to help overcome being anxious by confronting the problem head on and I look forward to trying them out. I would definitely recommend this book!

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Very helpful!

This book is so helpful and and positive! The tips and tricks Ellen Hendrickson suggested for dealing with social anxiety felt very doable. I have used a few of them and already feel more confident in my daily social interactions!

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This was everything I needed to hear!

I loved this book from cover to cover!! Or should I say word to word?

It was an incredible balance between a serious subject and a humorous, optimistic feeling that we can overcome our inhibited lives with practice. Truly it was eye opening, inspirational, and I felt like this book was my best friend that was literally whispering encouragement in my ear.

Special shoutout to those amazingly accurate analogies that had me giggling... particularly stabbing a bridesmaid with a dinner fork... (yes I have had that thought too 😂), and overall the transformation it's brought in me from being ashamed, mad at myself, and feeling hopeless... to realizing that there's still the rest of my life to grow and change, and to become the person I was meant to be!

I really wish I could meet the author one day, she literally made this book come alive and it was like having a friend with all the answers! Some of the tips I'd figured out already but there were so many new ideas and so much encouragement. Thank you for writing this book! I feel like it was directed right at me!



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  • Mcehudson
  • 04-11-18

A great read

Humorous, well written and scientifically based self help book. A great read for anyone who suffers from anxiety with lots of tools to help you get back on track. Loved it.

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  • Phoebe
  • 04-14-18

sooo relatable

what i needed to change my perespective on social anxiety and take away the stigma.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-04-18

Amazing book

All the way from the beginning to end of this book, I found amazing advices, relatable examples, interesting stories and very clear and comprehensive theoretical frameworks. The boom is read with a very cheerful voice and the message is delivered very positively. Bringing all these elements together helped me to fully understand the message and to easily apply the advices.

This book is great for everyone who wants to go out there and just be yourself with ease.

Huge well done to the author!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-23-18

I will listen to it many times, I'm sure of it!

The author clearly knows the subject well, one of the best reads on social anxiety

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  • sharon weir
  • 06-12-18

Fab.

Really opened my eyes and explained a lot of random as I thought behaviour. Really helped me understand how behaviour can be portrayed and changed through adaptation.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 05-16-18

Finally ...

After struggling with anxiety for years, thanks to this book I am *finally* seeing improvement.
Ellen Hendriksen is very knowledgeable about the subject. It does seem like this is something that she struggled with personally and it seems that she cracked it.

I highly recommend getting the book. There really are very few good books on the subject and "How to Be Yourself" is definitely one of them.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-16-18

Life without social anxiety...there really is hope

I've just finished listening to "How to Be Yourself" and have come away feeling like I really can conquer the social anxieties in my life. No longer must I dream of some magical potion to live a true and meaningful life, free of self-imposed restrictions. Ellen has shown me that I can have this life, while being my very real self - no changing fundamental aspects of me, but rather shedding the protective and defensive (yet unhealthy) habits I have unknowingly relied on, in order to reveal to the world my already wonderful self. Thank you Ellen Hendriksen for showing me the way, and the science behind it. A recommended read for all people.