The Game of Desire

5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance - and Getting What You Want

By: Shannon Boodram

Narrated by: Shannon Boodram

Length: 7 hrs and 50 mins

Publisher's summary

Women: gain control and confidence in your love lives and find the relationship you want with this modern, life-changing guide from the certified sex educator, intimacy expert, and YouTube personality.

For younger generations, dating is a complicated mystery. Apps like Tinder and Bumble are supposed to foster connection but instead serve as a reminder of how painfully single we are. 

Certified sexologist and intimacy coach Shan Boodram - the most sought-after sex educator on the internet - is about to change all that. In this essential how-to guide, she addresses the realities of life today - when the rules of love and attraction are fluid - and teaches a group of young women how to become master daters in just 60 days.

It starts with you. Shan makes clear that love and self-discovery go hand in hand - your dating life is just as much about you as it is about other people. She challenges you to look inside yourself for what you want out of a partner, a relationship, and, most important, yourself. Once you figure out what you want from dating, she shows you exactly how to get it. The Game of Desire empowers you to take the lead, learn your strengths, and identify and correct your weaknesses, all the while getting inspired watching a group of women learn how to succeed in today’s dating pool.

While many books tell women why they can’t get a date, Shan teaches you the skills and techniques necessary to take charge in today’s competitive and often confusing dating scene, providing the tools essential to attract - and retain - the partner(s) you want. From learning love languages to debunking dating myths, she helps women build knowledge and confidence. 

Featuring conversational case studies, comprehensive facts about the psychology of sex and romance, and expert insight into sex culture, and written with her trademark humor and charm, The Game of Desire is a must for all of Shan’s fans and for every woman struggling to feel loved and desired.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Shannon Boodram (P)2019 HarperAudio

Hey it’s me...you

Just a review from yourself to say I’m proud of you. I listened to the full thing, again and you really did your thing oxo

I applaud you!

Shannon Boodram. Girl. This book was everything and more! I am a 25yo married female and found this book to be very informative and helpful. No, I did not read this book for tips on how to date, instead it was to support a person who I look up to when it comes to “self help”. In turn, I benefited greatly. My takeaways were that of how to get what I want out of any relationship, be it business or personal friendships. Sometimes we may settle for things that enter our lives but this book taught me many ways of actually knowing myself first in order to go after what I deserve! Why clunk around waiting for your boss to notice you for a promotion?! Instead, put yourself out there, become someone they want more of and can’t be without! How you ask? READ THIS BOOK! All in all this book is a great confidence builder - start with your mind, then control the rest. Thank you, Shan!

The con-woman's guide for dating success.

This audio book lacks the accountability, integrity and honor required to the process of finding meaningful love. I hoped she would have her participants focus on self improvement and expectation management but, she spent about 10% on those subjects and 90% on how to manipulate people to find them desirable.

If you are interested in the book then please read or listen to it knowing that she teaches a systematic approach to dating for women who are struggling with accepting reality. She lacks the fortitude to explain to her participants how to take ownership of their situation and and leaves them believing that ridiculous standards may be rewarded (one story implies desirable professional athletes are romantically achievable by less than admirable women).

Too Specific

I love Shan...but this book was disappointing. I spent my time listening to a science experiment and how it worked for them. I didnt pick this up to hear about her case study, i want to know "The Game of Desire". Let me know the game in a few less words. She talks about flirting and good key points but they are so jumbled up in this case study...I didnt get much from it.
Please write another one, but more like a self help introductional and less like a science book!

just awful

same exact tactics as male pick up artists except for females. and ladies, pick up artist is about getting laid. read "not your mother's rules" if you want effective dating advice for women. I can't believe this book was written by a woman. this is how to be a pick me sexually aggressive woman. I can always tell when someone is using a weird game. she suggests weird little games and negs to trick a guy into being aroused. in my experience guys get aroused by a stiff breeze. God, this book is awful. a lot of fluff to make some money and of course it works, any man who is being pursued by a woman will definitely sleep with her lol... that's no secret. this sounds like a recipe for frustration and perhaps a venereal disease while forgetting to evaluate the guy. just a bunch of pep talk bad advice.

Lovin’ it

Only on the second chapter but it’s so enjoyable to listen to while I do my morning runs. Kind of like I got a bestie just talking to me, so relatable, humorous and insightful.

Decent. Needs more science

A lot of anecdotes and def not scientific enough. If your looking for light dating help it can be good. Otherwise it’s more for entertainment

Read this boooook!

Amazing book, I'm about to re-read it in order to write down the advice given.

This book couldn't have been any better!

I initially downloaded this book only because I support Shan and absolutely believe in all of her work. I didn't think I would benefit from this book because its centered towards assisting the single community but I was wayyyy wrong. All the while hearing the audiobook, I couldn't help but to think of how many of my close single friends (who struggle in the dating scene) could benefit from this book AND it did actually give me perspective and self realization to make me a better me (AKA how self awareness and thinking things thoroughly can make relationships stronger). It's hard to explain but the only advice I can give is to read this book! I absolutely loved all of Shan's direction, tips, and the volunteers (Maya, Deshawn, Priscilla, Courtney and Stephanie) were a perfect mix of people that I believe many will be able to relate to.

How can a woman in a relationship use this tips

I love Shan and watch her videos but most of the time they are wired towards single women and this book although I knew it would I listen to because I wanted to see how I could use this in my relationship to keep things sexy and fun and keep the flame alive but I had a hard time since I already have the guy Shan would you please create something for women in long term serious relationships! Pretty please and thank you!!

Waste of time and money

If you are more into sticking your nose into others business than learning, this is a book for you. It’s focused on a journey of 5 women rather than case study or statistic research based on facts and tips that could be apply to all walks of life. And if you are already a researcher in the field of healing trauma, growing and becoming and already have studied Robert Green, G.L Lambert, and more sociologist, then this is a summary book. Didn’t like the authors aggressive tone and repeatedly through out the book hearing referral to “yin and yang”. Complete waste of time and money.

luv dis

I love how this book was focused on self discovery and acceptance. It opened my eyes to the root cause of my issues which was not loving myself . After finishing this book i feel like a changed person and I am ready to use these skills to better my self and future choices. Thank you shan for sharing this beautiful piece of work .I hope you all the best ❤

Shan Boody I Will Always Love You

loved the concept, the highlight of self love that it gives you and the practical applications (although aimed at women) are a stark reminder to have self confidence in 2020 dating.

What a book!!

This book was recommended to me by a friend and I absolutely loved it. I never understood why I was always overlooked and somebody else was chosen... Well that was the story in my head.
It's wonderful and refreshing to listen to a story about real women and learn how to get the love I deserve. Thank you so much

I loved this book!

Fun, interesting, intriguing and uplifting! I don't necessarily agree with everything, especially the part about eye contact (I am autistic, lol) - but I loved this book! I loved the stories, the facts, the science, the people... Of course, I love Shannon and I feel like I can learn a lot from her and her amazing abilities to connect with people!
I am married, and didn't really buy this book to learn how to date. Dating is going great for me, lol. Yet I actually feel like I learnt some things that can help me make friends, which is something I've struggled with since childhood. So I'll say, even though every part of the book isn't for everyone, I'd go so far as to claim there is certainly something in here for everyone.
Thank you, Shan! Keep up the good work, this one is a 10/10 for me!

Meaningful read

I loved this book, Shan gives you an easy to follow guide to introspection and plenty of science-backed information and tips on everything else. These are ‘taught’ through telling the story of her real life case study with several women and their dating (and life) journeys.
Definitely a must read, and you MUST follow it up with the workbook on her website. I’ve shared it with family and friends and everyone has had ‘aha’ moments about themselves, even people who’ve been happily married for 30 years. It is especially useful for pinpointing and identifying things about yourself you perhaps just had a vague feeling about before. My core takeaway from the book is that once you have these realisations, only then do you know what you’re looking for and how to articulate what you want, or even just be able to explain yourself clearly to others.
A big fan of Shan and now Jared’s podcast too as a result of this book!

Easy listen

Some good point made, easy to follow. Makes you feel ready to make positive changes.

good story but

the story is enjoyable but I didn’t find useful advice or huge breakthroughs in relation to my situation and character

Insightful and delightful

I am a big fan of Shans so I feel honoured to read these experiences

Everything you need

i absolutely loved this audiobook. i need to get the hard copy to have in my house. I really enjoyed the journeys each person took and I loved all the tips and trick to try. Now i just need to do the work for myself.