The Game of Desire

5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance - and Getting What You Want
Narrated by: Shannon Boodram
Length: 7 hrs and 50 mins
4.8 out of 5 stars (1,027 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Women: gain control and confidence in your love lives and find the relationship you want with this modern, life-changing guide from the certified sex educator, intimacy expert, and YouTube personality.

For younger generations, dating is a complicated mystery. Apps like Tinder and Bumble are supposed to foster connection but instead serve as a reminder of how painfully single we are. 

Certified sexologist and intimacy coach Shan Boodram - the most sought-after sex educator on the internet - is about to change all that. In this essential how-to guide, she addresses the realities of life today - when the rules of love and attraction are fluid - and teaches a group of young women how to become master daters in just 60 days.

It starts with you. Shan makes clear that love and self-discovery go hand in hand - your dating life is just as much about you as it is about other people. She challenges you to look inside yourself for what you want out of a partner, a relationship, and, most important, yourself. Once you figure out what you want from dating, she shows you exactly how to get it. The Game of Desire empowers you to take the lead, learn your strengths, and identify and correct your weaknesses, all the while getting inspired watching a group of women learn how to succeed in today’s dating pool.

While many books tell women why they can’t get a date, Shan teaches you the skills and techniques necessary to take charge in today’s competitive and often confusing dating scene, providing the tools essential to attract - and retain - the partner(s) you want. From learning love languages to debunking dating myths, she helps women build knowledge and confidence. 

Featuring conversational case studies, comprehensive facts about the psychology of sex and romance, and expert insight into sex culture, and written with her trademark humor and charm, The Game of Desire is a must for all of Shan’s fans and for every woman struggling to feel loved and desired.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Shannon Boodram (P)2019 HarperAudio

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Hey it’s me...you

Just a review from yourself to say I’m proud of you. I listened to the full thing, again and you really did your thing oxo

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I applaud you!

Shannon Boodram. Girl. This book was everything and more! I am a 25yo married female and found this book to be very informative and helpful. No, I did not read this book for tips on how to date, instead it was to support a person who I look up to when it comes to “self help”. In turn, I benefited greatly. My takeaways were that of how to get what I want out of any relationship, be it business or personal friendships. Sometimes we may settle for things that enter our lives but this book taught me many ways of actually knowing myself first in order to go after what I deserve! Why clunk around waiting for your boss to notice you for a promotion?! Instead, put yourself out there, become someone they want more of and can’t be without! How you ask? READ THIS BOOK! All in all this book is a great confidence builder - start with your mind, then control the rest. Thank you, Shan!

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  • JN
  • 04-08-20

Too Specific

I love Shan...but this book was disappointing. I spent my time listening to a science experiment and how it worked for them. I didnt pick this up to hear about her case study, i want to know "The Game of Desire". Let me know the game in a few less words. She talks about flirting and good key points but they are so jumbled up in this case study...I didnt get much from it. Please write another one, but more like a self help introductional and less like a science book!

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Lovin’ it

Only on the second chapter but it’s so enjoyable to listen to while I do my morning runs. Kind of like I got a bestie just talking to me, so relatable, humorous and insightful.

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The con-woman's guide for dating success.

This audio book lacks the accountability, integrity and honor required to the process of finding meaningful love. I hoped she would have her participants focus on self improvement and expectation management but, she spent about 10% on those subjects and 90% on how to manipulate people to find them desirable. If you are interested in the book then please read or listen to it knowing that she teaches a systematic approach to dating for women who are struggling with accepting reality. She lacks the fortitude to explain to her participants how to take ownership of their situation and and leaves them believing that ridiculous standards may be rewarded (one story implies desirable professional athletes are romantically achievable by less than admirable women).

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Decent. Needs more science

A lot of anecdotes and def not scientific enough. If your looking for light dating help it can be good. Otherwise it’s more for entertainment

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Read this boooook!

Amazing book, I'm about to re-read it in order to write down the advice given.

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This book couldn't have been any better!

I initially downloaded this book only because I support Shan and absolutely believe in all of her work. I didn't think I would benefit from this book because its centered towards assisting the single community but I was wayyyy wrong. All the while hearing the audiobook, I couldn't help but to think of how many of my close single friends (who struggle in the dating scene) could benefit from this book AND it did actually give me perspective and self realization to make me a better me (AKA how self awareness and thinking things thoroughly can make relationships stronger). It's hard to explain but the only advice I can give is to read this book! I absolutely loved all of Shan's direction, tips, and the volunteers (Maya, Deshawn, Priscilla, Courtney and Stephanie) were a perfect mix of people that I believe many will be able to relate to.

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Life Changing

This was the most amazing book I have ever read in my life. It is one that I know I will read over and over again. I am so thankful that Shan Boodram decided to write this book.

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Finally applicable advice for modern day dating!

Shan Boodram did an awesome job articulating dating strategies that anyone can use. This book stands apart from the rest because the author didn’t just state dating facts and research studies, she used real people to test these theories in real social settings. Following each participants’ journey through the program and hearing about their struggles, failures, and successes made the book so relatable. I honestly cannot wait to go out and try out some of the techniques. I would recommend this book to anyone in the dating world looking to make meaningful connections!

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  • Nasteha
  • 08-04-19

luv dis

I love how this book was focused on self discovery and acceptance. It opened my eyes to the root cause of my issues which was not loving myself . After finishing this book i feel like a changed person and I am ready to use these skills to better my self and future choices. Thank you shan for sharing this beautiful piece of work .I hope you all the best ❤

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  • katarzyna
  • 04-28-20

Waste of time and money

If you are more into sticking your nose into others business than learning, this is a book for you. It’s focused on a journey of 5 women rather than case study or statistic research based on facts and tips that could be apply to all walks of life. And if you are already a researcher in the field of healing trauma, growing and becoming and already have studied Robert Green, G.L Lambert, and more sociologist, then this is a summary book. Didn’t like the authors aggressive tone and repeatedly through out the book hearing referral to “yin and yang”. Complete waste of time and money.

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  • Francesca
  • 09-17-20

good story but

the story is enjoyable but I didn’t find useful advice or huge breakthroughs in relation to my situation and character

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-19-20

Shan Boody I Will Always Love You

loved the concept, the highlight of self love that it gives you and the practical applications (although aimed at women) are a stark reminder to have self confidence in 2020 dating.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-04-20

Insightful and delightful

I am a big fan of Shans so I feel honoured to read these experiences

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  • noma
  • 01-01-20

Everything you need

i absolutely loved this audiobook. i need to get the hard copy to have in my house. I really enjoyed the journeys each person took and I loved all the tips and trick to try. Now i just need to do the work for myself.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-05-19

Thank you Shan!

The flow and the stories kept me hooked every single free minute I had. I think I'm now off to listen to it again - with long pauses - to do all the activities :)

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-31-19

So good imma buy twice

I’m in a 6 year relationship and when I tell you this has got me feeling so confident within my relationship and just I’m general. This has helped me with job interviews and public speaking and just plain putting myself out there. I’m naturally an anxious homebody and I’ve just moved cities so naturally some of these things don’t come easy to me but I relate so much to Pricilla, being a young mum myself (also and infp) and found tangible stages of growth to align with in her story. Well done Shan 👑👑👑

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  • R N.
  • 10-15-19

Absolutely Love! - Educational Fun & Life Changing

Amazing insights and techniques to understand yourself AND communicate with potential playmates! 😍 Describing details of the lovely ladies in the book was a great addition; Made it so much easier to understand the advice and was very encouraging to see others honest reactions to the program. 😌 Shan, this is an amazing project and thank you so much for creating this. 🙏🏼💕😘 (Can't wait to re read it and take notes! 😊)

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  • miss l otoo
  • 08-12-19

What a book!!

This book was recommended to me by a friend and I absolutely loved it. I never understood why I was always overlooked and somebody else was chosen... Well that was the story in my head. It's wonderful and refreshing to listen to a story about real women and learn how to get the love I deserve. Thank you so much

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-21-20

READ IT

Bring a notebook! This book inspired me to do the work and put myself out there. I am shy and introverted with low self esteem and this books provides the tools to do the work and level up to find and be a worthwhile partner.