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To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.
Featured on Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael, this definitive look at the dynamics of male-female communication gets to the heart of the all-too-common phenomenon: women who are ready and willing to commit, and men who back off just as the relationship moves toward the next level. This book can help you recognize early warning signs of the commitmentphobic man and avoid unnecessary stress and heartache.
There's no doubt about it, breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there's one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him.
You're trying to get over your ex, yet you're still in touch and have ended up being his or her backup plan. Maybe you haven't left yet, but you want to and just don't know how. Maybe you're tired of doing the lather, rinse, repeat of getting back together and winding up back at square one. It's time to cut contact. The No Contact Rule is an inspiring guide to extinguishing the temptation to stay in touch or to keep engaging, helping you to reclaim your sense of self and move on to a healthier relationship.
Are you the Fallback Girl? If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that feels and seemingly looks like one, but you're struggling with commitment, or you've been in the ambiguous territory of a "casual relationship", you've likely tried to change them, wondered what you did to cause this, what you can do to win their love and commitment, or even whether you're going crazy.
Is having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest, and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood.
To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.
Featured on Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael, this definitive look at the dynamics of male-female communication gets to the heart of the all-too-common phenomenon: women who are ready and willing to commit, and men who back off just as the relationship moves toward the next level. This book can help you recognize early warning signs of the commitmentphobic man and avoid unnecessary stress and heartache.
There's no doubt about it, breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there's one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him.
You're trying to get over your ex, yet you're still in touch and have ended up being his or her backup plan. Maybe you haven't left yet, but you want to and just don't know how. Maybe you're tired of doing the lather, rinse, repeat of getting back together and winding up back at square one. It's time to cut contact. The No Contact Rule is an inspiring guide to extinguishing the temptation to stay in touch or to keep engaging, helping you to reclaim your sense of self and move on to a healthier relationship.
Are you the Fallback Girl? If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that feels and seemingly looks like one, but you're struggling with commitment, or you've been in the ambiguous territory of a "casual relationship", you've likely tried to change them, wondered what you did to cause this, what you can do to win their love and commitment, or even whether you're going crazy.
Is having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest, and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood.
Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.
In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward, with or without their partners.
It’s over - and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out. Getting Past Your Breakup is a proven road map for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce.
A fun and funny guide to dating from the New York Times best-selling authors of It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken and He's Just Not That Into You. Why does dating have to be so hard? It doesn’t! Stop trying to out-game the system and relax. It's Just a Fucking Date presents the tools, not the rules, for bringing back the art of the date. The ordeals of 21st-century dating, from online dating and hooking up to pulling the plug when it isn’t working, will soon be easy to navigate.
In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way - rather than beating yourself up. You'll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialog between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? is a survival manual, a guidebook, and a shot of reality. Some people will never change, and kissing frogs is the stuff of fairy tales, not real life. The Beast never turns out to be a nice guy (or gal). This is a book that breaks down what mean people do to us, how they do it, and what we can do to survive.
People in relationships with avoidants struggle with their lack of responsiveness and inability to tolerate real intimacy. Relationships between an avoidant and a partner of another attachment type are the largest group of unhappy relationships, and people who love their partners and who may have started families and had children with an avoidant will work very hard to try to make their relationships work better, out of love for their partner and children as well as their own happiness.
In this audiobook, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships - and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances.
New York Times best-selling author Kate Anderson brings you her latest book to help those suffering the pain of a separation. Getting Over a Breakup contains 75 easy to follow steps, broken into three sections, to help you get over the pain and anguish of a breakup and to move on with your life.
Most dating books tell you what not to do. Here's a book dedicated to telling you what you can do. In his book, Get the Guy, Matthew Hussey - relationship expert, matchmaker, and star of the reality show Ready for Love - reveals the secrets of the male mind and the fundamentals of dating and mating for a proven, revolutionary approach to help women to find lasting love. Matthew Hussey has coached thousands of high-powered CEOs, showing them how to develop confidence and build relationships.
Most people, if asked, would deny that they'd ever had fantasy relationships, as they are associated with pretending to be with someone or in something that's nonexistent. However, it's time for you to change what you think you know. In this modern age of texts, email, Facebook, online dating, and casual relationships, it's never been so easy to find yourself in a crumb-filled fantasy relationship.
This dating advice for women gives you the blueprint to the male mind so you can get what you want from a man...and not the other way around. Guys get away with tons of stuff and you allow them to. This book will strip men of their power and render them helpless until you have gained what you desire through his actions. And then and only then will we "power him up" again.
Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory": where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today, it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.
Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.
partly out of the sadness I felt wishing I'd heard the audio when I was a teenage girl desperate for the love of a boy to replace the love I couldn't get from my dad. Had I heard this audio then, I bet my love life would have turned out much different and much less painful. I also cried to know that a renowned female had written a book about someone like me...it was comforting and freeing as I cried realizing I was not the only woman making the same mistakes over and over and that there was hope! I stopped and started this audio several times just to write down important points. I highly recommend to any woman who feels like she's spent her life settling for way too little and knows she deserves more! Enjoy!
17 of 17 people found this review helpful
What made the experience of listening to Deal Breakers the most enjoyable?
This book is a must read that I wish I had sooner. It is a real eye opener to intimate relationships of will this work or not. I have been having problems in my marriage and have been deciding for years whether I should stay or not. Deal breakers put the concerns and issues I have about my husband into perspective of what is workable and what isn't. I found through this book if its a personality trait problem the situation most likely won't change. This book has changed how I see my relationship. It showed me how a partner is suppose to be part of a relationship. I have for years been working harder at my marriage than my husband and this book has made it clear, a relationship should not be one person doing most of the work. Deal breakers describes relationship problems in a different most helpful way. I have listened to this book three times already and recommend it to friends, family, and co-workers. Please read the book if you are having relationship problems, you will be surprised!
7 of 7 people found this review helpful
You're with someone who isn't good for you and you keep giving them chances, but they never really improve your relationship or return to being that great person you fell in love with. Your day-to-day or long term relationship looks bleak and you don't know what to do. You do know what to do, but you're scared and 2nd guessing that decision for some reason. If you want help analyzing your decisions to break up & stay with this person and need help going from optimist to realist or even pessimist (because then you'd be living life by the rules not the exceptions and giving bozo the chance to prove you wrong) this book will allow you the chance to do that.
Better than friends and family, this book will allow you ALL THE TIME you need to comb through the details of your messy relationship and it will reinforce your self-confidence and intuition which you certainly need at the moment you're considering reading this book.
It was a not a male bashing book at all as some other reviews have stated. And I'm a girl's girl so I know what male bashing looks like. This book just gives you reassurance that No, It's Not You and details the 5 types of deal breakers. If this were a male bashing book, it would go on to say "and even if it is you, screw him because he's not good enough for you". I got through the 5 types of problematic men, realized my guy was most if not all of them, fell asleep through the rest of the book and woke up knowing my decision to break up with him was the best thing for both of us. And if I needed more time to mull over my decision, I could always replay the book.
The best parts are the "how bad is it?" levels that the author gives you. Just in case you're still thinking about working on it. She tells you the cases where you should work on it and other cases where it's difficult to see this person changing and you should probably get out of dodge. So if he calls back promising to change, you already know if he's a moderate or severe problem.
This book will help you get through the pain and confusion and identify the things that are so hard to see because you're using your heart more than your head.
11 of 12 people found this review helpful
Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?
If you are on the fence about whether to stay or go this book can help you stay more rationally focused on your decision
What other book might you compare Deal Breakers to and why?
Went well with Attached. Attached has a clinical basis which helped deepen my understanding of the psychology. Deal Breakers is good practical girl to girl advice.
Any additional comments?
If and when it's time, listen to this book.
5 of 5 people found this review helpful
This book sure got my attention. I have been procrastinating over a miserable situation for way too long. This book is an eye opener and doesn't make anyone "wrong". The truth will set you free, but it may sting for a while...
4 of 4 people found this review helpful
This book is wonderful and hits the nail on the head. It sounds like she is talking about my dysfunctional relationship and really put things in perspective. A+++
8 of 9 people found this review helpful
What made the experience of listening to Deal Breakers the most enjoyable?
I could personally relate to nearly every scenario. I could easily understand how my life would have been different or my time wouldn't have been wasted.
3 of 3 people found this review helpful
Where does Deal Breakers rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?
I enjoyed this audio book very much. The narrator has a nice voice.
What was one of the most memorable moments of Deal Breakers?
I learned more about unhealthy men listening to this audio book than I could ever imagine.
Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?
I was able to relate and learn. This audio book helped me take a step back and take a different point of view of the my slowly ending relationship and FINALLY understand what is going on.
Any additional comments?
I think I want to purchase this book and give it to every woman that I know!!!!
3 of 3 people found this review helpful
if you are looking at this title/book, than perhaps the "something isn't right" feeling is within you. Oh my, this book nailed me, my attractions to Mr Do No Wrong, and Mr Man In Charge, also how I have treated some of the people in my life like a Miss Woman Do No Wrong. I have had trouble in the trying harder, collapse with in, believing "him", why would he lie?? This is a very healing, telling book. The author also has an easy voice to listen to. I have listened about 5 times now.
10 of 12 people found this review helpful
Overall, a great book. I'd recommend it to any girlfriend wanting to weed out the wrong guys early-on in the dating process and find the right man for her. I got a lot out of listening to this audiobook. However, it's a tad depressive. Maybe listen to this while washing dishes or cleaning up around your home--that way your brain can be disengaged and DETACHED from hearing the depressing but helpful information. Ultimately though, the people we end up with are those who make us feel good about ourselves, and they feel good about themselves when they're with us. I found it interesting that the author didn't say much on following one's intuition regarding relationships...it can be an invaluable tool for insight if you allow yourself to access your own inner knowledge.
9 of 11 people found this review helpful
I found this one good, but it disturbed me to the point I found it upsetting to read which is why i give only 4 stars. It makes you feel like "oh my god...it's a deal breaker then...Oh no..i've got to finish it then.."..good info to know, but maybe you could end up diagnosing your BF into a catergory a little harshley if you are going through a bad patch and he displays certain negative attributes, you could nail his coffin well and truley shut with this no nonsense book so approach with caution.
8 of 9 people found this review helpful