Deal Breakers

When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away

By: Dr. Bethany Marshall

Narrated by: Renée Raudman

Length: 5 hrs and 16 mins

Publisher's summary

This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you ask, "Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault". Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?

Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory": where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today, it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.

Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.

©2007 Dr. Bethany Marshall (P)2007 Tantor Media Inc.

straight-forward & informative

Overall, a great book. I'd recommend it to any girlfriend wanting to weed out the wrong guys early-on in the dating process and find the right man for her. I got a lot out of listening to this audiobook. However, it's a tad depressive. Maybe listen to this while washing dishes or cleaning up around your home--that way your brain can be disengaged and DETACHED from hearing the depressing but helpful information. Ultimately though, the people we end up with are those who make us feel good about ourselves, and they feel good about themselves when they're with us. I found it interesting that the author didn't say much on following one's intuition regarding relationships...it can be an invaluable tool for insight if you allow yourself to access your own inner knowledge.

I Now Understand What a REAL Deal Breaker Is

What made the experience of listening to Deal Breakers the most enjoyable?

I could personally relate to nearly every scenario. I could easily understand how my life would have been different or my time wouldn't have been wasted.

What every woman should know!

This helped me understand what was bothering me in my previous relationship and I feel that it will help me make better choices. I would recommend it to all women.

love it...

This audio is great for those of you that stuggle with the break ups of one that has mis-treated you. We all deserve to be treated with respect and this will enforce why you left your spouse and why you should stay away. I love this one...

I Cried Thru The First Thirty Minutes...

partly out of the sadness I felt wishing I'd heard the audio when I was a teenage girl desperate for the love of a boy to replace the love I couldn't get from my dad. Had I heard this audio then, I bet my love life would have turned out much different and much less painful. I also cried to know that a renowned female had written a book about someone like me...it was comforting and freeing as I cried realizing I was not the only woman making the same mistakes over and over and that there was hope! I stopped and started this audio several times just to write down important points. I highly recommend to any woman who feels like she's spent her life settling for way too little and knows she deserves more! Enjoy!

Fantastic

This book is wonderful and hits the nail on the head. It sounds like she is talking about my dysfunctional relationship and really put things in perspective. A+++

If you are ready to hear the truth, read this!

This book sure got my attention. I have been procrastinating over a miserable situation for way too long. This book is an eye opener and doesn't make anyone "wrong". The truth will set you free, but it may sting for a while...

When you need affirmation

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

If you are on the fence about whether to stay or go this book can help you stay more rationally focused on your decision

What other book might you compare Deal Breakers to and why?

Went well with Attached. Attached has a clinical basis which helped deepen my understanding of the psychology. Deal Breakers is good practical girl to girl advice.

Any additional comments?

If and when it's time, listen to this book.

Very Helpful book

What did you love best about Deal Breakers?

There were a lot of scenarios in this book that rang true to what I am currently going through and have gone through in the past

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Deal Breakers?

I will pay more attention to red flags that I see in situations rather than overlook them for the way I feel in the moment.

Eye opening

This book contains pertinent information about personality types that are directly effecting the health of your dating relationships. It's easy to substitute her in place of him for the men interested in improving their relationships as well.
I like the fact that she did not necessarily say "just dump him," but gives you solutions to resolve the issue at hand in other to decide if it's an actual deal breaker or just bad habit that with time or work can be overcame.

Well written and I was able to apply it to my own turbulent relationship and save myself 125 an hour for in person counseling. It's like having a psychologist as a girlfriend giving you the advice you already know but don't want to admit.