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This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you ask, "Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault". Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?

Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory": where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today, it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.

Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.

©2007 Dr. Bethany Marshall; (P)2007 Tantor Media Inc.

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I listened then bought the Kindle version

Would you consider the audio edition of Deal Breakers to be better than the print version?

I am an avid listener and have been so since the days of Books-on-Tape. This is the first book that I have listened to then immediately downloaded the Kindle version so that I could go back and reference some of the parts that I wanted to study more closely. I did enjoy the interview with the author after the book so that is a bonus over the print version.

What did you like best about this story?

I am in the throes of a breakup now and found this helpful. I downloaded the print so that now I can have a copy to look at once I start dating again. I think this book would be helpful to anyone dating or even thinking about dating.

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Great for determining what are your deal breakers

Is there anything you would change about this book?

I would also focus on the other side of things, what women do wrong as well. This book comes across as very biased towards women being right and men being wrong. Even myself, as a woman, knows that there are 2 sides.

Would you recommend Deal Breakers to your friends? Why or why not?

I would because it discusses how you know things are deal breakers for you, how to spot them easily and how to be ok with breaking it off with the person who is breaking the deal. It also talks about how to know if it is worth working on.

What three words best describe Renée Raudman’s voice?

Fine, nondescript, nothing stood out good or bad

Do you think Deal Breakers needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

Yes, from the man's side

Any additional comments?

The author does clarify at the end in an interview that she has met many men who were more the victims in their relationships and the women were the bullies, but that she just wanted to primarily focus on the one side.

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  • Cynthia
  • Fort Mill S.C. United States
  • 04-01-13

Excellent Book For Relationships

Would you listen to Deal Breakers again? Why?

Yes, I need to refresh every now and again about relationships status'

What did you like best about this story?

It helped me to identify the situation I was in and make the decision to face the fact that my boyfriend was NOT the one for me.....

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If you already know it's no go

I found this book too general and metaphoric to be helpful. Many of the stories offered as examples seem overly obvious. And the tone of the reading sounds too informal to build trust or confidence. It is also targeted specifically to women. And it seems to be aimed at those who are looking for a justification to leave their relationship. I only made it through a couple of chapters before I stopped. I will be returning this book. I would recommend "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" as a more helpful book if you are ambivalent about your relationship and need help deciding.

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  • Korena
  • MORGANTOWN, WV, United States
  • 02-11-13

Very Helpful book

What did you love best about Deal Breakers?

There were a lot of scenarios in this book that rang true to what I am currently going through and have gone through in the past

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Deal Breakers?

I will pay more attention to red flags that I see in situations rather than overlook them for the way I feel in the moment.

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  • Sarah
  • Alice Springs, Australia
  • 04-10-12

What an amazing book!!!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

This book has been amazing and would recommend to people who are in a relationship or for those looking to get into one.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Deal Breakers?

The most memorable moment of this book was working out what type of person I am with. It was like a light bulb moment for me. I now have the information and the tools to better understand my partner and why we act and re-act the way we do but most importantly I know now how I can help myself.

What about Renée Raudman’s performance did you like?

I very much enjoyed the readers voice she was clear and did not have a mono tone voice that felt like your teeth were being pulled.

Any additional comments?

For those of you who have daughters and are concerned of some of the choices they are making or have made with choosing partners or the relationship is up and down this is the book for you. Great book. Thank you.

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  • Gail
  • jackson, NJ, United States
  • 01-09-12

Well Done!

Would you listen to Deal Breakers again? Why?

Good content, especially if you're in a situation where you're considering ending or starting a relationship.

Who was your favorite character and why?

none

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

yes

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  • Alisha
  • Cincinnati, OH, United States
  • 11-02-11

Great Eye-Opener!

I found this book to be very helpful and insightful. It is a must-read for anyone, male or female, straddling the fence trying to decide to whether to stay or leave a relationship. The book is written more for a female audience but if the "he's" are replaced with "she's" the book can work for a male audience as well. I did not find that the book was male bashing at all as some readers have suggested.

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Clarity can be Yours!!

This by far is the Best material I have came across to date to explain why some relationships are so confusing, hurtful and just don't make sense. A must for anyone in a relationship that's got you spinning. Not only does this explain what is really going on, why it is going on but it gives very clear examples of how to deal with it and how to make good healthy choices for yourself. After listening to this the veil of illusion will be lifted so that you can see more clearly what is really going on in your relationship. Bravo - no need to read between the lines with this one.

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  • Lana
  • Zagreb, Croatia
  • 07-04-11

What every woman should know!

This helped me understand what was bothering me in my previous relationship and I feel that it will help me make better choices. I would recommend it to all women.