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It takes two individuals to become one flesh. Only when you and your mate know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries in Marriage gives you the tools you need. Drs. Cloud and Townsend, counselors and authors of the best selling Boundaries, share with you:
  • Why boundaries are vital for a thriving relationship
  • How values form the structure of marriage
  • How to protect your marriage from intruders
  • Why and how each partner needs to establish personal boundaries
  • How to work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries - and how to work with one who doesn't
    Drs. Cloud and Townsend help you understand the friction points and even the serious hurts in your marriage - and move beyond them to mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy.
  • ©2000 by Henry Could and John Townsend; (P)2000 by the Zondervan Corporation

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    Very helpful

    This book is a great resource for married couples. There was so much to digest I had to listen twice. The authors do a great job presenting the material, if your looking to improve your marriage this book will help.

    21 of 21 people found this review helpful

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    Powerful Tool

    I purchased this book to learn and grow and that I did! I learned areas that I was contributing to making my marriage weak, and learned where I can improve, grow and change immediately. I have personally grown with every Cloud/Townsend book. I also enjoyed the narrator, he told the story well, but I do prefer Cloud/Townsend themselves to read, I still enjoyed this one very much! Get it and make a difference in your own marriage, if not to save it, STRENGTHEN it! God Bless You on your journey!

    14 of 14 people found this review helpful

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    Great

    This book helped transform my marriage. My wife and I are happy for the first time in years.

    12 of 12 people found this review helpful

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    • Sheral
    • Ripley, OH, USA
    • 09-17-09

    Amazing Insight for Troubled Marriages

    We were having trouble because both my husband and I have issues from our childhood that we had not resolved. This book helped us to reach a new level in our marriage.

    7 of 7 people found this review helpful

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    • JBM
    • Puget Sound, WA USA
    • 12-10-12

    Boundaries *ARE* scriptural - ignore noisemakers

    I cannot believe the people who claim that this book and the concepts it teaches are somehow an abomination and contrary to scripture. I am simply going to quote from this book as the authors are very clear in addressing such attacks.

    "There's a lot of misunderstanding about boundaries. Some people are against boundaries because they see them as selfish. Other people actually use them to be selfish. Both are wrong. Boundaries are basically about self-control.Boundaries are not something you set on another person. Boundaries are something you set on yourself."

    Self control *IS* very scriptural. In fact it is one of the fruits of the spirit that are explicitly referenced in Galatians 5:22-23. and as Apostle Paul says "against such things there is no law." The only people who object to the boundaries being used in marriage as Cloud and Townsend teach them are likely manipulative controlling spouses who want to continue to play their power games and don't like anything that deters their ability t manipulate and control their spouses.

    22 of 25 people found this review helpful

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    Excellent!

    I only wish I had this book years ago. It would have saved a lot of heartache.

    21 of 24 people found this review helpful

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    Good info; horrible voice inflections

    If nothing more, this books serves as a great reminder to take self-accountability for your role in a relationship. I picked up a few new ideas. I appreciated the nexus to Christian spirituality.

    Personally, I find it repulsive when the reader changes the inflection in his/her voice when quoting a character. It drives me nuts. Just read the book. Stop trying to entertain me with unnecessary drama.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful

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    Great material, Valuable insight, weird narrator

    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    I would highly recommend the book but not the audiobook. The book offers a lot of wisdom and gives case examples to illustrate points. The strangeness of the narration is too distracting and detracts from the book.

    Who was your favorite character and why?

    non-fiction- no characters

    What didn’t you like about Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend ’s performance?

    Contrary to what is listed the narrator is not either of the authors- it's someone else- I believe the same person who narrates the other boundaries books. This is a self-help book not a dramatic novel. There's no need for the narrator to try and "make things more interesting" by reading so dramatically and making each person in each case example sound like they are ready to jump off a bridge. No one talks that way. It makes it hard to take it seriously. He also gives everyone this weird accent- it's almost like a long island accent but not quite. It's distracting and I would suggest reading this as opposed to listening to it.

    What did you learn from Boundaries in Marriage that you would use in your daily life?

    That a good marriage and good boundaries start with having good character and good boundaries with yourself.

    Any additional comments?

    Wonderful book. Weird narrator.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful

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    So helpful.

    Highly recommended for anyone; single, married whether you're have troubles or want to avoid them, or divorced. Lots of great information. Listening for the second time to absorb it all.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful

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    Great book!

    I highly recommend it for anyone in a relationship. This book has helped me view my marriage in a different way.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful

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    • Filippo
    • 12-07-17

    Another Marvellous Book About Boundaries.

    I like Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. They know exactly what they are writing about in regards to boundaries. If you are married I encourage you to buy and to listen to this audiobook. If you are single then I still encourage you to buy this audiobook and listen to it. It will give you some ideas of what couples go through in marriages, should you decide that at some point you want to get married. ;}

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    • jvm
    • 08-02-16

    Ok book

    Is there anything you would change about this book?

    The principles of this book could be good, but unless you follow the Christian faith you may not be able to follow it all. Also the book talks a lot about women being house wives and men struggling with long working hours so a little sexist

    Who might you have cast as narrator instead of Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend ?

    It was well read

    Any additional comments?

    If you can pull out their principles they could be very useful in a relationship

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    • Mel
    • 12-03-16

    Every married person should read this

    Best marriage advice book I've ever read/heard - only regret is not reading it at the start of (or before) my marriage!