The Good News About Bad Behavior

By: Katherine Reynolds Lewis

Narrated by: Katherine Reynolds Lewis

Length: 10 hrs and 17 mins

Publisher's summary

The current model of parental discipline is as outdated as a rotary phone. Why don't our kids do what we want them to do? Parents often take the blame for misbehavior, but this obscures a broader trend: in our modern, highly connected age, children have less self-control than ever. About half of the current generation of children will develop a mood or behavioral disorder or a substance addiction by age 18.

Contemporary kids need to learn independence and responsibility, yet our old ideas of punishments and rewards are preventing this from happening. To stem this growing crisis of self-regulation, journalist and parenting expert Katherine Reynolds Lewis articulates what she calls The Apprenticeship Model, a new theory of discipline that centers on learning the art of self-control. Blending new scientific research and powerful individual stories of change, Lewis shows that, if we trust our children to face consequences, they will learn to adapt and moderate their own behavior. She watches as chaotic homes become peaceful, bewildered teachers see progress, and her own family grows and evolves in light of these new ideas.

You'll recognize your own family in Lewis's sensitive, realistic stories, and you'll find a path to making everyone in your home more capable, kinder, and happier - including yourself.

©2018 Katherine Reynolds Lewis (P)2018 Hachette Audio

Critic reviews

"Katherine Reynolds Lewis, armed with the latest behavioral science research and her eye-opening journalistic inquiry, introduces a new discipline model.... An absolute must-[listen] for anyone raising or teaching 'difficult' children, and insightful to anyone eager to teach kids how to regulate their own behavior and ultimately thrive in society on their own." (Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times best-selling author of How to Raise an Adult and Real American)

"With a parent's compassion and a journalist's rigor, she offers advice from the trenches while providing a realistic roadmap towards a better family life. Blending solid science and highly [listenable] storytelling, The Good News About Bad Behavior is sure to become a parent must-[listen]." (Judith Warner, New York Times best-selling author of Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety and We've Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication)

"If you hate disciplining your kids with time-outs and punishments, you're in for a treat. Instead of trying to control children, this timely book shows how you can teach them to control themselves." (Adam Grant, New York Times best-selling author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B [with Sheryl Sandberg])

Only disliked modeling chapter, love it.

Don't belive in yoga and mediation for self discory, but otherwise great. Loved it alot.

Useful

This Audiobook gave me the tools to have some lasting change with my son, some histories were a little bit extended but the core of the information was very useful

fantastic synthesis of an emerging style

the apprenticeship model described is a brilliant bridge between a group of philosophically similar parenting techniques.
the reading could benefit from having more pronounced chapter demarcations.
I'm looking forward to doing deeper with the cited references.

Amazing

I really liked understanding how I have been raised and I can change my behavior. It gave me great parenting skills to work with my 10 year old daughter. I really enjoyed it!

Great tools

Great book to give you tools for challenging behaviors. Looking forward to learning more and im glad i found this resource.

Wonderful book and reading performance by Katherine Reynolds Lewis!

Katherine Reynolds Lewis has written and read an absolute masterwork here. It’s very entertaining, too.

If you listen to only one book on the topic and are interested in developing loving and respectful relationships with your children (and who isn’t?), this is the book for you. It is extremely helpful on a practical basis, while also explaining the latest research on the topic. You owe it to yourself and your family to listen to this book!

Great parenting book

I loved how reverent this book is for parents who are currently raising children. It is not a how to manual but it gives studies, facts, and current information on why you should think about changing your parenting techniques. Many parents don't want to change for many reasons but this book definitely highlights why putting in the effort is important. She also talks about strategies that do work and where to get the step by step support and information you need. Great parenting resource!

Too much fluff

It has some good ideas (Children with more unstructured play time develop better executive ability, more unsupervised play time = better learning ability, expose children to things so they have less fobias later in life, praise undermines kids motivation and risk-taking, rewards erode the child’s interest in the activity, when child gets angry, don’t gat mad, get curious, get them to work in household asap, don’t punish, explain and let them experience pre-agreed consequences, don’t shame them, don’t rescue them from their mistakes, allow children to choose but show them that you also have a choice based on what they choose ) which are lost in the volume of this book. It’s 10 hours and 15 min and it should have been about 1 hour and 15 min. Most of the dialogue can go, also I don’t need to know what everyone is wearing for dinner. I have a feeling that publishers insist and encourage authors to write more just like most colleges do and really it should be the other way around. Get to the point, edit, edit, edit, my time is valuable.