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This New York Times best-selling and award-winning book helps listeners set healthy boundaries in order to be the loving people God created and now offers a whole new chapter.  

Are you in control of your life?  

Christians often focus so much on being loving and giving that they forget their own limits and limitations. Have you ever found yourself wondering: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty when I consider setting boundaries? 

In this Gold Medallion Award-winning book and New York Times best seller, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you biblically based answers to these and other tough questions and show you how to set healthy boundaries with your parents, spouses, children, friends, coworkers, and even yourself. This updated and expanded edition specifically addresses boundaries in the digital age, online dating, single parenting, and the workplace. 

Boundaries are personal property lines that define who you are and who you are not and influence all areas of your life - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. 

Unpacking 10 laws of boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend show you how to bring new health to your relationships. You'll discover firsthand how sound boundaries give you the freedom to walk as the loving, giving, fulfilled individual God created you to be. 

©2008 Henry Cloud (P)2017 Zondervan

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Great Book

I enjoyed this very much. Great content and practical steps to achieve great relationships and a fullfilling life.

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PHENOMENAL!!!!!

TRULY! THIS BOOK IS A MUST READ/LISTEN. I PURCHASED THE HARD COPY BUT HAD TO THEN BUY THE AUDIBLE DUE TO MY HECTIC SCHEDULE. NEVERTHELESS, IT WAS WORTH EVERY PENNY! I THANK GOD FOR TEACHING US HOW TO LOVE OURSELVES AS WE SIMULTANEOUSLY LOVE OTHERS THROUGH HEALTHY BOUNDARIES. THANKS BE TO GOD FOR USING THESE AUTHORS AS VESSELS FOR SHARING HIS WORD! 🙏

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Wonderful but should probably mention religion or the Bible in title

This is a great book. All the information, examples, and strategies related to boundaries was wonderful! I wish I learned this earlier! It’s helped me so much already, and will continue to help me be more responsible and healthier in my relationships, work, home life, and health. Psychologically sound, with lots of insight and practical wisdom. I’m not religious and at first was a little turned off by all the biblical references, but they were presented very well and from a rational and helpful perspective. No shaming, blaming, guilt, or judgment. I enjoyed learning about the Bible from this positive perspective.

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Great start to setting boundaries!

I enjoyed listening as opposed to reading this book. I wish it included resources for support groups or how to find them.

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Life changing

There was nothing in this book that I didn’t like. It has opened my eyes and giving me insight and understanding of why my life is such a mess. I’ve been incorporating boundaries in my life and it is amazing how much better my life is becoming. Still a work in progress but this gives me so much hope for a better life.

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One of the best

God has been taking me on a journey of setting healthy boundaries. I’m glad to have found this book and put words to what I have been experiencing.

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This Book holds the Key to all of our problems

Incredible teaching. Recommended by my therapist. It provides insight into our own lives and the dysfunctions we consciously and subconsciously cause to ourselves hindering us to be and live our best versions of ourselves. Great reading for all, irrespective of religious belief.

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Wow!!

this is probably the most useful book I've ever read. I would highly recommend this book to everyone, even if you don't have any boundary problems

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A blueprint for taking back your own power

I’ve been recommending this book to everyone I talk to. It takes a perfect Biblical approach to healthy relationships and approaches boundaries from a fundamental perspective, building from the ground up. It really puts the power into your own hands instead of making you feel like if you could just be stronger you could do it. It gives definition to those nebulous-seeming scenarios where you just don’t know how you got roped into something, and helps you see how you can change outcomes for the future. It made me feel like I have all the power to make my life what I want it to be, and helped me see how to absolve the feelings of guilt associated with not doing what someone else wants me to do or how they might feel about me as a result. I am beyond thankful this book was recommended to me. The narrator was really the best choice for this book as well. He sounded like a father gently and lovingly talking to his children.

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Gaining control of Personal life

Great book for better understanding Building of interpersonal relationships, Worth many REREADs.
I loved it.