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The spirited child, often called "difficult", can easily overwhelm parents, leaving them feeling frustrated and inadequate. Spirited kids are, in fact, simply more intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent, and uncomfortable with change than the average child. Through vivid examples and a refreshingly positive viewpoint, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka offers parents emotional support and proven strategies for handling their spirited child. She will help you understand your child's, and your own, temperamental traits, discover the power of positive rather than negative labels, cope with tantrums and blowups when they do occur, and develop strategies for handling many situations.

Filled with personal insight and authoritative advice, Raising Your Spirited Child can help make parenting the joy it should be, rather than the trial it can be.

©1991, 1998 Mary Sheedy Kurcinka; (P)1999, 2005 & ©1991, 1999, 2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.

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"This book is a major work on temperament and parenting that should be in every family library." (Nancy Melvin, associate dean for graduate programs and research, Arizona State University College of Nursing)

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  • wayne
  • Mississauga, ON, Canada
  • 12-07-12

Would love to hear the unabridged

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Yes - Anyone who has a kid that is labelled as troublesome, or too high energy.

How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

No, because it's to help me raise my kids, if I was going to change the story I wouldn't be looking for help would I?

What do you think the narrator could have done better?

The narrator is the author reading her own work and does an ok job, considering that many authors who read their own books butcher it.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

Um I'm not going to answer that... There should be two types of review profiles, one for novels and another for self help.

Any additional comments?

WHERE IS THE UNABRIDGED. This book is outstanding, the whole book (which I have skimmed through and found very helpful. However this abridged version skips over many of the key points that need further emphasis. In fact I think onnly about 20% of the original is retained. I would return this and pay more for the unabridged if it ever comes out.

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  • Andria
  • Vancouver, BC, Canada
  • 07-11-06

Refreshing Perspective

The audiobook left me feeling like I wanted her to tell me more...impart a bit more motherly wisdom on me, but alas, I suppose I have to go this road on my own as a parent. I am not normally one to read parent help books - they usually give me negative feelings in some way or another. This one was different. It spoke of ways to look at my child, and help him in his brilliance! One piece of info I found to be VERY helpful was how to allow your introvert/extrovert to 'recharge' and how the parents & teachers can help him do this. Great book.

11 of 13 people found this review helpful

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Overall Insightful and Useful

Fairly insightful. Unfortunately when I purchased this audiobook I didn't realize it was abridged. Good concepts but could use some more fleshing out. Also a bit cheesy... Good overall ideas that I have already started using when thinking about and interacting with my own "spirited" child.

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  • Jonathan
  • Fresno, CA, United States
  • 03-08-15

Best parenting book EVER!

Absolutely wonderful very informative, and very useful information. The information is easy to use and understand. Not a bunch of tiny tips. Overall concept is clear and easy to implement. This book also helps people understand themselves.
This book helps us see what is going on in our childrenand why they do the things they do. Therefore it is much easier to get them to do what we need them to do without a fight. This book would help us all live in harmony.

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Absolutely loved this book!

I bought this book to help me understand my five-year-old. Surprisingly, I was able to understand my husband and other children!

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I finally understand my daughter

Would you listen to Raising Your Spirited Child again? Why?

I have listened to this audio book twice now and will continue to until I can remember every little bit.<br/>This book was referred to me by my daughter's pediatrician and it has really helped me to understand my daughter. I was constantly in a battle with her and now I finally feel like I get it and I get her. My house is so much less tense and she seems so much happier, as am I.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

This book is filled with bits of information to show you how your "challenging" child is just seeing things differently and needing different responses from you. I know some parents do not want to hear that the problems their child is facing is their fault, but I absolutely have seen a difference in my daughter once I accepted her for the way she is and stopped trying to change her to what I thought she should be. Before reading this book I would have seen myself as a push-over but now I see it as just simply choosing my battles with her and sometimes letting her win.

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  • Grisselle
  • Lakeland, FL, United States
  • 07-25-11

Eye opening

This book helped me understand that both my child and I, fit within a group - and that group is amazing. I learned techniques to help my son channel their emotions and turn those generally perceived as "undesirable" traits into power and victory. It was comforting to feel that many parents do understand what we have to go through; and being candid, I know there are many others that have it much harder. The book allows you to feel hopeful and also accompanied through a journey that at times feels unbearable. Above all, we love our children; it is a matter of learning how to encourage them to reach their potential without losing faith -- and this books is a great guide.

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Opened My Eyes to Who My Child Is

Loved it! I will use this audio book to guide me through the years of parenting my spirited child. Thank you Mary for making this audio book, so I actually was able to efficiently multi task and gain the tools needed to help my child blossom!

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Read this sooner!!

I got this book years ago and could never find the time to read it. My daughter is now 11 and we have gone through tons of aggravation and trying times. Listening g to the audio book, I wish that I had listened sooner.

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Excellent tips and suggestions!

The author provides so many great insights to why my child is
May be behaving the way he does. Helping to u sweat and that we cannot change temperament is valuable. Her approach on how to work with the spirited child makes so much sense. I have already applied some of her suggestions and seen a positive change in my relationship with my 4 year old son. Thank you!