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A hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice.

How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the "expert" at changing a diaper?

Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child.

Enter Jancee, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today.

On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation". Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate - and rebuild - your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children.

Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.

©2017 Jancee Dunn (P)2017 Hachette Audio

Critic Reviews

"Jancee Dunn blends marital advice from real experts with her down to earth folksy wit in Hot Not to Hate Husband After Kids. If your husband has a better relationship with his phone than he does with his baby, you need to hit him with this book - and then ask him to read it." (Jen Mann, New York Times best-selling author of People I Want to Punch in the Throat)
"Part memoir, part self-help book, Jancee Dunn's How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids offers relationship research combined with personal anecdotes. Strategies learned from therapists, friends, and even an FBI hostage negotiator help Dunn heal her marriage - and set a good example for her kid." ( Real Simple)
"This book is a very valuable addition to the whole huge transition to becoming parents. This book can help preserve the greatest gift you will ever give your baby: a loving relationship between the baby's parents." (John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work)

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Excellent Book! Title should be changed though...

Where does How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is a great book, very fun to listen to, I laughed out loud!

What was one of the most memorable moments of How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids?

Her therapy session with the scary therapist and getting pointers from the FBI negotiators

What about Jancee Dunn’s performance did you like?

She is funny, light hearted, and tells the truth

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

yes

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YES! It should REalLy be "how not to hate your SPOUSE after kids" - I want my husband to listen to it but it is hard to with the title. However, this book teaches amazing things about conflict resolution in general, as well as how to NOT damage your kids when fighting with your spouse. I seriously think you should consider putting it out with a new title, it is a must read for every married couple... Marriage is hard, and a lot of what is covered in this book is not talked about often enough... it is nice to know we are all in the same boat! I highly recommend this book...

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Loved how the research was made accessible

I loved how this writer incorporated so much research into this book in an accessible and entertaining fashion. I was laughing and writing notes often throughout listening to this. Also, the last chapter was a helpful summary and reminder of everything covered.

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Thank you Jancee! All the wisdom and very funny

Thank you Jancee. All the wisdom and very funny. Good tips and covers everything from romance to money to how to argue respectfully

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So much good info even if married without kids!

She is so funny and so smart to both fix her marriage and get paid for it!! Love this book and every professional she consulted with to help her. I even love the comedians she quotes. Terry Real is the bomb! I love him and Esther too. Well done Jancee!!
I'm on my 3 X listening to this book back to back. It has become the sound track to my life.

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Hit a nerve

This book is for people who want practical tangible ways to make their home life more peaceable, their discussions less stressful and feel more validated and free as a wife and mother.
I've read the 5 Love Languages, Hold Me Tight, done counseling, read Gary Chapman, but the way she hashes out the nitty gritty of everything from daily chores to emotional identity is pure gold. She levels with so many mothers, and in my opinion does so bravely and emerges with her own dignity humbled but intact.
The world doesn't need more vague high minded self help books or distant myriads of psychology studies. Her work in digging into research and professional help for financial planning, organizing, scheduling, sexing, cleaning, cooking, marriage counseling, personal reflection, parenting and yelling yield great pieces of advice. And multiples to choose from at that. Get this for any mother. It will be a balm to her exhausted soul!

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You don't need a husband or kids to appreciate!

You don't need a husband or kids to appreciate the insight shared in this book! Was emailed a link to the Jezebel article about it by my boyfriend and finished it in two days. Definitely recommend for anyone who is building a life with a partner.

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Great book and funny!

I love this book! It was funny and informative and left me with some tips and tricks to try.

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This book is a lifesaver!

This book validated everything we go through as women with husbands that don't put in their fair share of responsabilty. I've been so angry with my husband for expecting me to do everything all the time, but didnt know how to talk to him about it in a constructive way... or a way that would get a possitive response. Whenever i tried to talk to him he would either egnore me or get upset and defensive. So i would try to hold it inside and just "accept", which of course is not healthy. This book is helping me so much. There's so much great doable advice in this book, to help you talk to your man in ways they'll listen and actually get up off tbeir asses amd HELP. Its like she took the best tidbits of advice and tips from a whole bunch of experts, and wrapped it up into this book... saving us from having to read the other books. I took notes on every bit of advice given and have been applying the tips towards my husband and it's already helping a lot. I now feel like i have the tools neceary to communicate with my husband in a way that works!!! I feel more confident in asking for help, and he is more willing to help, and i already feel so much happier and don't feel tons of resentment bogging me down. Of course, the tips she gives take practice, and I'm not an expert yet, but i have the tools and feel confident that the more i practice them, the more natural they'll begin to feel, and our marraige will continue to improve. I'm so thankful for this book. It's just what i needed. She also has a great sense of humor and a got a lot of laughs while listening.

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Loved it! I Might listen to it again! Found info very useful for real life

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Work

I went into this book thinking it would be a funny story to listen to and maybe take a few tips away.
But it did much more than that. It was almost as if it was taking words, examples, and feelings right out of my mouth. Helped me see that many many women feel the exact same ways. I took a lot more than a few tips. It made me look at myself long and hard and admit that I was part of the problem. And that I couldn’t focus all my attention on “fixing” or “changing” my husband if I wasn’t going to change and fix myself. I already feel lighter. Almost like knowing I am not alone and that there is a possibility for improvement took a big weight and big worry away. Recommend anyone in a relationship.