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Boundaries in Dating

By: Henry Cloud,John Townsend
Narrated by: Jonathan Petersen
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Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue healthy dating limits that can lead to a happy marriage.

Dating can be fun, but it's not easy. Meeting people is just the first step. Once you've met someone, then what? Should you move on, pursue a simple friendship, or more? How do you set smart limits on your physical relationship? How much do you get involved financially? And how do you know if you've found your future spouse?

In Boundaries in Dating, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, answer all of these questions and more. Helping you bridge the pitfalls of dating, Drs. Cloud and Townsend share their practical advice for adding healthy boundaries to your dating life.

Boundaries in Dating unfolds a wise, biblical path to developing self-control, freedom, and intimacy. Let Drs. Cloud and Townsend help you get to know yourself, solve problems, and enjoy the journey of dating and finding your life partner.

Full of insightful, real-life examples, this much-needed book will give you the tools you need to:

  • Recognize and choose quality over perfection in a dating partner
  • Prioritize friendship within your relationship
  • Preserve friendships by separating between platonic relationships and romantic interest
  • Move past denial to handle real relational problems in a realistic and hopeful way
  • Enjoy this season of life

Don't forget to check out the Boundaries collection of books and workbooks dedicated to key areas of your life, including dating, marriage, parenting kids, raising teenagers, and leadership.

©2000 Henry Cloud (P)2009 Zondervan

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Packed with good Godly advice

I am a single male age 23, who has never dated before. This book has given me some good healthy God fearing advice, that I think will be helpful to me when I start dating women.
The book is definitely directed towards followers of Jesus, but is still packed with advice that would also seem logical to people of other religions.
I would read this again when I find myself dating, since a lot of the information is a little bit hard to relate to without being able to mirror in your own present dating experience.
One of the best things about the book is that it is so full of real life stories that can explain their concepts practically.
This is a minor thing, but I find some of the references to the bible verses used to reinforce, that their statements are biblical, a bit weak. I believe that their advice is true, wise and rooted in love for God and others, so for me I would rather be without some of the bible references that don't really fit in.
I find the speaker easy to understand and fine to listen to.

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Great advice, weird narrator

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Wise, Godly, down-to-earth advice from a psychotherapeutic perspective.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Boundaries in Dating?

Loved all the personal examples.

How could the performance have been better?

Why did the narrator have to say matoor and imatoor instead of mature and immature? Why? Seems silly but the word is used very frequently throughout the book so it really grates on you after a while.

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Boring

I could not get through the first chapter. I felt like I was listening to an old preacher.

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Eye-opening info

Really good read for singles, but there's good stuff in here too for people with troubled relationships. A must read.

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The first Boundaries book was much more helpful.

The narrator was a little hard for me to listen to on my drive to work. zzzzzZZZZZZ
The original Boundaries book was amazing and super helpful. If you just listen to or read that one, you will not need to hear or read this one. If you only want to read or hear this one it gives good insight into dating with boundaries. I felt like I learned more from the one chapter about dating in the Boundaries book than I did from this whole book. The biggest takeaway I got from this is that dating is not the arena to achieve self love because it is high risk with low commitment. It is better to work on that with friends, family, church and a good support system first. This advice was very valuable for me, but was also addressed in the first book.

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How to be SUCCESSFUL in dating!!!

This book had to be sent to me by God. I had no idea that I would relate to the examples used in this book so much. The advice is good, healthy, doable, practical, biblical based advice on how having correct boundaries can make your dating experiences better and more successful. I wish that I had read this book a long time ago. I am putting this advice into action in my new relationship and we are both reaping the benefits already!

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Book should be called “Dating and God”

This book is heavy in religious aspects. If you aren’t religious stay away from this book or you will want to vomit because it’s so over the top with religious references. It starts off little then in later chapters it’s all about god and how you have to have god in your life.

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Wish I'd read this sooner!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Yes definitely. This is great, practical advice that should be compulsory reading for everyone. It teaches how to set boundaries, not only in dating but in life.

Who was your favorite character and why?

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Which character – as performed by Jonathan Petersen – was your favorite?

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Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

It made me nod in agreement so many times. It also helped me see things very clearly and understand behavior and why relationships failed in the past.

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The book is really well written and the Doctors give so many real life examples to illustrate the learning. I really enjoyed it. I'm going to read all their other books. It offers great Bible based advice, without being judgmental or "preachy". Excellent read!

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I'm trying to learn about healthy dating, not what the Bible and Jesus said. I would like scientific findings and studies. This was not advertised as Christian.

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AWESOME dating guidelines

Would you consider the audio edition of Boundaries in Dating to be better than the print version?

I LOVED this book and wished that I had found it earlier in life, because it probably would have saved me a lot of heartache. I plan to have my daughters read this before they leave for college. My boyfriend and I went through the book together while in the beginning stages of our relationship, and this has been the best relationship thus far for both of us. We have both recommended this book to others that have not had much luck in the dating department, and they too have had nothing but good things to say. Although there were several things that I already knew, just had not been serious about putting into practice I did have several aha moments. This is definitely one that you should check out...you won't be disappointed.

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