• 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage

  • And the Truths That Will Save It and Set It Free
  • By: Greg Smalley, Robert Paul
  • Narrated by: Lyle Blaker
  • Length: 7 hrs and 49 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (68 ratings)

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9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage

By: Greg Smalley,Robert Paul
Narrated by: Lyle Blaker
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Publisher's summary

Lies about marriage are rampant in our culture and the church. They’re killing marriages. But the corresponding truths can strengthen marriages and even save the most troubled relationships. In this audiobook, marriage experts Greg Smalley and Robert Paul identify the lies, explain how they work to destroy marriages, and reveal the truths that not only can improve marriages, but rescue those that are floundering.

Hope Restored, the renowned crisis marriage program created for Focus on the Family, is the basis for the discovery and understanding of these specific lies and their impact. Dr. Greg Smalley, a general marriage expert, and Robert Paul, the therapeutic director of a program that resuscitates nearly dead marriages, bring an unusual but powerful combination of perspectives that restore hope and healing in any marriage.

9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage includes several self-tests to help you assess the extent to which your own marriage has been affected by each of the nine lies.

©2020 Focus on the Family (P)2020 Tyndale House Publishers

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Not new, contradictory and biblically inaccurate

books that child saying that the individual is very important and you must be taken care of and somehow at the end comes up with the saying that you are one and you must look out for one another. as books do that claimed to represent the Bible there are several major theological issues and scriptures that are left out, conveniently supporting or taking away other truth. having read any other books on marriage I am disappointed by this one and the program that it supports.

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Lack of knowledge or an abusive partner?

Our behaviors can cross so many normal lines in a marriage to become an abuser.

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Take care of yourself first, then your spouse

Basically you need to take care of yourself first and then you’ll have enough love to give back to your spouse. This was so refreshing to hear as I was taught to always sacrifice my needs and wants for my marriage and children and was then left with no more love to give. We need to stand up for ourselves and take care of ourselves so we have lots of love ready to give. Make more time for what makes you happy in life again. Set goals! Care for yourself first so you’re ready to care for others. It makes sense!

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Very well written. A must read.

Excellent advice for a God fearing marriage!
Very easy to follow along. Would definitely recommend!

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Wonderful

This book is a powerful tool for any marriage, but especially those who are struggling. I do not appreciate fully how it seems to somewhat demean (in minor ways) the traditonal Biblical roles, instead emphasizing a very modern concept of marriage with two working spouses each with their own careers. Despite this though, overall there is incredible gold here for everyone to benefit from.

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Huge infomercial

They want us to join Focas on the Famiky to help them reach their goal of winning the world to Christ. Way too intellectual for the average American it’s all this 21st century business lingo and philosophy. Kinda weird

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Well worth the time spent

Clarifying and insightful
Easy to follow
Now to put it into practice
Hopefully I can put much into my marriage

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No thanks

Refund please. I should have sampled this first. It blames bad marriages on the devil.

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Fantastic book and eye opening

Loved this book and it’s content. The only thank that seemed odd is at the beginning of the book, the author seems to be defending his denomination, not that he has faith in God.

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Turning point in our marriage!

This book and the Intensive often mentioned were pivotal for my wife and I. While we were not on the brink of anything drastic, the health of our marriage was poor. My wife feeling we had a 4 out of 10 relationship - certainly not thriving.

After reading the book, and attending the Intensive, she now happily says we are a “10 out of 10” couple, and has a closeness to me she hasn’t felt in our 15 years together. I’m smiling as I write this because I feel the same. Our understanding of ourselves is deeper, and our marriage is so much stronger!

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