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The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating

Narrated by: Stu Gray
Length: 4 hrs and 30 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (440 ratings)

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"Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?" - Andy Stanley

Single? Looking for the "right person"? Thinking that if you met the "right person" everything would turn out "right"? Think again.

In The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the 21st century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic. Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation!

"If you don't want a marriage like the majority of marriages," says Stanley, "Then stop dating like the majority of daters!"

Part One: "The Right Person Myth" - 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Part Two: "Gentleman's Club" - 1 Peter 3:7

Part Three: "Designer Sex" - 1 Corinthians 6:18

Part Four: "If I Were You" - Proverbs 14:8

©2015 Zondervan (P)2015 Zondervan

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To those upset the book uses Jesus as a standard

I read the one stars, and they are quite unified. The book is trash the moment you realize it doesn't completely trash Jesus' example and standards for Love. That is the antithesis to logic, reason, Atheism as a whole: to trash something because of the preconceived rather than the learned, reviewed and researched. Is this book going to challenge your pre-existing views, drag in Christian values that you may not think are the standard? Sure. Does the author do it in a respectful, suggestive, religious-free way? Hell yes. If this impeccable attempt at sliding what is agreeable from a belief system into the every day person's life isn't good enough, you're dragging a filter in yourself, rather than an objective view. Here's why your filter needs to be trashed, or put on a shelf for a year: you searched for dating advice books. Your existing data, filters, applications, are not working and you are looking for help. What you've thought was good advice in the past, was in fact not. Your thinker is broken. That's a major theme in this challenge. After applying what some call "common knowledge" from the book, and being more than half way through the one year challenge described at the end of the book, I have to say the results so far are remarkable. It's been the hardest time, and the most fruitful time of my life. I've taken breaks from dating before, but not with the Stanley's viewpoints in mind. I hope people set aside their existing, failing wisdom and take a chance. A one year chance. It's been so remarkable, I don't think I'll date someone who hasn't taken the challenge.

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No-Nonsense Honesty, with a True Biblical Wisdom!

I really appreciated Andy's honesty and his assessment of the different mindsets of men and women and how culture and the world can lead us astray. This book taught me to examine myself and my patterns of behavior and motivated me to exchange bad choices for biblical ones, as it pertains to relationships. I highly recommend this book!

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I wish Andy himself would have narrated the book.

But, Stu did a great job. The book was wonderful and full of great info. It really made me think. Even if u don't think u can commit to the one year plan, it's an amazing learning tool. As a mom, it also gave me some great advice to pass on. Things I wish I was told, and things I wish someone would have told the boys I had dated. And if u don't like it, as Andy wrote himself, there's always ebay lol.

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Every single person should read!

awesome book will read over again
this is a must for anyone who is single newly single or going through a divorce and is interested in entering the dating arena this all makes sense we need to get to know who we are and what we need to change in our lives before we get into a new relationship and it's all based on what the Lord wants for us and I'm sure this can't get any better than that

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Best read ever by all teenagers, adults, youth.

Most memorable book ever. Very relatable for me. The challenge is on since I have been a serial dater.... I really need a break... 2 months down already

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Great Book

While this is a great book, there were some things that I can not and will not adhere to. Knowing that this isn't the Bible allows me to not follow everything the author has said. At the end of the book, I really liked how the author pointed some things out and made me say "ouch" because it related to me so much.

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Uninteresting - not what I expected

Struggled to keep listening. Narrator's voice a bit irritating. sorry to say but I'd prefer to give book back for a credit. please.

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Awful book

No value at all. Waste of money. Worst time and money wasted. I can even see this toxic book.

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Great book

I highly recommend this book to everyone. It is life changing. I really do wish I read this book in my teens or 20s but it is perfect me for right now as well.
Thank you Andy!

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paradigm-shifting

if you change your perspective, you'll change your life. But the DECISION to change is vital.

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  • 02-03-17

Dangerous

I digged into the first few chapters of this book and was amazed it was written by a pastor. The introduction and first chapter made no reference to Christ.

I've never read such a book which I felt so angered by. It's misleading and in many ways, just wrong.

Don't buy this book.