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Publisher's Summary

In this audiobook, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships - and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs. Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps listeners to:

  • Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationships - and why this is a gift
  • Identify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationships
  • Recognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished business
  • Use mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy
©2008 David Richo (P)2014 Audible Inc.

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I found this audible book to be a struggle. I do believe in transference and the role it plays in our lives, some more than others. However, the book jumps all over with a bunch of random Emily Dickinson quotes and out-of-place words and phrases thrown in. I also feel the connections of transference are greatly exaggerated and, in some cases, just plain weird. The narration felt like a pushed whisper the whole time and made the content worse. I do hope others enjoy the book and narration, and find it useful... but for me, I was quite disappointed.

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Ramble fest

This one could have been 1/3 the length and more impactful. Explaining something 12 times in the exact same way. Entire chapters with only a paragraph's worth of real information. The only reason it got 2 stars instead of 1 is I think the concepts have a lot of merit.

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Complicated language

This book is very informative I'm sure but I have a masters degree & it's soooooo hard to follow. I'm not an english or language scholar. It would have been nice if a more simplistic wording was used so that I don't have to focus so hard to understand. I'm not sure i can finish listening to this audio book. Probably will try to find something more easily understood.

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It would have been extremely helpful to have the practice activity per chapter to view or a cheat sheet guide for further development.

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Great description of how our past influences us and our lives in all facets and how difficult it can be if we don't understand these things

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Insightful

don't wait until you start experiencing issues in your relationships. this book should be for ALL COUPLES. it will open doors you didn't know was there. listen carefully

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Narrator ruined the whole piece

Would you consider the audio edition of When the Past Is Present to be better than the print version?

Absolutely not. Too many points can be easily missed in audio format.

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Very informative

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They couldn't have chosen a worse narrator.

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  • Konstantinos
  • 06-20-17

Mind blowing.

Arguably one of the most important books you will ever read especially if you are not familiar with the notion of transference. You might need a second reading of the first chapters though.

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  • Ruth Murtagh
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An excellent book

One of the best books around that explains the unconscious processes that affect our relationships.