Hold Me Tight

Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

By: Dr. Sue Johnson EdD

Narrated by: Helen Keeley

Heralded by the New York Times and Time as the couples therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond.

This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship - from "Recognizing the Demon Dialogue" to "Revisiting a Rocky Moment" - and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations.

Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

©2008 Dr. Sue Johnson, EdD (P)2020 Little, Brown Spark

Some good points

Getting out of a negative cycle is key for being able to productively speak with your spouse. Fascinating that the woman is the demanding aggressor in almost every example… It has definitely given me some tools to help get my wife to relax without actually telling her to “relax.”

My go-to book on relationships for non-monogamy

This book is helpful even if you’re already in a loving healthy relationship. Everyone experiences bumps along the way. I wish I had read this book years ago to smooth those bumps. I recommend this book to my fellow non-monogamous readers too, even though the author is skeptical of CNM (though that never comes up in this book). This book is a must-read for those of us who actively engage in multiple loving and caring relationships. Helping us hear the emotional and relational need of our partners is so key to building healthy trusting relationships, especially when we recognize insecurities as a normal response to relationship dynamics. Thank you Dr. Sue Johnson!

the book i needed

first few chapters i couldn’t get through without crying, but the more i listened the more hope i felt.

Key to marriage! Get after it!

Heard about this book 15 years ago, finally started listening to it on audible on my runs, amazing! I am a therapist that works with couples and will definitely be emphasizing EFT with couples therapy from now on. 😀

What I needed at this time in my life

This is what I needed. Be able to better understand my wife in this current time of my life. Thank you.

Excellent

Excellent reading and content! I love that the reader had an accent just like the author. It made it more believable. This is information every person needs.

Best Book Ever

Sue Johnson has given me the answers to all the love and relationship problems that I have been looking for for many years. I admit that I did not believe that certain relationships were salvageable. Now I am convinced that most relationships can be saved and can be the most enjoyable thing a person can have in this life. Thank you for your work Sue.

The narrator did an amazing job. She sounds like she is talking to you and makes excellent pauses and brings awareness like only a person talking with you in the present could. Great job! My favorite book

Great book

Great book that gives you insights into different perspectives of relationships. Applies to whether you’re in a long term relationship or marriage

Really good

The author does a great job of explaining concepts that can revolutionize your love relationships. Well done!

Good Content If You Need This

Good performance from the reader. It's a long listen to pretty dull materials, but probably very helpful for people who need this.