How to End the Stories That Screw Up Your Life

A Step-by-Step Guide to the Amazing Process of Self-Inquiry

By: Ernest Holm Svendsen

Narrated by: Ernest Holm Svendsen

Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

Let go of your painful stories.

In How to End the Stories That Screw Up Your Life, you learn how to use self-inquiry to transform your thinking and return to the effortless joy of simply being yourself.

Step into your true integrity.

End your stressful thoughts.

Free yourself from your limiting beliefs.

Through easy-to-follow explanations and step-by-step instructions, Ernest Holm Svendsen reveals his vast experience as a trainer and facilitator as he guides you to your own in-depth understanding of one of the most effective ways of working with your mind. Acquire a powerful set of tools to tap into the age-old process of self-examination that has been at the core of every major school of human development in history, and learn how to use a unique form of self-inquiry known as "The Work of Byron Katie" to undo your painful and limiting stories about your past and future, about yourself and others, and about what you can and cannot do.

©2018 Ernest Holm Svendsen (P)2018 Ernest Holm Svendsen

Excellent beginner’s guide to The Work

“How to End the Stories that Screw Up Your Life” is a detailed step by step guide to self inquiry based on The Work of Byron Katie, that provides the beginner with all kinds of useful, interesting and easy to follow information as well as many helpful examples and additional online material. The first part of this book lines out how our brain and inquiry works and can really motivate you to get started with what the author calls “simplest, most accessible and effective of these paths”. I myself have been in inquiry for about 10 years now and can confirm its incredible impact on my life. So far I have not read a book that explains how and why inquiry works in such an easy to understand way, giving many examples and simple fast exercises which enable the reader to experience the author’s statements for themselves.
While the first part of “How to End the Stories that Screw Up Your Life” focusses on background information, the second part teaches in great detail how to use Byron Katie's inquiry method “The Work”. The reader gets all necessary instruction and also important hints on how to avoid pitfalls. With the aid of the additional online material that also includes podcasts on the subject, everybody should be able to dive into what I call “the greatest adventure of your life”.
The author reads the book himself. It is well read and pleasant to listen to the calm an clear voice. I rated the performance with 4 stars only because the slight accent might bother native speakers, although it did not bother me at all.
Summary: If you are looking for a book that will help you to learn how to do self inquiry with The Work of Byron Katie, this is the one you should get - next to Byron Katie’s introduction to The Work “Loving What Is”.

How"inquiry" helps us remember who/what we are!

An excellent book about how "inquiry" helps us remember our true Spiritual Essence.
In this book Ernest Holm Svendsen offers us ways to return to Mental Health; by seeing beyond the made-up stories that at times hold us back.
It will help you see the limits of old maps of reality, and see the potential available beyond our unquestioned belief system!

Even better in the audio version, this Audible piece leads the listener to greater self-awareness as the author candidly demonstrates the stages of his own journey to remembering what we are.
J Enrique Roman
LCSW

Clear Introduction to Self-Inquiry

Ernest Holm Svendsen has done something that is difficult to do: he has clarified what self-inquiry actually is. He has also demonstrated why it is so valuable, and has shown clearly, step-by-step, how to do it. This audio book is a reference book worth reading again and again as a companion to the practice of self-inquiry.

The method he describes is called The Work of Byron Katie, which is a powerful way to find your own truth and freedom in any stressful situation. I've been practicing this method for over 11 years and it has deepened and transformed my outlook of stressful situations thousands of times. Once I see through my stressful story about something, there is no way for me to "unsee" my new perspective. That's why I love self-inquiry. I undo my own stories by simply asking a few questions of myself.

Why I'm especially excited about this book is that Ernest makes self-inquiry so accessible. You don't have to go to a workshop to get the full experience of The Work. Just follow the simple directions that Ernest provides and it will take you as deeply as you want to go.

Exceltionally clear explanation of self inquiry

I do not know any other person that is better in explaining this kind of stuff.

- clear
- to the point
- down to earth
- pleasant
- not spiritual or vague

When listening to Mr Holm Svendsen you think: why haven’t I earlier got this? He makes it do simple; like only true geniuses can.

The Work of Byron Katie has never been so accesible. A pleasure to listen to and a great tool to help you forward in inquiering your stresfull thoughts.

Great job, fun to listen!

A very simple process to find truth and clarity

I thought that I was making progress in my life, I walked away from every situation I couldn't handle as it got complicated or uncomfortable, my way of dealing with the pain was to simply leave and start over. This worked for a while, until the next situation. I couldn't see that I was the common denominator; I was stuck in the same pattern. When I found "How to end the stories that screw up your life" I immediately saw that not only I had been running from myself but that some of the relationships I left prematurely could have been turned around to become happy and fulfilling ones. What I liked most about this book is how the Author tries his best to make me the reader understand and want to do the work, the sheer simplicity of the process, broken down into baby steps and all the additional creative ways to ensure retention and clarity. the podcast was extremely helpful and creative; as I completed each question it was helpful to hear the scenario played out as were the real life examples at the end. I also liked that the entire process was repeated at the end of the book for extra clarity, I am learning, it's a work in progress for me but I am very grateful for the difference this work has made in my life. My gratitude to Bryon Katie for bringing this work to the world and to Earnest for the love and creative energy he exudes in his rendition <3

with much gratitude
Hannah Park Lusterman

How to become friends with your own mind!

In this clever book Ernest Holm Svendsen takes you on an step by step journey how to understand the natur of the mind. And not least: How to deal with it!
In a lighthearted and calm way the writer gives a clear introduction to The Work of Byron Katie. The book is full of relevant and clear examples that makes it easy to understand the depths of the points. It is down to earth and have an underlying humoristic tone that makes it safe to step into self-inquiry. Certainly a very helpfull book in the proces of becoming best friends with your own mind!

Wonderful teaching of The Work

I loved how relaxing the author's voice is. The explanations about The Work is very helpful. I recommend this book.

A manual in how to remove stressful thoughts

First of all this book contains the most precise and yet simple description of how our mind works. Then it explains "The Work" of Byron Katie step by step, and it teaches, not less than, how to create a better world to live in. I warmly recoment listening to Ernests book.

This book changed my thinking and life

I have been doing Inquiry for 9-months, Specifically the work of Byron Katie. Before eI spent 1-years doing everything from CBT, to Jungian Project Shadowwork, Hoffman Process, Landmark, and even Theropy.

This book really brought it all together for me.

It combined what I learned with Physics, neuroscience and mediation-based inquiry.

Even the studies on memory helped me get the conceptual framework for much of what Katie says.

Then it shows the actual Byron Katie process.

I have been to her seminars and nothing has been as helpful as this book and a few of Ernest’s blog posts.

I even read all of Kate books, and for me, this made it all make sense.

Mike S

Please read “How to end the stories"

I have made The Work my practice and I am amazed at how happy, safe, kind and free I feel now compared with for how I felt some years ago. I too, like Ernest, want to share this effective practice to as many people as I can. I often feel helpless: How come people do not want to try The Work? So, I am so grateful for this new book about how to do The Work, yourself at once. Please use this free inquiry and set yourself free of all the messy things you learned as a kid. It makes us less than whole.
To sum it up: read this book and get started with The Work as a practice!
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