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And Baby Makes Three

By: John M. Gottman PhD,Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD
Narrated by: Randye Kaye
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Having a baby is a joyous experience, but even the best relationships are strained during the transition from duo to trio. Lack of sleep, never-ending housework, and new fiscal concerns often lead to conflict, disappointment, and hurt feelings. In And Baby Makes Three, Love Lab™ experts John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman teach couples the skills from their successful workshops, so partners can avoid the pitfalls of parenthood by:

  • Maintaining intimacy and romance
  • Replacing a culture of criticism and irritability with one of appreciation
  • Preventing postpartum depression
  • Creating a home environment that nurtures physical, emotional, and mental health as well as cognitive and behavioral development for your baby

Complete with exercises that separate the "master" from the "disaster" couples, And Baby Makes Three helps new parents positively manage the strain that comes along with their bundle of joy.

©2007 John M. Gottman, PhD, and Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD (P)2017 Tantor

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More couple's therapy than adapting with new baby.

I expected this book to be about how to adjust to a new family member and the stresses that come with new babies. While the book did give insight as to a new mom's feelings of not being cared for and new dad's feelings of being left out, this book was mostly about how to fight better, listen and respond to your partners needs and concerns, and resolve conflict in a healthy way. Anyone could use these techniques. The book did discuss the impact healthy conflict resolution has on unborn babies and infants and how a couples relationship affects a babies understanding of his world. Very helpful and I look forward to listening with my partner and actually completing the questionnaires together to help us grow and become more unified.

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Excludes non-heterosexual relationships

Needs updating to include all types of families, partnerships, and upbringings. If updates were made it was at the beginning of the book and not throughout.

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This book really needs an accompanying PDF!

Fantastic advice and very practical steps to go through but this being an audible version really makes it difficult to reference those lists and exercises present in the book. Please add a summary pdf to this book. I had to go online and buy a used copy of this book so I could use as reference/workbook

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Not as helpful as I expected

The examples of couples were good. The writers unfortunately talk down to the readers as if we are children ourselves when we are actually adults with capable brains. The authors also include an overwhelming number of surveys. In the written version i may have just glossed over these, however in the audiobook that impossible because who knows when they will end. There multiple surveys with hundreds of questions for the listener (Ie very boring). On a side note, if you need a good night's sleep buy this book and put it on).

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Helps explain a lot of what has happened.

Explains a lot of whay has happened in my marriage. Particularly as being a father and the divide that grew between my wife and I. Also provide excellent exercises to build a stronger than before relationship.

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Expected more

If you’ve read any other Gottman stuff then this is nothing new. Don’t waste your money buying it.

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So helpful

I really loved this book- I can’t wait to implement it into my marriage. Thanks!

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I Expected More..

This book did not meet my expectations. If this is your first book reading as a married couple, then it could be beneficial. It reads very much like a marriage-basics book. However, it felt almost exclusively like a marriage book and less like a "how marriage is affected by children book." I'm pregnant with our first child and really want to be prepared for how it will affect my marriage. After reading it, I'm not sure I'm any closer to knowing how things will change. In my audiobook version it didn't give the chapter names so it was difficult to tell where each chapter was going. The most helpful part of the book was towards the end when it gave a lot of discussion questions to use with your partner. They led to a lot of great conversations, but it was nothing I couldn't have found on Google.

Overall, if this is your first marriage book, then absolutely read it! If you have read several marriage books as a couple and are looking for a book that REALLY prepares you for the changes after a child, I would personally look elsewhere.

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Awful Narrator

I really want to like this book and I really want to like it, but I just can't. Not in audible form anyways. The narrator reads ridiculously fast and makes it difficult to be able to pay attention and follow along. I also don't think it was as well written as it could have been because the way it's going so far it's difficult to connect some of the stories with the lessons they're trying to implement.

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Remarkable

I enjoyed listening to this book and learning more about what it takes to have a healthy partnership after having a baby, but it's hard to follow as an audiobook. I definitely recommend buying the paper copy to any couple who is having a baby!

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