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From iconic actor and best-selling author Alan Alda, an indispensable guide to communicating better - based on his experience with acting, improv, science, and storytelling.

The beloved actor shares fascinating and powerful lessons from the science of communication and teaches listeners to improve the way they relate to others using improv games, storytelling, and their own innate mind-reading abilities. With his trademark humor and frankness, Alan Alda explains what makes the out-of-the-box techniques he developed after his years as the host of Scientific American Frontiers so effective. This book reveals what it means to be a true communicator and how we can communicate better in every aspect of our lives - with our friends, lovers, and families; with our doctors; in business settings; and beyond.

©2017 Alan Alda (P)2017 Random House Audio

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Useful and pleasant

Useful and applicable especially in a business or workday life. Deceptively simple, yet valuable.
Alan Alda's narration is pure delight, familiar, funny, and fatherly - in a good way. I can feel his curiosity come through his voice.
Don't be fooled by the simplicity- listen and move forward with these recommendations in your own life.

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Best Audio Book Ever

It is amazing listening to Alda. His voice is great. His command of the topic of communications and his insights are fantastic. He's not reading the book. He is sharing knowledge and experience.

6 of 6 people found this review helpful

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Tha last three chapters

I know what my problem was. Since this is Allen Alda I of course expected to be laughing. That is not what this book is for. The last three chapters clarified a great many things for me. These are things I do right, do wrong, and could do better when communicating. Allen helps us better understand the craft of communication. This begins in appreciating that it is an essential craft. Perhaps a professional actor is a better medium to this task than any professor.

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Insightful

Where does If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

In the top 5

What was one of the most memorable moments of If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face??

There were many, but I hate to put out spoiler alerts.

What does Alan Alda bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

A wealth of personal experiences and credibility.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

There were several moments that were moving...nearly one every chapter.

Any additional comments?

I had hoped to find a "cookbook" formula for how to become better at communicating. While this book did not meet that expectation, it did increase my understanding of both improving my communication skills by understanding what communication IS as well as what it ISN'T. If anything, it provoked more curiosity to examine the Stonybrook University to learn more about the science of communication to see if there IS a cookbook method to improving communication. I truly feel, after reading this book, that most of our issues aren't about right or wrong, but more about understanding and being understood. Highly recommend and hope there is a another one to follow this one!

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Useable ideas for humans sharing & communicating

Alan shared anecdotes of skills he's learned in talking, listening & sharing ideas. He tells of missteps in explaining ideas to others and how the use of improvisation techniques help sometimes. I hope I can learn to better communicate ideas AND listen to others ideas by using some of these skills.

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Wish I could buy this book for all my coworkers!

I am a technical writer-editor who is having difficulty convincing some co-workers that their scientific analysis can be simplified for public understanding. In fact, some of them have said outright that it is not possible to simply present complex matters. In my search for solutions to this problem, I found this book.

I wish I could buy this for all of my coworkers. They have been trained for several years to write in a way that fails to communicate the core issues with which our organization must contend. The result is a community that doesn’t trust we have their best interests at heart.

This book helped me understand my coworkers a little better. I’m hoping that this book’s science-based explanation of communicating complex material simply will help them understand it is not only possible but essential for the future success of our organization.

Thank you, Mr. Alda, for this book and your work to improve the communication skills of scientists everywhere!

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THANK you Alan Alda! Your wit and charm shines

Loved this book! Please write more... grandkid stories, children stories, anything you do is memorable

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I didn’t understand you

I Love Alan Alda and I Love communicating with people. Empathy and communication, have been my life’s work, as a Nurse. I kept going back to the book, thinking I would pick up on something, it didn’t happen.
I remember, taking a PSYC class in college, where they tried to label and describe Embryonic development, in Psychology terms. Coming from a Biochem background, I didn’t get it.
The Best Communication training, for a Medical Provide is ‘Be a Patient’. Check out the 1991 movie, The Doctor, with William Hurt. If you developed a study on this, you would probably call it Improv too.

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It isn't a lot of fun but a lot to think of

I think author used all what he knew about empathy, about need to be a dramatic to sink in brains of your audience — all what this book about in general. It's very nice and instructive.

I prefer a bit boisterous voice but this sounds good enought.

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Insights in Communications

I really liked this - good insights into communicating with others - the authors enthusiasm for the subject & dry wit pleasently entertaining as well as interesting