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If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? Audiobook

If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face?: Relating to and Communicating with Others, from the Boardroom to the Bedroom

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Publisher's Summary

From iconic actor and best-selling author Alan Alda, an indispensable guide to communicating better - based on his experience with acting, improv, science, and storytelling.

The beloved actor shares fascinating and powerful lessons from the science of communication and teaches listeners to improve the way they relate to others using improv games, storytelling, and their own innate mind-reading abilities. With his trademark humor and frankness, Alan Alda explains what makes the out-of-the-box techniques he developed after his years as the host of Scientific American Frontiers so effective. This book reveals what it means to be a true communicator and how we can communicate better in every aspect of our lives - with our friends, lovers, and families; with our doctors; in business settings; and beyond.

©2017 Alan Alda (P)2017 Random House Audio

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    Brian Ford Long Island, NY USA 06-10-17
    Brian Ford Long Island, NY USA 06-10-17 Member Since 2015
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    "Best Audio Book Ever"

    It is amazing listening to Alda. His voice is great. His command of the topic of communications and his insights are fantastic. He's not reading the book. He is sharing knowledge and experience.

    5 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    22Wonderful Sacramento, CA 06-12-17
    22Wonderful Sacramento, CA 06-12-17 Member Since 2013
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    "Useful and pleasant"

    Useful and applicable especially in a business or workday life. Deceptively simple, yet valuable.
    Alan Alda's narration is pure delight, familiar, funny, and fatherly - in a good way. I can feel his curiosity come through his voice.
    Don't be fooled by the simplicity- listen and move forward with these recommendations in your own life.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    David Cohn 06-22-17
    David Cohn 06-22-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Insightful"
    Where does If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    In the top 5


    What was one of the most memorable moments of If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face??

    There were many, but I hate to put out spoiler alerts.


    What does Alan Alda bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    A wealth of personal experiences and credibility.


    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    There were several moments that were moving...nearly one every chapter.


    Any additional comments?

    I had hoped to find a "cookbook" formula for how to become better at communicating. While this book did not meet that expectation, it did increase my understanding of both improving my communication skills by understanding what communication IS as well as what it ISN'T. If anything, it provoked more curiosity to examine the Stonybrook University to learn more about the science of communication to see if there IS a cookbook method to improving communication. I truly feel, after reading this book, that most of our issues aren't about right or wrong, but more about understanding and being understood. Highly recommend and hope there is a another one to follow this one!

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    tokind 07-16-17
    tokind 07-16-17 Member Since 2009
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    "Tha last three chapters"

    I know what my problem was. Since this is Allen Alda I of course expected to be laughing. That is not what this book is for. The last three chapters clarified a great many things for me. These are things I do right, do wrong, and could do better when communicating. Allen helps us better understand the craft of communication. This begins in appreciating that it is an essential craft. Perhaps a professional actor is a better medium to this task than any professor.

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    Jane K. Lippincott 06-21-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Useable ideas for humans sharing & communicating"

    Alan shared anecdotes of skills he's learned in talking, listening & sharing ideas. He tells of missteps in explaining ideas to others and how the use of improvisation techniques help sometimes. I hope I can learn to better communicate ideas AND listen to others ideas by using some of these skills.

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    Amazon Customer 10-13-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Very interesting book."

    I really enjoyed hearing the different facets of communication and the stories behind each one that made the concepts relatable and personal to me. A wonderful, warm, familiar voice that helped me stay intrigued in science and teaching throughout the entire book. Thank you, Mr. Alda.

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    Sarah M. Flaherty 10-02-17 Member Since 2009
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    "Finished several times"

    I was truly expecting an animated Alan Alda "talking" the material he had written. However- he read it like it was someone else's work. No animation - no inflection or conversation like quality. He read out loud in a perfunctory voice that conveyed information, calm, relaxing and monotone. As for content, the adage, "if all you own is a hammer, all the problems are nails" comes to mind. Mr. Alda is an actor, so therefore all communication difficulties can be solved through acting lessons and exercises. It is a way to look at communication, but getting scientists to loosen up through acting- really? As a person who has sleeping difficulties, i found this audio recording a wonderful way to get me to relax and drift into sleep. I have finished the book several times.

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    David 09-15-17
    David 09-15-17 Member Since 2015
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    "A delightful listen!"

    Masterfully told so I could understand and appreciate the message.
    Told in a way so that I could adapt and apply the information from the book.
    A joy to listen to. I've been excitedly telling friends about it

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    Julie 08-29-17
    Julie 08-29-17 Member Since 2016
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    Where does If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This is in my top ten books. Great flow, incredibly useful info, I love Mr. Alda's narration of his own work, and best of all - the whole narration is an example of the things he's learned and endeavors to impart to the reader.


    What did you like best about this story?

    I liked the anecdotes best - by using them Mr. Alda not only demonstrated his point on communicating with them, they helped solidify the lesson into memory.


    If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

    This book would make an interesting documentary! I don't think I'd be able to give it a tag line to do it justice.


    Any additional comments?

    This is essential listening/reading for anyone who needs to communicate better - in short, all of us. Notably, though, medical professionals who often forget that the people they treat don't have the same medical background they do and who do damage through miscommunication. I also recommend it to anyone on the autistic spectrum or anyone wanting a tool to help someone on the spectrum communicate better.

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    Brad L. 08-23-17
    Brad L. 08-23-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Knowledgeable"

    Great advice and easy to listen to. Will listen again and again. Big fan of Alan Alda. It opened up new perspectives and ideas that I am going to put to use.

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