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Many people who have dated or chosen to marry narcissistic people come to me for help. They need to know how to relate to their narcissists. They must learn how to stay out of the lines of fire of the narcissists. They are stuck in cycles of abuse and manipulation, with seemingly no end in sight. They are distraught at the possibility of continuing the relationships, but they are also at a loss as to how to continue on without their partners.

A relationship with a narcissistic and self-absorbed person doesn't have to end. Despite the person being extremely immature and deficient in social, cognitive, and communication skills, he often still deserves to be loved and to belong. After all, acceptance and belonging are two of the most basic needs of human beings. Most humans deserve to feel some sense of acceptance and belonging, even if they have made mistakes or are immature in how they relate to others.

Narcissists make many mistakes, and they often don't know how to relate to other people. The more mistakes a narcissist makes in regard to relating to others, the bleaker and more dismal his outlook on life becomes. It is no wonder a narcissist will begin to have a conduct disorder, an adjustment disorder, or mental health issues. Even if narcissists want to relate in positive ways to others, experiences have shown that they cannot do so without a great deal of pain and frustration. And thus they might give up on relating positively with anyone at all.

But how does one begin to have a healthy relationship with a narcissist? Don't narcissists generally destroy any ability to have safe and healthy relationships by their very narcissistic natures? Doesn't their self-absorbed behavior conflict with the very acts of giving and intimacy that are necessary in an intimate relationship? Most of the time, a relationship with a narcissist cannot reach levels of personal security and freedom that are experienced in healthy relationships.

©2016 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow

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Is this a joke?

DO NOT WASTE YOIR TIME!!
Seriously, this book should be titled, "how to be a complete doormat while catering to the needs of an emotionally stunted asshole"

I thought this would be more along the lines of how to help reduce a narc's propensity to seek inappropriate attention. But it was basically a list of ways to enable and support toxic and selfish behavior. Oh and btw, of you don't do all these things, he will leave you. Also, he will probably leave you anyways and make you miserable and drain you before he does.

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Too Simplistic

The overall message is to treat the narcissist like a troubled child. Not that the suggestions are not possibly useful, but they are overly simplistic. I like the focus on empathy toward the narcissist, and on their genuine areas in which they have deficits out of their control, however these approaches will be completely draining if not paired with empathy toward oneself as well...and this essay (it seems too short to actually be considered a book) does not focus on empathy toward oneself at all. I agree with the idea that a relationship with a narcissist may be necessary and could work out, but it is not as simple as this book makes it seem.

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Its saying to be a doormat to the narcissist abuse

Basically you would have to endure all of the narcissist abusive behavior toward. you. Impossible! Without becoming messed up yourself is that really LOVE

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the narrator has a easy, pleasant voice

the infrormation in the book was very helpful. most ebooks are hard for me to listen to. but this woman was calming and matter of fact in her delivery. thumbs up.

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helpful

can't wait to implement with my husband as I am at a loss in my marriage..

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Interesting

Not only did this list help me figure out why my narc keeps coming back to me time and time again, but it is also helping me figure out how to create a smoother life with him going forward.

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