Hold Me Tight
Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
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Heralded by the New York Times and Time as the couples therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond.
This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship - from "Recognizing the Demon Dialogue" to "Revisiting a Rocky Moment" - and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations.
Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.
©2008 Dr. Sue Johnson, EdD (P)2020 Little, Brown SparkFeatured Article: The Best Relationship Listens to Help You Navigate Dating, Marriage, and More
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4 out of 5 stars
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Buy in Print. Audiobook good only as refresher.
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Conventional wisdom says that "it takes two" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how - or whether - to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative. It Takes One to Tango is a groundbreaking guide that shows how one determined partner can spark lasting, significant change in a marriage.
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5 out of 5 stars
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Great book!
- By colette on 05-08-17
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Passionate Marriage
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Passionate Marriage has long been recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. Now with a new preface by the author, this updated edition explores the ways we can keep passion alive and even reach the height of sexual and emotional fulfillment later in life. Acclaimed psychologist David Schnarch guides couples toward greater intimacy with proven techniques developed in his clinical practice and worldwide workshops.
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- A. Merritt
- 10-26-22
The Best Marriage Help Book
This is the best marriage help book I’ve read/listened to ever.
There have been others that helped…. But this one brought it to whole new level.
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- Kipp Gearhart
- 12-31-20
Life changing!
Practical guide to finding true lasting connection that combines age-old wisdom with novel approaches to exploring and cultivating emotional attachment, connection and love.
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- Bethany Kuenzli
- 09-29-21
Stunning Book on Relationships
This was such a good book on relationships and all the things they don’t talk about in pre-marital.
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- Regan Calder
- 02-04-21
Incredible, Amazing, Useful
So wonderful, probably life changing. I'm using it with clients and already seeing it very very useful.
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- Anat
- 12-17-20
A must-read, preferably early
A must-read, preferably early in a relationship, before the demon dialogues have taken over, but seems like it is never too late, so worth the read/listen even later, much much later. Brings interesting and useful insights.
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- Brint H.
- 01-05-23
Incredible for all!!!
This book changed my view and perspective on what love is. I was able to heal from childhood haunting thoughts & really communicate with my spouse on a level I did not know existed. Thank you Dr Johnson!!
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- Lady Logan
- 04-11-23
Beautiful, powerful, actionable
This book is a helpful road map to create deeper stronger relationships and I am grateful she wrote it
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- abeautifullove
- 06-29-23
Life changing.
This book is really life changing I’d you are willing to do the personal work and look within to help heal your attachment.
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- Stephanie Huff
- 07-08-23
This is a really profound book.
Everyone should read this book. The audio performance was amazing. It was so insightful. 10/10 recommend.
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- Amazon Customer
- 05-01-23
A way to heal your relationships
I recommend this book for anyone who is having trouble with intimate relationships or anyone looking to be a better partner. I also recommend this book if you are single. This book brings so much clarity about love and connection. It will help you understand yourself in the process of love. It will definitely bring you closer to understanding your role in creating the relationship with your partner that you may have felt was completely out of reach. This book is a must read, you won’t regret the time invested.
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