The Parallel Parenting Solution

Eliminate Confict with Your Ex, Create the Life You Want

By: Carl Knickerbocker JD

Narrated by: Joe Scalora

Families who want to heal after a divorce should not start with pie-in-the-sky expectations. They should start in reality. The Parallel Parenting Solution comes straight out of lived experience, extensive research and coaching, and is written as a direct solutions manual for those of us who have to deal with Narcissistic and high-conflict exes.

Coparenting does not have to take a toll on mental health, deplete your finances, compromise your values, or threaten your safety. For those experiencing the effects of Coparenting as a living hell, your experience is valid. We’ve been there and lived it. But have no fear. There is hope, and it’s called Parallel Parenting.

Parallel Parenting is based on the premise that all parties can achieve the highest outcomes for themselves and their families when they are free to work in parallel, rather than being thrown into the chaotic, emotional enmeshment soup that is Coparenting. Understanding the exploitative and conflict-producing fantasy known as Coparenting as sold to us by the divorce industry vultures is as important as understanding the down-to-earth tactics of how to deal with your high-conflict ex. This book will teach you both.

The Parallel Parenting Solution was written for people who want to eliminate the unnecessary drama of Coparenting with a high-conflict ex—particularly in the wake of a hard-fought divorce battle. It is intentionally direct, solutions-driven, and comes from the perspective of those of us who have lived with such exes. We know that we’ve already wasted enough time, life, and energy on them. It's time for immediate change.

It’s time for solutions. It’s time for The Parallel Parenting Solution.

©2021, 2022, 2023 Carl Knickerbocker (P)2025 Carl Knickerbocker

It’s the most relatable and fathomable guideline

I wish I had known about this book much earlier into my separation so that I would’ve spared myself much headache from anger.

Great easy to implement solution

Very good content. Would love to have a chapter on optimal parenting plans for children with special needs. Is there some type of modified parallel parenting? Raising child with special needs does require trust and high degree of honesty from both parties while parallel parenting does not. Especially when child is non verbal and unable to tell a parent that something wrong went on in another’s parent home.

long overdue a resource

from title to premise, to the entire format & chapter outlines.. breakdowns, backstories and explanations.. the book should be required reading for every divorcing or even separating couple as their starting point to navigating the most assuredly likely hell.. they WILL encounter, should they Not read this book.

..the process won't be any more fun or enjoyable, but for at least 1 of the parties-the Non conflict oriented and non purposely difficult lersin.., this read will be the most cathartic and validating.. hope giving and clear guideline to navigate towards finally living their and their children's best lives free of the desired hell the difficult parent has wrought on their lives for a seeming eternity.

Probably should be required reading for couples even contemplating marriage or even just having children.


This book will not only save the spirit and souls of the actual caring and
Truly loving parent but untold tens of thousands of dollars feeding the coffers of the entire family law
Business/industry that profits most from
Every couple who enters the private and public hell of custody and any separwruon/divorce scenarios.

Not only disputes but completely dispels the entire notion of 'coparenting', even really, being a viable thing.

.. And not just another Fairytale along the lines of the Easter Bunny and Groundhog Day.

Staep by step plan of action

How so many of the examples of situations absolutely sounded familiar to my situation!

Was recommended by GAL

I enjoy this entire book. Very informative and factual. To what I have experienced as a parent. Do yourself a favor a listen to this book and follow it!