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Publisher's Summary

In the spirit of Amy Poehler's Yes Please, Lena Dunham's Not That Kind of Girl, and Roxane Gay's Bad Feminist, a powerful collection of essays about gender, sexuality, race, beauty, Hollywood, and what it means to be a modern woman.

One month before the release of the highly anticipated film The Birth of a Nation, actress Gabrielle Union shook the world with a vulnerable and impassioned editorial in which she urged our society to have compassion for victims of sexual violence. In the wake of rape allegations made against director and actor Nate Parker, Union - a 44-year-old actress who launched her career with roles in iconic '90s movies - instantly became the insightful, outspoken actress that Hollywood has been desperately awaiting. With honesty and heartbreaking wisdom, she revealed her own trauma as a victim of sexual assault: "It is for you that I am speaking. This is real. We are real."

In this moving collection of thought-provoking essays infused with her unique wisdom and deep humor, Union uses that same fearlessness to tell astonishingly personal and true stories about power, color, gender, feminism, and fame. Union tackles a range of experiences, including bullying, beauty standards and competition between women in Hollywood, growing up in white California suburbia and then spending summers with her black relatives in Nebraska, coping with crushes, puberty, and the divorce of her parents. Genuine and perceptive, Union bravely lays herself bare, uncovering a complex and courageous life of self-doubt and self-discovery with incredible poise and brutal honesty. Throughout, she compels us to be ethical and empathetic and reminds us of the importance of confidence, self-awareness, and the power of sharing truth, laughter, and support.

©2017 Gabrielle Union (P)2017 HarperCollins Publishers

Critic Reviews

"As she treats listeners to her honest, soul-baring story, Union pauses during the tough moments and laughs out loud during the happy ones.... The actress's touching personal stories about race, fame, sexuality, feminism, and family leave a lasting impression." (AudioFile)

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👏🏾👏🏾 thank you. Thank You. THANK YOU!! #BRAVO

My Lord! Such an honest and open depiction of life. ALL OF IT. As an actress, recovering perfectionist, high school AP and National Honor Society student, and black girl growing up in the suburbs of Arlington, TX, myself — Gabrielle Union hits the nail on the head...in more ways than I could’ve imagined!!! Authenticity at its finest. Plus, hearing her tell her own story in her own words, is the icing on an already delicious cake. She made me feel like I’m not crazy.

In the words of Marianne Williamson, “as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.” Thank you for the OK to stand a bit taller and breathe a bit deeper in my own #BlackGirlMagic.

I like sweet wine. Virtual glass of Riesling raised to you, Gabrielle Union. CHEERS!

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Fucking. Amazing.

Love. This. Fucking. Book.
Drank no wine while listening, I now regret that. Doing over.

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Get prepared to talk to your bestie and girlie

Wow. Loved learning about Gabrielle Union's story and what made her who she is. She spills the tea on lots and makes you feel vulnerable with her as she has healed along her journey of becoming the woman you see today, a woman that is ready for so much more. She tells her story of how she learned to live, forgive, and be in the present. She holds herself accountable to fame and social justice, and why its important for her to be aware. Great listen for a long workday...Amazing.

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She IS fierce and fearless

I would crawl across a bed of nails to share a bottle (or two) of wine with this woman. This is a raw yet refined memoir that not just told stories but taught lessons. Just an excellent adult book on growing up as a woman of color, growing up as a survivor, growing up as a famous person, and crawling your way to happy with all the compromises and mistakes that it takes to get there. Cheers, Gabrielle Union!

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One of the best books I️ have read in a long time!!!

This book made me laugh, cry and smile all the way through. I️ truly felt like I️ was sitting down with one of my girlfriends just talking. Gab was so vulnerable and open in so many ways. It had me on the edge of my seat the whole time. It’s a must read/ listen!!!

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So relatable

I have PTSD too and to here what this brave woman goes through daily. As a veteran I connected with her struggle and her pain. She is amazing and brave. Beautiful transparency!

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Excellent

The fastest I got through a book ever because it was so raw and real. I now love her. I am her. I want more stories.

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For all little girls who grew up as the only chocolate chip

This book in an insightful and thoughtful memoir. In getting to know Nikki Union, I got to revisit myself, my life, and my judgments of myself and others. The reality of growing up in a white world no longer seem like a narrative shared by a small group of college friends, but a universal reality for all of us whose lives have always been a balancing act to claim our identity while being told we don’t belong in either world we seek a place.
This book is a must read and a must share. My hope is that it becomes a handbook for our white best friends. I believe it makes plain some truths that somehow remain misunderstood.
I’ve made a gift of it to several people already and suggested it to many others. I think Gabrielle’s honesty reads like a talk with a best friend about the stuff one never share with one’s family. She shared her soul. In doing so, she gave permission for readers to do the same. Thank you.

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Interesting Anecdotes, but Some Sense of Hyperbole

Gabrielle's book did hold my interest...mostly. Some of the topics were relatable to me as a black woman in her age range, but much of it seemed to be a bit exaggerated. I didn't mind the hyperbole *too* much, but what started to get to me was her incessant references to her fame and celebrity. Yes, she is a celebrity. Yes, she has some fame. And while I think she does have some really cool stuff on her resume, I like to be able to see celebrities as relatable. It seemed to me that the more she tried to be relatable, the more she felt the need to be sure the reader not forget her fame and fortune. Telling us with pomposity how rich and famous you are at the beginning of the sentence is not negated by tacking on some sort of humble verbiage toward the end. Two-thirds of the way in I was too busy rolling my eyes distracted by her hubris to really appreciate what she had to say. And that's a shame.

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The Chapter on being a Stepmom was right on point!

Great read! It took a minute for me to get fully engaged but when I did.... I couldn’t stop listening! Nikki... I feel like she’s my little sister now.. was funny, engaging, articulate and brutally honest about her life, love, pain, loss and the industry. Kudos girl!!!

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  • A Leonie
  • 10-23-17

Well yes,I'll take a scotch.

Straight out the gate this was excellent. The flow of each chapter felt like a steady conversation, where drinks and honesty are on the table, served with tissue breaks for laughter and pain,and head scratching moments for further back and forth discussions that will last a lifetime. The chapter titles along are worthy of essay and dissertation pieces,and I expect many book forums will be heading that way. I enjoyed the audio version,having the author read was a delight, Union did a marvellous run for her debut. Well worth buying in any format,but audio was the winner for me.

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  • Ishan
  • 02-25-18

Brilliant Book

I really enjoyed this book. I’ve always been a fan of Gabrielle Union. However I’m a major fan now. This book is so relatable, funny, truthful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your stories they were so eye-opening. Once you start listening to this book you will not want to put it down. I would definitely recommend the audio version over print as it wouldn’t have been the same to hear Gabrielle Union’s stories in her own voice. Thoroughly enjoyed every chapter, hopefully there will be a second book in the pipeline.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 11-10-18

I Needed This

This is such an honest book. I appreciate the way she represented her flaws without beating herself up about them. This memoir is from someone who loves life and is determined to keep living it. Thank you Ms Union.

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  • Arnya
  • 11-05-18

Emotional and brilliant

Many women who read this book will have done so because they love the characters Gabrielle has played, I was one of them but I never expected to have such a raw insight into another person still living. It rare to hear a black woman speak about her own experiences with assimilation, her own anti blackness with honesty. It was brave, relatable and incredible.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 10-22-18

Unexpectedly Brilliant

I loved this book because it made me think outside of myself in a way in never had before. Touched.

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  • Eilish Kelly
  • 10-15-18

Brilliant, could not stop listening!

This is great. Its honest, funny and Gabrielle has a refreshing no bullshit attitude to life. Love it.

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  • Mbamalu, I.
  • 10-08-18

A real life story guide yours

It starts with the Kerry Fisher's quote and ends with Souki.
Nicki's natural and down-to-earth style of narration did it for me. T'was thoroughly engaging and made me reflect on the current state of my journey.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-06-18

Yes Nikki!

Loved this book! What a strong, independent woman! I absolutely loved this book and listened to it in just a couple of days! What a great woman. Feeling inspired by it! She knows that she is not perfect and takes time to progress and be a better person always. I am so happy that her role as a stepmother reflects positively and cried when she describes how DW proposed to her.

We are going to need more wine!!


Letticia x

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-25-18

Amazing

I really loved it. It was insightful, funny and full of character. Highly reccomend it.

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  • Busymumof2
  • 09-08-18

What an awesome insight into an amazing woman

When I started watching Being MaryJane is when I first started to appreciate Gabrielle Union, I used to think she was one of those stuck up actresses. Seeing her in such a different role to her previous roles made me think different.
This book is very well thought out and written, I love that she goes back to her childhood memories from time to time and it’s not all straight forward from young to mid age. She is so honest and that’s what I love. It must have been very painful at times to read out let alone recount certain times in her life.
I commend her on an absolutely Fabulous read/audiobook.
Now I’m going to listen to it for a third time.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-10-18

Could not stop listening to this!

Loved listening to this book. Gabrielle has such a comanding voice that's engaging and needs to heard. Her stories on racism, colourism and other social issues were thought provoking. Her personal stories were confronting, funny and crazy. Overall, I loved her honesty in everything she said. Definitely get the wine ready for this one!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-23-18

Incredible

This book is insane!! So amazing, I’ve been telling everyone about it. I felt like she was sitting across from me, telling me her whole life experience. I love her even more now.

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  • Fungai
  • 01-26-18

very enjoyable <br />

Great read, funny and relatable. Gabrielle takes the reader on a journey and having Gabrielle narrate it herself is a major bonus.

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  • craig
  • 01-07-18

Honest Stories

What did you like most about We're Going to Need More Wine?

I love the honesty of the stories Union tells. Hearing Union tell these stories herself brings another dimension to the experience. She's not afraid to be flawed.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I heard Union's interview on Death, Sex Money and the same day downloaded the audio book.

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  • Kantesha
  • 11-01-17

Empowering and Entertaining

This book was so engaging and entertaining. It really felt as if Gabrielle was sitting across the table from me and we were enjoying a glass of wine. I didn’t think any actresses story would relate to me, but it totally did, on so many different levels. Loved this book and I highly recommend it.