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Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered

The Definitive How-To Guide
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Interview: Listen in as the creators of the hit podcast My Favorite Murder and the murderino movement share how their new memoir, Stay Sexy and Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide, perfectly reflects their special blend of true-crime obsession and self-care.

It was kind of intimidating for me to finally [narrate] and I’m such a fan of so many really great Audible narrators. --Georgia Hardstark.

  • Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered
  • It was kind of intimidating for me to finally [narrate] and I’m such a fan of so many really great Audible narrators. --Georgia Hardstark.

Publisher's Summary

This program is read by the authors, with Paul Giamatti, and includes sections recorded in front of a live audience. 

The highly anticipated first book by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark, the voices behind the number-one hit podcast My Favorite Murder!

Sharing never-before-heard stories ranging from their struggles with depression, eating disorders, and addiction, Karen and Georgia irreverently recount their biggest mistakes and deepest fears, reflecting on the formative life events that shaped them into two of the most followed voices in the nation. 

In Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered, Karen and Georgia focus on the importance of self-advocating and valuing personal safety over being "nice" or "helpful." They delve into their own pasts, true crime stories, and beyond to discuss meaningful cultural and societal issues with fierce empathy and unapologetic frankness. 

"My Favorite Murder started as a way for Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark to work through their fears. Now it’s a worldwide community.... Even its darkest moments are lightened by Karen and Georgia's effortlessly funny banter and genuine empathy." (RollingStone.com)

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark (P)2019 Macmillan Audio

Editorial Review

We laughed. We cried.
We both insisted on doing this write-up.

As an homage to their favorite podcast, instead of arm-wrestling over who would review the highly anticipated Stay Sexy and Don’t Get Murdered, editors Kat and Sam channeled their inner Karen and Georgia and told each other what they loved about this listen.

Kat: Sam, what surprised you most about this memoir?
Sam: Actually—the lack of gruesome details. And it was refreshing! There’s no shortage of awesome true crime to listen to and watch right now, so I actually appreciated the fact that this memoir was not so directly about true crime. I felt like I got the chance to get to know these ladies a bit better. And they do go into their true crime origin stories, so I still got to share some of that fellow murderino kinship with them. What about you, Kat?
Kat: I was a little nervous about how their off-the-cuff charm would translate into a scripted, edited work of Literature. But they nailed it. They write how they speak (saltily!), and they intersperse the studio sessions with live readings, surprise cameos, and sweet Q&As between K&G. NEED FOR RANDOM BANTER, FULFILLED. And it goes without saying that audio is the medium of choice for this memoir. Should we each name our favorite parts?
Sam: Yes! I absolutely loved Georgia’s top 10 takeaways from therapy. As someone who has also been going to and praising the benefits of therapy my whole life, I found myself both nodding along and learning some new mantras, like "Motivation isn’t necessary. You just have to do it."
Kat: Ooh, so true. I’m always a sucker for "drunk Karen" and her stories of humiliation and general life don’ts, so I loved her analogy about how drinking is like getting into a hot tub with your funnest friends—till it gets cold and extremely not cute. It’s a hilarious metaphor that really works, and she sneaks in some deep wisdom along the way.
Sam: Drunk Karen, always a gem.
Kat: Any final takeaways about SSDGM?
Sam: Just like the podcast, I felt like there was just something special about this listen. I felt like K&G really opened up here in a more nuanced, deeply personal way than they ever have before. There were so many "same" moments for me, and I honestly could have listened for seven more hours.
Kat: I agree, the level of vulnerability is so inspiring. I’m continually impressed by what these women have brought to the world—I look forward to future academic research on "f**k politeness"—and I can’t wait to see what they do next. Also, I cried, and I am NOT a crier. 11/10 would listen again.

SSDGM—goodbye!

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  • Lesley
  • Seattle, WA, United States
  • 06-02-19

No murder--but so much to love

If you've never heard of My Favorite Murder and you are wondering how a book can be this popular when it's about the lives of two women who run a true-crime comedy podcast, well, yeah, there's a lot to unpack there. I'd just say that if you're even marginally interested in true crime, try the podcast and see if you like it. Then come back and get this book.

If you're already a fan of the MFM podcast--hey, Murderinos!--you already know you want this. It's everything you are expecting: Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark talk about the good and bad in their past and current lives, just like on the show, only it's more about them and less about murder.

But that's OK. You already know what makes the show great. It isn't the murder--it's these two women, who are pretty great because they're pretty normal. They have doubts, insecurities, problems, anxieties, just like the rest of us--the difference is that they're honest about it all and brave enough to talk about it, to each other, and to us. Thanks, ladies, for opening up the world for the rest of us weirdos, and for writing this book that gives us six and a half hours of extra listening and even a few minutes of Paul Giamatti. What's not to like? SSDGM!

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I just really enjoyed Karen crying

A lot of very personal and moving anecdotes.
The book reminds me of exactly why I fell in love with them in the first place.
Thank God I got the audible and not the book!

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The self help book I didn’t know was missing from my life

This book changed my life. I laughed. I cried. I learned. I have told everyone I know that they need to stop what they are doing and check it. This book changed my life.

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SSDGM

If you like the podcast MFM, you will love this book. If you don't know My Favorite Murder, you will likely love this book. Georgia and Karen, both a little rough around the edges. But that makes them kindred spirits. Both funny and charming. They shine a light on mental health issues with honesty and humor. Love these ladies... Also Paul Giamatti.. Epic

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I can’t even begin to say thank you enough

Honestly when I hear your voices, the golden girls theme song plays in my head and it’s like I’m welcoming back old friends I haven’t seen in a long time.
When people say you saved their lives or came to them in a time of need you may think it sounds cliché, but you legitimately saved my life. The day I found the podcast was the worst day of my life. Before someone gets the wrong idea, let me explain.
The day the podcast was introduced to me was the day my fiancé called me out of no where the day before our four year anniversary and told me he didn’t love me anymore. I felt hollow, numb, and the depression I had been fighting bubbled up in my veins and threatened to spew itself all over my already crumbling world. He called me right before work and I almost called out. Thank god I didn’t.
I worked in a retirement home at the time and my residents always made me feel really safe. This particular day, one of my newest residents had her daughter visiting her trying to get her acclimated to her new retirement home living. As I was serving them food and trying not to sob, I heard the resident’s daughter, Cathy, say something about the murder that always shocked her. I actually started listening, I was a criminology major at my local community college and I wanted to hear hers. My residents who all knew what I did (they called me their little detective) motioned me over.
Instead of serving some of them in a timely manner, I stood there in awe of this woman who described to me the two most bad ass women who loved true crime and broadcasted a kick ass podcast two times a week. I didn’t even know what a podcast was at the time. I still have the picture of the MFM podcast page so when I got home I could look y’all up and listen. I didn’t even make it to my lunch break before I was binging you guys and crying in the linen closet at work. You guys were like coming up for fresh air when you’re stuck under water disorientated from being hit by a large wave. You were my relief, you were my saviours.

As a single twenty two year old who lives on her own now, pursuing her bachelors in criminology and a minor in bio-chemistry at one of the most esteemed criminology universities in the country ( Go Noles!), I can honestly say a year ago I never saw myself here. I never thought I would make it to this point in my life where I was grateful he walked out, but here I am. I am so grateful he walked out and I am so grateful for you Karen and Georgia. Thank you for helping me survive and thrive and become who I always wanted to be... myself. I love you, and Steven and Vince and Marty and Elvis and Mimi and Dot and George and Frank.
Thank you for creating this world where we can be so free and loving towards our true passions and for being so open about mental health. Thank you for also teaching me to be nice to little me.
Always a murderino through and through,
Siera

ps. Cathy if you’re reading this thank you so much!

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  • JD
  • 05-28-19

Exactly what I hoped it would be

This audiobook is a perfect representation of what makes their podcast so great. It's personal, vulnerable, hilarious, tragic and heart-warming. Georgia and Karen do a wonderful job reading their own words - and the audio bonuses are amazing. I will not spoil them.

If you're a fan, you probably own this already. If you're new to their world of SSDGM then this is the ultimate "gateway drug". It's a fantastic memoir and worth your credit. Give it a whirl.

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Could have listened for many more hours

I am a big fan of MFM and was present when one part of this book was recorded at a live show. The honesty and vulnerability put forth by Karen and Georgia was raw and lovely. I enjoyed their reading and am pre disposed to enjoy the content which speaks to my heart. They helped me and many like me find our tribe. Bravo



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Stay Sexy and Don’t Put This Book Down

Congrats to Karen and Georgia for this culmination of what must have been incredibly hard work! I listened to the entire audiobook on my way back to the States from London, and it made my flight so much more bearable. I will say that the bits where Paul Giamatti read felt out of place (especially because I’m used to hearing only Georgia, Karen, or STEVEN when I listen to MFM), but I still loved the whole book. Georgia and Karen clearly understand the messages that have resonated with their listeners and know that we want to get to know them better, and this was a great opportunity to spend time on both of those things. 10/10, would recommend. (P.S., Georgia, you said you were worried we’d hate you guys after reading this book. I love you even more.)

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I'm not crying, you're crying.

They deserve this book, and so do we! So far, so good. I'm really happy I can support these two wonderful ladies.

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Stay sexy and listen to this audiobook!

I laughed, I cried, I loved it! I've been a long time fan of MFM and couldn't wait for this to come out!

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  • 07-12-19

Funny, moving, relatable stories from 2 badass ♀♀

Loved the honesty we've come to expect from these ladies. Particularly taken with Georgia's writing, no-holds-barred vulnerability and revealing back stories. I honestly love you girls and you've felt like friends to me when I didn't have friends I could relate to in the same way. Your message is so inspiring and empowering. Delighted this journey has worked out so well for you both. Good on ye ♥️

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  • 06-12-19

Love it!!!

This is soo good!! I love how there are livereadings in the book :) The part where Georgia talks about "little me" is my favorite part!

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  • 06-05-19

Love love loved it.

This book got me through my first (mini) marathon and several commutes. So I’m going to re listen so I can hear all the bits I missed while panting my way round the marathon route.