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Publisher's Summary

Lisa Damour, PhD, director of the internationally renowned Laurel School's Center for Research on Girls, pulls back the curtain on the teenage years and shows why your daughter's erratic and confusing behavior is actually healthy, necessary, and natural. Untangled explains what's going on, prepares parents for what's to come, and lets them know when it's time to worry.

In this sane, highly engaging, and informed guide for parents of daughters, Dr. Damour draws on decades of experience and the latest research to reveal the seven distinct - and absolutely normal - developmental transitions that turn girls into grown-ups, including parting with childhood, contending with adult authority, entering the romantic world, and caring for themselves. Providing realistic scenarios and welcome advice on how to engage daughters in smart, constructive ways, Untangled gives parents a broad framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most common questions, including:

  • My 13-year-old rolls her eyes when I try to talk to her and only does it more when I get angry with her about it. How should I respond?
  • Do I tell my teen daughter that I'm checking her phone?
  • My daughter suffers from test anxiety. What can I do to help her?
  • Where's the line between healthy eating and having an eating disorder?
  • My teenage daughter wants to know why I'm against pot when it's legal in some states. What should I say?
  • My daughter's friend is cutting herself. Do I call the girl's mother to let her know?

Perhaps most important, Untangled helps mothers and fathers understand, connect with, and grow with their daughters. When parents know what makes their daughter tick, they can embrace and enjoy the challenge of raising a healthy, happy young woman.

©2016 Lisa Damour (P)2016 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

"For years people have been asking me for the 'girl equivalent of Raising Cain', and I haven't known exactly what to recommend. Now I do." (Michael Thompson, PhD, coauthor of Raising Cain)
"An essential guide to understanding and supporting girls throughout their development. It's obvious that Dr. Damour 'gets' girls and understands the best way for any adult to help them navigate the common yet difficult challenges so many girls face." (Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees & Wannabes)
"A gem. Damour deftly blends insights from her clinical experience working with girls, time-honored wisdom on adolescence, the latest social science and neuroscience research, and frank descriptions of cultural trends and media messages. From the moment I read the last page I've been recommending it to my clients (including those with sons!) and colleagues, and using it as a refreshing guide in my own work with teenagers and their parents." (Wendy Mogel, PhD, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee)

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Love it! Living it! Beyond amazing

In love with this audio book.... the person reading it and the content.... so many stories or scenarios I've already went thru my daughter and made me laugh so much... I used one of examples when I had to continuously ask my daughter to work in her school work, and grades... finally told her I've given you all the tools to succeed and always will be here, but you are responsible for going to schoool, getting your work done, and getting good grades. It's your responsibility not mine.... it HELPED... this book is an amazing guide to what teens bring to the table!!! Thanks for such a well written book.... I never write reviews as you might be able to tell ^^^^ but just wanted other parents to know that it helped me in so many ways... thanks!!!!!

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A "must read" for any parent with an adolescent or teenaged daughter!

This is undoubtably the best guide ever for raising adolescent and teenaged daughters. Lisa Damour easily explains the adolescent and teenaged female mind, the importance of "tribes," how to discuss important and difficult topics, how to respond to inevitable teenaged behaviors, how and where to draw the proverbial line, and more. It was encouraging to hear that I was already doing many of the suggestions (I read and research a lot - LOL), but this book also provided many, many insights and crucial information. I repeatedly found myself saying, "great point!", "yes!", "wow, that's really good to know!", etc. The author does a fantastic job narrating her book and always keeps it fresh and interesting.

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About time.....

Through this book I could recognize myself as I too, was going through these stages. Now I can fully understand what my daughter is going through. And I love all the helpful suggestons, tried a few already and many argumets have been avoided and we both understood each others point of view. I have to admit, I thought the author had been secretly following us because the book was following our every aspect of our journey so far. I'll be re-reading in case I missed anything!

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Great insights

This book was wonderful in its insights. It helped me find some logical reasons for what we saw as illogical behavior

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I will be listening to this again.

I have a 12 yr old daughter, and have successfully applied some strategies even before the book was done. Very insightful giving me knconfidence

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So helpful!

I know I will refer to this book time and again as different challenges arise. I love the way she walks through different situations and helps with what to say.

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So happy a friend recommended this to me!

I have a 10 year old daughter and I’m thrilled that I’ve read (I.e. listened) to this book now! Although I know it won’t take away every challenge of parenting, teen years, etc., I feel more educated and equipped. Also, even though my daughter is 10 and doesn’t have much in the way of hormones showing up, I realized that there is far more than just hormones that affects teen development, etc. it’s also the transformation of the brain which plays a huge role, so some of the topics already apply to us now, even though hormones aren’t necessarily the cause!

I love books that involve science of brain development... but also know that there is something called “real life.” Lisa does an amazing job of making the suggestions and information realistic even with “typical” teenage girl responses.

Yes, there are a couple spots where the author’s beliefs differ from mine (some around LGBTQ and also some around sex), but I feel that even those topics were very fair and balanced and I feel like i was equipped to mix the knowledge gained with my personal beliefs.

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A must-read for the parent of a teen girl

I truly appreciate all that I learned in this book and have been putting it in to action from day one. I only wish I had read it sooner (my daughter is 14). Damour's approach is high-level and easily digestible. She doesn't dive too deeply into any one issue, and that's okay. Her "When to Worry" chapter summaries were very valuable, and I appreciate her matter-of-fact way of approaching subjects such as drugs and sex. Highly recommended.

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Effective communication methods, but she guides you toward immoral standards, creating new larger problems in order to cope with others.

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AWESOME book on parenting teenage girls!!!!

Really fantastic insights into your teenage daughter actions & struggles!!! Great ideas & even suggestions for how to communicate with her about tough issues!!!