• Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen

  • The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School
  • By: Michelle Icard
  • Narrated by: Michelle Icard
  • Length: 10 hrs and 5 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (209 ratings)

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Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen

By: Michelle Icard
Narrated by: Michelle Icard
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Publisher's summary

The 14 essential conversations to have with your tween and early teenager to prepare them for the emotional, physical, and social challenges ahead, including scripts and advice to keep the communication going and stay connected during this critical developmental window.

"This book is a gift to parents and teenagers alike." (Lisa Damour, PhD, author of Untangled and Under Pressure)

Trying to convince a middle schooler to listen to you can be exasperating. Indeed, it can feel like the best option is not to talk! But keeping kids safe - and prepared for all the times when you can't be the angel on their shoulder - is about having the right conversations at the right time. From a brain growth and emotional readiness perspective, there is no better time for this than their tween years, right up to when they enter high school.

Distilling Michelle Icard's decades of experience working with families, Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen focuses on big, thorny topics such as friendship, sexuality, impulsivity, and technology, as well as unexpected conversations about creativity, hygiene, money, privilege, and contributing to the family. Icard outlines a simple, memorable, and family-tested formula for the best approach to these essential talks, the BRIEF Model: Begin peacefully, Relate to your child, Interview to collect information, Echo what you're hearing, and give Feedback. With wit and compassion, she also helps you get over the most common hurdles in talking to tweens, including:

  • What phrases invite connection and which irritate kids or scare them off
  • The best places, times, and situations in which to initiate talks
  • How to keep kids interested, open, and engaged in conversation
  • How to exit these chats in a way that keeps kids wanting more

Like a Rosetta Stone for your tween's confounding language, Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen is an essential communication guide to helping your child through the emotional, physical, and social challenges ahead and, ultimately, toward teenage success.

This audiobook includes a downloadable PDF of conversation starters to have with your kids.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Michelle Icard (P)2021 Random House Audio

Critic reviews

“There’s no such thing as The Talk anymore. To raise the healthiest, most resilient kids, parents need to have hundreds of talks over many years. With Michelle Icard’s big-picture framing of what to cover and deep dive into how you can say it all, the task will be much less daunting. It might even be fun.” (Cara Natterson, MD, author of Decoding Boys: New Science Behind the Subtle Art of Raising Sons)

Fourteen (Talks) by (Age) Fourteen offers incredible insight and empathy to both young adolescents and their stressed-out parents. Icard makes clear that the stakes are high - we must not shy away from these crucial conversations with our children. This book is the guide we’ve been waiting for.”—­ (Devorah Heitner, PhD, author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World)

“An incredibly user-friendly and straightforward guide. A must-read for caregivers of adolescents, providing readers with the necessary tools to talk to their tweens and sustain happy and healthy relationships.” (Booklist)