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That's Not What I Meant
- The Sociolinguistics of Everyday Conversation - The Modern Scholar
- Narrated by: Deborah Tannen
- Length: 7 hrs and 22 mins
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Publisher's summary
A person's conversational style includes far more than the words that he or she speaks. Each conversation is composed of contextual cues, unspoken messages, body language, and the rhythms of speech. For the most part, people communicate without a conscious focus on the subtleties of language. Through this course, the complexities of language, and all that language entails, will become more apparent.
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- pebblesinwater
- 02-23-23
Tannen is terrific
I really appreciate her insights though the format of a lecture is a little odd for me.
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- Rose Flower
- 10-15-21
Excellent material, but is in lecture format
Excellent material, but is in lecture format. The entire work teaches about differences in conversational style issues. Mine tends toward a more anecdotal story telling style, so I found "You Just Don't Understand" (by Tannen as well) more enjoyable, but as that focused specific on male/female disconnect, it did not cover such a wide range of styles and customs in conversation as this work. This is much better for a serious student of the topic as it also teaches specific terms for each type of communication difference making other works on the topic easier to understand. Probably should be 5 stars, but I just didn't enjoy it quite as much as the other by by the same author.
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- Incognito
- 01-24-21
Should be required reading in schools worldwide
Loved it, author's voice is a great plus as well. Wish I had known at least some of this at an earlier age. Oh well, live and learn. Will be spreading the word. Do yourself and those around you a favor and listen, please pretty please?
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- Mr Conway
- 08-17-12
Helpful Perceptions, not Scienctic Study
This is not a book about science, rather it's a book about perceptions. Where this book is presented as Scholarly lecture series it implies that it should be treated as having a basis in factual reality, but this is not what you are receiving. While the work begins with descriptive terms and possible scientific approaches to Sociolinguistics, the lectures work much better as self-help.
The author goes through a variety of elements of conversation which may allow the listener to improve their personal relationships with those around them through adjustments in the speech or by recognizing those issues of others.Those seeking scientific scholarship will be disappointed, those seeking an introduction to Social Linguistics in a non-scientific vocabulary will really enjoy.
The Modern Scholar: He Said/She Said: Women, Men and Language, also by Deborah Tannen, is VERY similar to this series. I would not recommend purchasing both.
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- Nichael
- 07-05-18
Warning: This is NOT the audiobook.
I very much enjoy Deborah Tanne's work, and found this item interesting.
**HOWEVER** it is important to note that this is *NOT* an audio-book of Tannen's book "That's Not What I Meant"
Rather, it is series of lectures, presumably meant to accompany the book. (For example, if you download accompanying PDF "study guide" it recommends reading the corresponding chapters in the book.)
If you're looking for, or would prefer, something like a lecture, that's fine. But if you're expecting an audio-book of the Tannen's book, just be aware that this isn't it.
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- Crispin
- 12-10-20
Great Great book
That's not what I meant is a really humbling eye opener; a requisite antidote to most misunderstandings and disagreements that arise in everyday conversations. It's really been an interesting journey listening to this audio book
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- Irena
- 10-01-15
Sociolinguistics of conversational styles.
I loved this course. Excellent, both in content and in narration. Professor Debora Tannen presents sociolinguistics' findings on cultural and gender differences between conversational styles in engaging andceffective way, but also without dumbing down the topic.
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- Jun
- 09-01-21
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This is a relatively short book about people's differences in conversational styles and the importance in understanding those. What I think is the most important realization from this book is that "people don’t wait until they have something important to say in order to talk," and "how we say what we say communicates social meanings." In particular, an important mindset I learned is to recognize the "framing" of a conversation and to reframe the conversation when necessary, either directly or indirectly. Other than this, I think Professor Tannen's other lecture series is richer and more systematic in covering all of the topics here.
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- Tilley
- 10-05-09
Interesting
If you have read any of Deborah Tannen's popular titles, you will probably enjoy this. It is billed as a series of lectures (boring!) but you could just as easily reframe it as different chapters in an audio book.
Concepts are explained simply and clearly. It is quite accessable to the lay person, because there isn't an assumed level of knowledge.
Having read some previous titles by the same author, several vignettes were familiar, but it was quite amusing/entertaining to hear them read aloud. (eg the story about the pediatrician talking to the little girl.)
There is also an accompanying booklet to download. If you are considering downloading this title, the accompanying booklet gives a rough idea of what you can expect. It is very helpful if you want to follow up any of the authors cited.
Would highly recommend for people with a general interest in communication, or linguistics.
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- Robin52000
- 05-23-13
okay
Although I am a fan of Deborah Tannen's books, and I have enjoyed attending lectures she has given, I was disappointed in this series. There was a lot of repetition, to the point where I kept thinking I was listening to a record that was skipping and stuck on the same sentence. I'm not talking about expounding on a topic or rephrasing it, but rather an almost verbatim account of the same sentences. Based on this, even though I am interested in the subjects she writes/talks about, I would hesitate to get another one of her audio lectures.
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