That's Not What I Meant

By: Deborah Tannen

Narrated by: Deborah Tannen

You know the feeling: You thought you said exactly what you wanted to, but somehow a different message comes across. You end up feeling misunderstood...and the relationship that you're building -- at home, on the job, on a date, or in an interview -- slips a little further out of your control.
Talk is the key to any relationship and conversational style is the key to any conversation. In That's Not What I Meant!, Dr. Tannen helps you recognize your own conversational style and understand the styles of others.
Whether you are dealing with a person who's too quiet or someone who's a conversational bulldozer, learning to understand conversational style will help you deal with any situation. Through this understanding, you can prevent small differences from sparking big arguments, really hear what was said -- and what wasn't.
That's Not What I Meant! will give you the tools to save any conversation -- or relationship.

Nice book. Wish it was longer.

It’s a book that helps me understand why miscommunication happens. Wish there is a fix for it. 😅

Some communication tips

This extremely short work discusses some of the miscommunication issues that can arise in conversation due to differences coming from gender, culture or individual traits. It provides a handy look at how to reinterpet people's communications that may otherwise seem nonsensical.

Short and sweet

More of an introduction on communication rather than an actual book... needed to be longer !

How to reframe conversations

I didn’t realize how short the book was wish it was a longer book. Great information.

Insightful, As Always

Excellent information, excellent advice, but not enough of it. I didn't realize this was a severely abridged version of Tannen's work, or I would have looked for it elsewhere.