That's Not What I Meant

Narrated by: Deborah Tannen
Length: 1 hr and 23 mins
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You know the feeling: You thought you said exactly what you wanted to, but somehow a different message comes across. You end up feeling misunderstood...and the relationship that you're building -- at home, on the job, on a date, or in an interview -- slips a little further out of your control.

Talk is the key to any relationship and conversational style is the key to any conversation. In That's Not What I Meant!, Dr. Tannen helps you recognize your own conversational style and understand the styles of others.

Whether you are dealing with a person who's too quiet or someone who's a conversational bulldozer, learning to understand conversational style will help you deal with any situation. Through this understanding, you can prevent small differences from sparking big arguments, really hear what was said -- and what wasn't.

That's Not What I Meant! will give you the tools to save any conversation -- or relationship.

©1987 Deborah Tannen (P)1991 Simon & Schuster

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Insightful, As Always

Excellent information, excellent advice, but not enough of it. I didn't realize this was a severely abridged version of Tannen's work, or I would have looked for it elsewhere.

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Miscommunicated Title

This is an extremely abridged version yet doesn't say that in the title like most books do. For the topic of communicating clearly, this missed the mark. Wish I could get my credit back.

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Good read

Insightful on how we all have different communication styles and some good general suggestions on how to avoid miscommunication.