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In the spirit of Amy Poehler's Yes Please, Lena Dunham's Not That Kind of Girl, and Roxane Gay's Bad Feminist, a powerful collection of essays about gender, sexuality, race, beauty, Hollywood, and what it means to be a modern woman.

One month before the release of the highly anticipated film The Birth of a Nation, actress Gabrielle Union shook the world with a vulnerable and impassioned editorial in which she urged our society to have compassion for victims of sexual violence. In the wake of rape allegations made against director and actor Nate Parker, Union - a 44-year-old actress who launched her career with roles in iconic '90s movies - instantly became the insightful, outspoken actress that Hollywood has been desperately awaiting. With honesty and heartbreaking wisdom, she revealed her own trauma as a victim of sexual assault: "It is for you that I am speaking. This is real. We are real."

In this moving collection of thought-provoking essays infused with her unique wisdom and deep humor, Union uses that same fearlessness to tell astonishingly personal and true stories about power, color, gender, feminism, and fame. Union tackles a range of experiences, including bullying, beauty standards and competition between women in Hollywood, growing up in white California suburbia and then spending summers with her black relatives in Nebraska, coping with crushes, puberty, and the divorce of her parents. Genuine and perceptive, Union bravely lays herself bare, uncovering a complex and courageous life of self-doubt and self-discovery with incredible poise and brutal honesty. Throughout, she compels us to be ethical and empathetic and reminds us of the importance of confidence, self-awareness, and the power of sharing truth, laughter, and support.

©2017 Gabrielle Union (P)2017 HarperCollins Publishers

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So relatable

I have PTSD too and to here what this brave woman goes through daily. As a veteran I connected with her struggle and her pain. She is amazing and brave. Beautiful transparency!

9 of 9 people found this review helpful

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Get prepared to talk to your bestie and girlie

Wow. Loved learning about Gabrielle Union's story and what made her who she is. She spills the tea on lots and makes you feel vulnerable with her as she has healed along her journey of becoming the woman you see today, a woman that is ready for so much more. She tells her story of how she learned to live, forgive, and be in the present. She holds herself accountable to fame and social justice, and why its important for her to be aware. Great listen for a long workday...Amazing.

21 of 23 people found this review helpful

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Fucking. Amazing.

Love. This. Fucking. Book.
Drank no wine while listening, I now regret that. Doing over.

4 of 4 people found this review helpful

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For all little girls who grew up as the only chocolate chip

This book in an insightful and thoughtful memoir. In getting to know Nikki Union, I got to revisit myself, my life, and my judgments of myself and others. The reality of growing up in a white world no longer seem like a narrative shared by a small group of college friends, but a universal reality for all of us whose lives have always been a balancing act to claim our identity while being told we don’t belong in either world we seek a place.
This book is a must read and a must share. My hope is that it becomes a handbook for our white best friends. I believe it makes plain some truths that somehow remain misunderstood.
I’ve made a gift of it to several people already and suggested it to many others. I think Gabrielle’s honesty reads like a talk with a best friend about the stuff one never share with one’s family. She shared her soul. In doing so, she gave permission for readers to do the same. Thank you.

4 of 4 people found this review helpful

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Interesting Anecdotes, but Some Sense of Hyperbole

Gabrielle's book did hold my interest...mostly. Some of the topics were relatable to me as a black woman in her age range, but much of it seemed to be a bit exaggerated. I didn't mind the hyperbole *too* much, but what started to get to me was her incessant references to her fame and celebrity. Yes, she is a celebrity. Yes, she has some fame. And while I think she does have some really cool stuff on her resume, I like to be able to see celebrities as relatable. It seemed to me that the more she tried to be relatable, the more she felt the need to be sure the reader not forget her fame and fortune. Telling us with pomposity how rich and famous you are at the beginning of the sentence is not negated by tacking on some sort of humble verbiage toward the end. Two-thirds of the way in I was too busy rolling my eyes distracted by her hubris to really appreciate what she had to say. And that's a shame.

3 of 3 people found this review helpful

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Candid and unforgettable

I'm not sure what made me initially chose this book, I didn't know Gabrielle as a star and didn't have anyone suggest this one to me. I think the topic overview and the fun title helped reel me in however I do not regret the decision to listen. I plan on listening to this again..maybe several times and want to share this with others for an open dialogue. This is one book that moved me, opened and broadened my perspective and gave me the energy needed to advocate on several social topics that I already feel passionate about. I loved Gabrielle's humor, story, courage and am now a forever fan!

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Excellent

The fastest I got through a book ever because it was so raw and real. I now love her. I am her. I want more stories.

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👏🏾👏🏾 thank you. Thank You. THANK YOU!! #BRAVO

My Lord! Such an honest and open depiction of life. ALL OF IT. As an actress, recovering perfectionist, high school AP and National Honor Society student, and black girl growing up in the suburbs of Arlington, TX, myself — Gabrielle Union hits the nail on the head...in more ways than I could’ve imagined!!! Authenticity at its finest. Plus, hearing her tell her own story in her own words, is the icing on an already delicious cake. She made me feel like I’m not crazy.

In the words of Marianne Williamson, “as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.” Thank you for the OK to stand a bit taller and breathe a bit deeper in my own #BlackGirlMagic.

I like sweet wine. Virtual glass of Riesling raised to you, Gabrielle Union. CHEERS!

6 of 7 people found this review helpful

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One of the best books I️ have read in a long time!!!

This book made me laugh, cry and smile all the way through. I️ truly felt like I️ was sitting down with one of my girlfriends just talking. Gab was so vulnerable and open in so many ways. It had me on the edge of my seat the whole time. It’s a must read/ listen!!!

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Great Investment

This book touched my soul on so many levels. so many life lessons. love it. thanks for sharing your story and life. blessing

13 of 17 people found this review helpful

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  • A Leonie
  • 10-23-17

Well yes,I'll take a scotch.

Straight out the gate this was excellent. The flow of each chapter felt like a steady conversation, where drinks and honesty are on the table, served with tissue breaks for laughter and pain,and head scratching moments for further back and forth discussions that will last a lifetime. The chapter titles along are worthy of essay and dissertation pieces,and I expect many book forums will be heading that way. I enjoyed the audio version,having the author read was a delight, Union did a marvellous run for her debut. Well worth buying in any format,but audio was the winner for me.

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  • davinia natasha gray
  • 02-12-18

if you like Being Mary Jane, you will like this.

Enjoyed her vulnerability. I loved the way she recognizes her weaknesses and is able to then work through the pain of each situation and stand accountable for her actions. She's lovable.

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  • Joweria K.
  • 02-08-18

Found myself crying on public transport

When you play this audio book you’ll be moved and listen carefully. Every story has a message listen and you’ll really hear her. I found myself in her stories and I was able to hear her loud and clear.

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  • Jennifer
  • 02-06-18

Loved loved loved

Gabrielle makes you feel at home. She is like a girlfriend in that her unreserved honesty makes her as real as a friend sitting beside you. The book was funny but also heart warming, and shared insights into her experience as a black woman and as a survivor

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  • Gynelle Leon
  • 01-29-18

Must read

Such an eloquent beautifully honest and inspiring book. I enjoyed hearing all the twists and turns from the journey of her life. Gabrielle Union is so honest and admits past errors and shows the lessons she and others can learn. I finished it in almost one day because it was so sincere, entertaining, insightful and inspiring. The perfect combination! Congratulations Gabrielle on such an amazing book!

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  • natasha
  • 01-21-18

Love it, love it, love it

Wow. I am glad I decided to get this book. I loved all of it. I didn't know much about Gabrielle Union personally, I am amazed by what is doing and how frank she is. Very brave of her to share a part of her.

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  • 01-20-18

Honest and witty

A very honest and fearless approach to telling her story. So many messages resonate... A good read and insightful view of the"true" Gabrielle.

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  • C. Campbell
  • 01-19-18

Eye opening frank and very readable

I enjoyed the ebb and flow of the narrative of the book which had lots of revealing truths about relationships families and life. it was very well written. The narration was engaging and clear. I look forward to reading more from Ms Union's story telling library.

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  • K
  • 01-03-18

Well Read

Great insight into the ordinary life of a well know human. We've all got a story, thank you for sharing

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-21-17

Refreshingly honest

I was disappointed when it ended!Brilliant listen. Loved the messages. Hoping for a follow up

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  • Fungai
  • 01-26-18

very enjoyable <br />

Great read, funny and relatable. Gabrielle takes the reader on a journey and having Gabrielle narrate it herself is a major bonus.

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  • craig
  • 01-07-18

Honest Stories

What did you like most about We're Going to Need More Wine?

I love the honesty of the stories Union tells. Hearing Union tell these stories herself brings another dimension to the experience. She's not afraid to be flawed.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I heard Union's interview on Death, Sex Money and the same day downloaded the audio book.

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  • Kantesha
  • 11-01-17

Empowering and Entertaining

This book was so engaging and entertaining. It really felt as if Gabrielle was sitting across the table from me and we were enjoying a glass of wine. I didn’t think any actresses story would relate to me, but it totally did, on so many different levels. Loved this book and I highly recommend it.