You Will Find Your People

By: Lane Moore

Narrated by: Lane Moore

Length: 5 hrs and 48 mins

Publisher's summary

From Lane Moore, the critically acclaimed author of How to Be Alone, comes a searingly intimate, yet wildly funny exploration of the frustrating, messy, and, at times, deeply joyful experience of learning how to make meaningful friendships as an adult.

Part memoir, part self-help, You Will Find Your People uncovers the complex, frightening, and often vulnerable process of building real, healthy friendships and finally creating your chosen family. Moore takes listeners on a journey that examines and challenges the ideas of friendship we’ve seen in pop culture, answers every question you’ve ever had about friend breakups, and teaches us how to fearlessly ask for what we want in friendships once and for all.

Full of Moore’s hilarious personal anecdotes, advice on how to identify your attachment style, and real tools to create better communication and boundaries, this book is your personal guide on how to heal from your past friendships, improve your current ones, and finally have the friendships we know we deserve.

This audiobook includes a bonus chapter written by the author exclusively for the audio edition!

©2023 Lane Moore (P)2023 Recorded Books

Hilarious and Healing

This beautiful audiobook is like a healing balm for the soul. Lane Moore's insights into friendship are so wise and thoughtfully written (and hilarious).

Her narration is warm, funny, and relatable, it feels like a cozy conversation with a friend who just gets you.

I lost count of how often I quietly shouted "Yes!" when she articulated something I always thought was a weird 'me' thing.

No matter what you've been through in friendships, she makes you feel understood and truly not alone.

I hope to reread and keep absorbing, there's so much practical guidance for common situations like friendship with exes, coworkers, family, even animals. :-)

Lane Moore, you are hilarious, your book is brilliant, and you're my BFF in my heart forever.

Insightful, authentic, and full of charisma

I loved the authenticity and quality of the author narrating this.

Her perspective is so different from mine and prompted valuable and uncomfortable insights about how I can better meet my friends (and future friends) where they are.

Needed this!

Each chapter covers very relatable situations & relationships. Great story telling & funny. Loved this audio book.

Fun, refreshing, vulnerable & hits the spot.

I loved this book. Lane says things we all feel at times. Funny, tender & real. Highly recommend!!

Friendship truths

This was a great perspective on friendship especially during a time when more people are choosing not to marry, live solo or what society considers not to be a traditional life. So many people value romantic relationships over friendships. I loved this book and also the first book. Lane Moore is great to listen to and I suggest reading or listening to the 1st book before this one if you are not familiar with her.

Overall a good perspective on friendships

I enjoyed the book overall. I think Lane did a great job narrating her book. I laughed many times, her raw sense of humor was great. I had several moments of tears as it brought up memories of lost friendships or glad tears for the friends I do have. She made many good points about the work friendships require and the give and take that should happen. I only wish she didn’t use some bad words, like the f*** word, which was maybe 15 or so times in the book, then it might be something I could listen to with my kids or having them in earshot. Had I done more research on Lane (watched some of her comedy for example), I would have been able to guess her writing style.

Was like listening to advice from a friend

Liked it so much that I’ve already ordered a hard copy for myself, and my best friend.

Cringy

I liked Lane’s first book and I can relate to her process of working through her childhood, but this book reads like her therapy journal being marketed as self-help. It’s all very specific to her needs and wants and she projects all her experiences onto the reader as if the they are universal. It made me feel almost defensive. She mostly writes about what her ideal friendships would be like and never considers her own behavior as the other half of these friendships that don’t work out. I think if you’re looking for your people, you should also take some time to look in the mirror and consider what part you are taking in these many MANY failed friendships. Just writing it off to choosing poorly in the first place is a bit of a cop out.

It's fine if you want a rambling memoir

I really wanted to like this, but I didn't find it instructive or helpful in finding ways to be more outgoing, extraverted.
It's very limited to the author's experience/POV about friendships and relationships, and feels pretty repetitive. The performance is engaging in that "oh, you do this weird thing? Me too! Let's be BFFs" but if you're not into that, this will get cloying and hammy fast.

Basic advice for young people

Basic advice that you could get from asking ChatGPT a few questions about friendship. Maybe I just have too much life experience (aka I was just too old for this book to be relevant).