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A close friendship is one of the most influential and important relationships a human life can contain. Anyone will tell you that! But for all the rosy sentiments surrounding friendship, most people don’t talk much about what it really takes to stay close for the long haul.

Now two friends, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman, tell the story of their equally messy and life-affirming Big Friendship in this honest and hilarious book that chronicles their first decade in one another’s lives. As the hosts of the hit podcast Call Your Girlfriend, they’ve become known for frank and intimate conversations. In this book, they bring that energy to their own friendship - its joys and its pitfalls.

Aminatou and Ann define Big Friendship as a strong, significant bond that transcends life phases, geographical locations, and emotional shifts. And they should know: The two have had moments of charmed bliss and deep frustration, of profound connection and gut-wrenching alienation. They have weathered life-threatening health scares, getting fired from their dream jobs, and one unfortunate Thanksgiving dinner eaten in a car in a parking lot in Rancho Cucamonga. Through interviews with friends and experts, they have come to understand that their struggles are not unique. And that the most important part of a Big Friendship is making the decision to invest in one another again and again.

An inspiring and entertaining testament to the power of society’s most underappreciated relationship, Big Friendship will invite you to think about how your own bonds are formed, challenged, and preserved. It is a call to value your friendships in all of their complexity. Actively choose them. And, sometimes, fight for them.

©2020 Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman. All rights reserved. (P)2020 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Tears! (the good kind)

Finished in one day, all the tears! Thank you for writing honestly and beautifully. This love story about your friendship is the catalyst to fight for my own big friendship that needs a little stretching. Thank you for putting words to your hearts!

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Not a lot of substance

The topic of this book could have easily been covered in a magazine article and they should have waited to write the book until they had been friends for like 30 years. It's more of an memoir than a book with a good concrete plan for getting and maintaining big friendships. Just wonder who the audience is for this book?

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Not what I was expecting - but I still enjoyed a lot of it

Overall the listening experience was positive! But I feel the book was presented/marketed as something different than what it was. To me this is more of a joint memoir and less of a self help book on friendship. The writing style felt very natural and made me want to keep listening to the stories. However when thinking to my own experiences on friendship I felt most of this book was extremely unrelatable. I think their experiences are reflecting upper middle class/upper class friendships of ultra-ambitious people living in a major city. I would love to read the Midwestern version of this book. There seems to be quite a bit untapped potential in this space.

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More than friendship ♥️

This book was such a beautiful love letter to friendship. My love of the authors was what led me to these pages, and they more than delivered. The biographical story telling of the pair’s friendship is bolstered by the ancillary voices they invite into this book, providing into the historical context of friendship, feminism, wage disparity, race, and so much more. This book made me want to run to a phone and reconnect with all of the dearest women in my friend web and renew the bonds of this most sacred of pacts. A delight through and through, could not recommend highly enough.

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Beautiful, concise, and inspiring

This book about Big Friendship will resonate with anyone who has had a deep, powerful friendship that felt like a true relationship. Ann and Aminatou tell the story of ups and downs, and provide a powerful reminder to treasure our friendships, invest in them, and honor their significance.

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So good

I can't even write a proper review, I just loved it so much. It's the best work they've put out, and if you are a fan of the podcast, this is a must-own.

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MARVELOUS!!

I was so enthralled with the story that I finished it in 3 days or less! Brought up some thoughts regarding my own friendships and where they stand, I even started writing about my feelings...THANK YOU LADIES for sharing such intimate parts about your friendship with the world😘

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Interesting read. Learned some new words like Shine Theory and Ghosting. But I was uncomfortable reading the book. I thought it was too intimate and some of the intimacy seemed a bit forced. And I do not think that a great relationship with another has to be sooooooo hard and emotionally exhausting---their relationship exhausted me. The audience this will appeal to is far younger than I am. But I don't regret having read it.

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Essential reading

a friendship love story for any & everyone whose friendships may need a little TLC right now (& forever)

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Very Political

I thought I was buying a more scientific book on friendship (I should have researched it better). I appreciate the story, but the far left/liberal messages in the book kept getting in the way of the friendship tips. I appreciate the look into the lives of POC and the different experiences, this was just simply not what I thought I was buying. Peace and Love.