Validation

How the Skill Set That Revolutionized Psychology Will Transform Your Relationships, Increase Your Influence, and Change Your Life

De: Caroline Fleck PhD

Narrado por: Caroline Fleck PhD

"Warning: this book will make you a better parent, partner, colleague, and friend." —Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Hidden Potential

Unlock the secret to true and lasting change.

We all spend a lot of energy trying to get people to listen to us, and despite our best efforts, we often fail. But what if the secret to influencing others was to demonstrate acceptance?

Enter validation—communication where one accepts and sees the validity in another person’s experience. Research on validation shows that it has profound effects, from improving relationships and de-escalating conflicts to increasing one’s influence and self-compassion. In this groundbreaking book, clinical psychologist Caroline Fleck explores how validation’s unique ability to demonstrate acceptance while fostering change makes it one of psychotherapy’s best-kept secrets. More importantly, she takes us step-by-step through eight skills we can use to communicate validation and experience its power firsthand.

Full of captivating stories, laugh-out-loud moments, and actionable takeaways, Validation reveals how the science of seeing and being seen is the key to inner and interpersonal transformation.


* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF featuring visuals from the book.

Validation for this book

Dr. Fleck has written a very relevant and helpful book about the importance of validation in all of our lives. Insight regarding ways to validate others and ourselves is communicated in a very helpful &’personal manner. This is a must-read book for anyone who wants to improve relationships with themselves and others

I LOVE this book! A must listen.

This book is a nothing short of amazing! Caroline reads clear and with humor. Her message on validation is life changing. I work in mental health and I'm using validation not only in my personal life but at work with my clients every single day! Validating them has helped me build strong rapport and it has help me manage myself and how I interact with the people around me. I will read/listen to this book again and again.

Great stories, good explanations

The narration really helped me make it through this book. It is well done. The information is valuable. It's definitely the type of book you wish everyone would read and apply. Can you imagine if we were all surrounded by people seeking to validate in the right ways?

Caroline’s style and sense of humor is refreshing.

Caroline Fleck’s Validation is a smart, engaging, and refreshingly honest guide to one of the most underrated communication skills: validation. Her writing style—clear, funny, and full of heart—makes complex psychology feel relatable and usable in everyday life.

This book helped me understand the real value of validation—not just as something to offer others, but as a tool for strengthening my own self-worth. I learned how to validate what’s valid (instead of enabling or dismissing), which has completely shifted the way I communicate in relationships.

Even more powerful was the insight into self-validation. Caroline breaks it down in a way that feels doable, not fluffy. Her approach to self-soothing and emotional regulation is practical and empowering.

If you want better relationships, better communication, and a stronger relationship with yourself, this book is a game changer.

The solution for this thwarted problem-solver

I LOVE solving problems. It's my favorite thing to do.

Unfortunately, my excellent problem solving skills seemed to be making communication and relationship issues worse.

This book gave a concrete foundation on how validation and how it is the missing ingredient that we all need to feel accepted.

It was amazing to see the tension release from a partner when I switched from problem solving a predicament to validating her experience.