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Before you plan your wedding, plan your marriage! Wish you could know what you’re getting into when you say “I do”? Now, with Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married, you can. Dr. Gary Chapman, #1 New York Times best-selling author of The 5 Love Languages™, has spent the last thirty-five years counseling couples. In Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married, he shares what he and these couples have learned from experience. Among the twelve things you should know: that being in love is not enough to make a successful marriage, that romantic love has two stages (and how to make the transition), that mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic, and that personality profoundly affects behavior. The stakes on marriage are high, but the rewards of preparing are even higher. Whether you’re single or dating, this audio can be your relationship blueprint and help you decide if and when you’re ready to tie the knot. If you’re engaged, even recently married, it will help you examine your relationship foundation and learn the skills necessary for building a successful marriage. Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married was written to help you realize your goal of marital happiness. But don’t just listen to it - experience it. Grapple with the practical tips and ideas discussed, honestly share your thoughts and feelings, respect each other’s opinions, and find workable solutions to your differences. The more you do so, says Chapman, the more you will be prepared for marriage.

©2010 Oasis Audio; 2010 Gary Chapman

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Useful and Practical!

What made the experience of listening to Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married the most enjoyable?

It contains real-life issues and real-life experiences. I'll listen over and over again.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

1. That being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage

2. That romantic love has two stages

3. The saying: "Like mother, like daughter" and "Like father, like son" is not myth

4. That forgiveness is not a feeling

5. That toilets are not self-cleaning

6. That we needed a plan for handling our money

7. That mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic

8. That I was marrying into a family

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I wish I knew

I wish I'd know these things while dating before I got married. This would have changed the course of many relationships!!! I would have been equipped to successfully be able to deal with such a serious commitment! Trust me singles when I say, "don't take this information lightly or for granted. You will be so much further along in your relationship so it can be a successful one or prevent you from being in an unsuccessful one. YOU WILL ALWAYS NEED TO LEARN. This book is good for married couples to review who have had no training!!! Like the majority of those I know. People get married and just go day by day. They don't enjoy their marriage to the fullest by building it up. What a waist! I'm sure that the keys topics that are touched here have a great amount to do about it. I know it did for me. It's not enough to just be married. We are still alive so it's not too late. Equipping your marriage to be successful is PRICELESS! Great book for singles to prepare, engaged to equip and married couples to review and reconstruct some damaged or undeveloped areas. God bless you for an awesome tool, each chapter is like a little teaser!

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Must read for singles, dating and married couples

I found the book very enlightening and I am 100 percent certain that you will learn something. I liked the book so much that I am going to purchase the actual book. This book is worth every penny and should be read by singles as well as dating and married couples. I hope you enjoy and learn as much as I did.

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Fantastic Book

Although I had listened to the book after I was married, I found the book very enlightening. My favorite part was the five love languages. I recommend that everyone reads his book to have a clue on relationships.

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Best Marriage Advice Book

I have read quite a few marriage prep books and this book had the most real life advice not just the fluffy or the in theory stuff. My fiance and I talked a lot after each chapter. I definitely recommend it!

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Awesome!!!

This is a must read book, even if you are not getting married anytime soon. Everybody that believes will get married in the future will benefit greatly by appying the concepts of this book. It's great! I was so hooked I read it in one day!

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So glad I read it.

I'm in a serious dating relationship, not yet married. We're thinking of engagement and I think this book helped us iron out a lot of our reservations with regards to marriage or readiness for marriage. Highly recommend it!

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A Must Read....

I read books by Gary Chapman during my 14 year marriage, and learned a lot about my relationship. However, I think this book would have properly prepared me for the reality of marriage. Although it does take two to make a relationship work, I think having this book in ones library would be a great start.

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All good!

Everything I expected and more. Well written, well read, very practical while remaining biblical. A must read for all interested in marriage.

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Everyone should read this.

Loved this. Opened my eyes to so much. Everyone should read this. I cant wait to give this to my fiancé.

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  • Rex Osafo-Asare
  • 10-03-17

Fantastic listen!

So very insightful even for those who are already in a Marriage! It just goes to show you that you are not alone in your thinking around the contentious and not so contentious issues a marriage will bring and most importantly, the way in which we resolve these. Mr Chapman - you have done it again!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-20-17

Excellent Insight

This audiobook offers an excellent insight in preparing for a marriage. This book not only embraces the difference between partners but at the same time lets you reflect of what are the non-negotiable things that you can't compromise on.

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  • Tinu Kent.UK
  • 03-15-17

A must for every engaged couple

Where does Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is a book to be listened to over an over again

What did you like best about this story?

Its practicality is mind-blowing.

What does Chris Fabry bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?

The fact that what I am going through is not peculiar to me.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

All aspects of the book are relevant

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  • 03-04-16

A recommended read

A book I will recommend for all intending to marry and have a happy, peaceful one from the start.

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  • Sujatha Vipulananda
  • 03-09-17

Amazing

I like how it was narrated and questions at end of each chapter. It's great novel to use in a relationship before marriage

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  • jesse
  • 06-29-16

Very eye opening

This book isn't just a good read(listen) it's filled with very good examples and it is very eye opening to single people who wish to get married in the future.