The Marriage You've Always Wanted

Narrated by: Gary Chapman
Length: 4 hrs and 16 mins
4.3 out of 5 stars (302 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

"Marriage is God's answer for our deepest human need: Companionship." - Dr. Gary Chapman

And that, according to counselor and relationship expert Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the New York Times best seller The Five Love Languages, is to have deep and lasting union with another, to truly become one. But how can you build that oneness from the beginning? With the expert wisdom and practical common sense that have made him a popular speaker worldwide, Dr. Chapman helps couples with such questions as:

  • "Why won't my spouse change?"
  • "What does it really mean to love someone else?"
  • "How do I get him to listen to me?"
  • "What if I'm the only one working at the marriage?"

    Whether you're starting your life together, or just need to improve communication in your marriage, Dr. Chapman's wisdom will help you move toward "the marriage you've always wanted".

  • ©2005 Gary Chapman (P)2005 Oasis Audio LLC

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    A Must for Marriage Before, During, or After

    Dr. Gary Chapman's approach and voice on marriage, his examination of the core values toward marriage, and the easy-going spirit of his counsel and advice on whole really make it simple for both men and women to grasp and take hold of key ideas that are crucial to making marriage, the most important relationship you might ever have in life, happy, successful, and mutually rewarding. Although this is largely based on Christian views and references much of the Bible's teachings on the subject, it is very practicle and the principles can be understood by all.

    I've now passed this book on to my wife & both sets of parents and include his "Five Love Languages" book along with it... both books should be manditory reading for couples in all stages even if not married. If you've ever had troubles, concerns, doubts, questions, or just curiosity on this subject GET THIS BOOK! Life is way too short to not pickup this diamond of knowledge and key learning.

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    A Primer for godly marriage

    What did you love best about The Marriage You've Always Wanted?

    It really brought together the biblical concept of marriage in a user-friendly format. A must-read before the walk to the altar!

    What did you like best about this story?

    Dr. Chapman defines unity, accountability and equality within the context of marriage. He supports these concepts with scriptural references and delivers the message with remarkable clarity. If you aren't 'convicted' at some point during this book, then you aren't really married!

    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    The personal anecdotes were amusing and helpful (I especially liked the one about the "drawer-opener").

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    It's impossible to do the homework assignments while sailing along @ 70 mph, so you'll probably end up buying the book like I did.

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    The advice in this book is fantastic!

    Dr. Chapman has a way of presenting information so it is easy to understand and based in reality. He has helped hundreds of people save and improve their marriages. I wish I had read it 10 years ago.

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    Not for a non-Christian

    Not for me. I did not expect there to be as much religious reference as there was. May work well and resonate with others who are Christians though.

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    The great communicator!

    Loved the information and in marriage or any relationship it all comes down to clear communication. We may be able to read body language or predict your spouse's response but we are not mind readers. This book gives you insights in how to improve your communication and how to avoid unnecessary stress in a marriage.

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    Basic Common Sense

    The information and recommendations provided in this text are basic and necessary. I would recommend the book for newlyweds. I felt that it lacked true depth and failed to address how a Christian struggling in a situation where the advice provided has been executed, but has not yielded any positive results. Most of the examples seem trivial and laughable (becoming angered about a spouse leaving drawers open, making additional demands on a spouse after he/she has performed a task, being snappy with each other, etc...) but fails to address serious issues in a marriage and advice for those of us who have been introspective, self-condemning and consistently trying to check their behavior but who feel trapped in a marriage that is not enjoyable, but to be endured. Use this book if you have basic issues, but anything that needs more in-depth work, this book felt like being handed a band-aid as a fix for a hemorrhaging wound.

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    A new voice

    Mr. Chapman, read the book very well, but it would be nice to be able to change the voice in Audible.

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    Just do it!

    Read this, you’ll thank yourself and your spouse most definitely will... Thank you, Mr. and Mrs. Chapman!

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    Communication!

    It made us feel like the both of us are not alone It almost felt like we told him our story

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    Excellent!

    If you want to improve your marriage this is a great book for you and your spouse! Enjoy and be happy!

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    • 04-03-20

    Brilliant guide!!

    I love this book. So glad I listened to it! Has been helpful in informing me on ways to improve my relationship with my spouse as a newly wed. I’d advise all married couples new and old or even engaged couples to listen to it. I’ll definitely be revisiting the book each time I need remembrance. Thanks!

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    • 04-04-19

    Very useful and practical

    Very useful and practical book for everyone, written with a gentle attitude and humour too

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    • 12-08-06

    Oh God

    The publishers summary says it all. If you want a book that tells you how to become a better Christian and save your marriage, this may be for you. But if you want to hear psychology and advice, forget it.