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Publisher's Summary

In the spirit of Amy Poehler's Yes Please, Lena Dunham's Not That Kind of Girl, and Roxane Gay's Bad Feminist, a powerful collection of essays about gender, sexuality, race, beauty, Hollywood, and what it means to be a modern woman.

One month before the release of the highly anticipated film The Birth of a Nation, actress Gabrielle Union shook the world with a vulnerable and impassioned editorial in which she urged our society to have compassion for victims of sexual violence. In the wake of rape allegations made against director and actor Nate Parker, Union - a 44-year-old actress who launched her career with roles in iconic '90s movies - instantly became the insightful, outspoken actress that Hollywood has been desperately awaiting. With honesty and heartbreaking wisdom, she revealed her own trauma as a victim of sexual assault: "It is for you that I am speaking. This is real. We are real."

In this moving collection of thought-provoking essays infused with her unique wisdom and deep humor, Union uses that same fearlessness to tell astonishingly personal and true stories about power, color, gender, feminism, and fame. Union tackles a range of experiences, including bullying, beauty standards and competition between women in Hollywood, growing up in white California suburbia and then spending summers with her black relatives in Nebraska, coping with crushes, puberty, and the divorce of her parents. Genuine and perceptive, Union bravely lays herself bare, uncovering a complex and courageous life of self-doubt and self-discovery with incredible poise and brutal honesty. Throughout, she compels us to be ethical and empathetic and reminds us of the importance of confidence, self-awareness, and the power of sharing truth, laughter, and support.

©2017 Gabrielle Union (P)2017 HarperCollins Publishers

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Get prepared to talk to your bestie and girlie

Wow. Loved learning about Gabrielle Union's story and what made her who she is. She spills the tea on lots and makes you feel vulnerable with her as she has healed along her journey of becoming the woman you see today, a woman that is ready for so much more. She tells her story of how she learned to live, forgive, and be in the present. She holds herself accountable to fame and social justice, and why its important for her to be aware. Great listen for a long workday...Amazing.

15 of 17 people found this review helpful

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Great Investment

This book touched my soul on so many levels. so many life lessons. love it. thanks for sharing your story and life. blessing

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Excellent

The fastest I got through a book ever because it was so raw and real. I now love her. I am her. I want more stories.

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For all little girls who grew up as the only chocolate chip

This book in an insightful and thoughtful memoir. In getting to know Nikki Union, I got to revisit myself, my life, and my judgments of myself and others. The reality of growing up in a white world no longer seem like a narrative shared by a small group of college friends, but a universal reality for all of us whose lives have always been a balancing act to claim our identity while being told we don’t belong in either world we seek a place.
This book is a must read and a must share. My hope is that it becomes a handbook for our white best friends. I believe it makes plain some truths that somehow remain misunderstood.
I’ve made a gift of it to several people already and suggested it to many others. I think Gabrielle’s honesty reads like a talk with a best friend about the stuff one never share with one’s family. She shared her soul. In doing so, she gave permission for readers to do the same. Thank you.

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I listened straight through

This was the most eye-opening piece of literature I have listened to in a very long time.

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👏🏾👏🏾 thank you. Thank You. THANK YOU!! #BRAVO

My Lord! Such an honest and open depiction of life. ALL OF IT. As an actress, recovering perfectionist, high school AP and National Honor Society student, and black girl growing up in the suburbs of Arlington, TX, myself — Gabrielle Union hits the nail on the head...in more ways than I could’ve imagined!!! Authenticity at its finest. Plus, hearing her tell her own story in her own words, is the icing on an already delicious cake. She made me feel like I’m not crazy.

In the words of Marianne Williamson, “as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.” Thank you for the OK to stand a bit taller and breathe a bit deeper in my own #BlackGirlMagic.

I like sweet wine. Virtual glass of Riesling raised to you, Gabrielle Union. CHEERS!

4 of 5 people found this review helpful

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One of the best books I️ have read in a long time!!!

This book made me laugh, cry and smile all the way through. I️ truly felt like I️ was sitting down with one of my girlfriends just talking. Gab was so vulnerable and open in so many ways. It had me on the edge of my seat the whole time. It’s a must read/ listen!!!

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Good to know

Good story but seem all over the place yo me not a real time line. She went from high school, middle school, to now to back to high school to 8 years ago to now. the stories were okay
I can say the only thing I learned new about her would be that she has had 8 miscarriages. I pray that her and her husband are able to have a baby soon. I like Gab and her story was ok.

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I really wanted to like this

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I almost got all the way through. I liked reading about her life and growing into the person she is today but the constant "black" being treated as inferior got on my nerves. I was interested in the person not the color of.

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  • JONESBORO, GEORGIA, United States
  • 01-08-18

PAINT DRYING

Gabrielle is an extremely talented actress and has the ability to transform into any character she takes on. Too bad none of these abilities carried over to her book. Listening to her read was the equivalent of listening to paint drying. After hearing the works to Jenifer Lewis, Tiffany Haddish and Taraji, I was excited to hear from Ms. Gabrielle. To my disappointment, Silence for this audio book is the Platinum choice.

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  • A Leonie
  • 10-23-17

Well yes,I'll take a scotch.

Straight out the gate this was excellent. The flow of each chapter felt like a steady conversation, where drinks and honesty are on the table, served with tissue breaks for laughter and pain,and head scratching moments for further back and forth discussions that will last a lifetime. The chapter titles along are worthy of essay and dissertation pieces,and I expect many book forums will be heading that way. I enjoyed the audio version,having the author read was a delight, Union did a marvellous run for her debut. Well worth buying in any format,but audio was the winner for me.

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  • natasha
  • 01-21-18

Love it, love it, love it

Wow. I am glad I decided to get this book. I loved all of it. I didn't know much about Gabrielle Union personally, I am amazed by what is doing and how frank she is. Very brave of her to share a part of her.

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  • 01-20-18

Honest and witty

A very honest and fearless approach to telling her story. So many messages resonate... A good read and insightful view of the"true" Gabrielle.

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  • C. Campbell
  • 01-19-18

Eye opening frank and very readable

I enjoyed the ebb and flow of the narrative of the book which had lots of revealing truths about relationships families and life. it was very well written. The narration was engaging and clear. I look forward to reading more from Ms Union's story telling library.

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  • K
  • 01-03-18

Well Read

Great insight into the ordinary life of a well know human. We've all got a story, thank you for sharing

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-21-17

Refreshingly honest

I was disappointed when it ended!Brilliant listen. Loved the messages. Hoping for a follow up

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  • hkatsonga
  • 12-20-17

Enjoyable easy listen.

I shouldn't really compare but I preferred this to Taraji's autobiography. She shared more about her, "Gabrielle Union", the person rather than too much about the acting and her roles which is what I disliked about Taraji's book.

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  • LLoyd
  • 11-30-17

Great hearing her story and struggle.

Great hearing her story as she speaks her truth, her struggle strength and acknowledges her weakness. Real life story and so open. Need to hear more like this.

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  • Kemi Oyeneyin
  • 11-29-17

Insightful and Witty

Gabrielle Union delivered her life story with honesty, courage, with and humour. She’s someone I’ve followed since childhood so it was great to get a better insight into her life and personality

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  • rachael
  • 11-28-17

Brilliant!

I laughed, I cried and I empathised- all the way through. I felt like I knew her- because her story is so close to mine. A good read.

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  • craig
  • 01-07-18

Honest Stories

What did you like most about We're Going to Need More Wine?

I love the honesty of the stories Union tells. Hearing Union tell these stories herself brings another dimension to the experience. She's not afraid to be flawed.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I heard Union's interview on Death, Sex Money and the same day downloaded the audio book.

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  • Kantesha
  • 11-01-17

Empowering and Entertaining

This book was so engaging and entertaining. It really felt as if Gabrielle was sitting across the table from me and we were enjoying a glass of wine. I didn’t think any actresses story would relate to me, but it totally did, on so many different levels. Loved this book and I highly recommend it.