Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

By: Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD

Narrated by: Rachel Perry

Length: 7 hrs and 20 mins

Publisher's summary

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you probably still struggle with anger, sadness, resentment, or shame. As a child, your emotional needs were not met, your feelings were dismissed, and you likely took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent's behavior. Somewhere along the way, you lost your sense of self. And without this strong sense of self, you may feel like your own well-being isn't valuable.

In this compassionate guide you'll find tips and tools to help you set boundaries with others, honor and validate your emotions, and thrive in the face of life's challenges. You'll discover how to protect yourself from hurtful behavior, stop making excuses for others' limitations, forge healthier relationships, and feel more confident in your life. Most importantly, you'll learn how to stop putting others' needs before your own and manage daily stressors.

Self-care means honoring and respecting the self. But when you grow up with emotionally immature parents, you are taught that setting limits is selfish and uncaring. You are taught to seek approval instead of authenticity in relationships. But there's another way to go through life - one in which you can take care of yourself, first and foremost. Let this book guide you toward a new way of being.

©2021 Lindsay Gibson (P)2021 Tantor

Not the Best

I would recommend Pete Walker's "Complex PTSD" a million times over this book. It's a far more practical guide to understanding and self-healing.

Tortured Metaphors, Baseless Aphorisms

Just read the first two books and skip this one. It is painfully trite, ableist, and privileged. The beginning of the book feels useful, but nothing you can't find in the other two.

The rest is filled with inaccurate references to things she doesn't understand, toxic positivity, mercilessly tortured metaphors, cliches, and aphorisms that'll make your eyes roll to the back of your skull. All while ignoring the extreme privilege from which she doles out her "sage wisdom." Rarely has a self-help book inspired such strong negative sentiments for me, but the way this book is written is intolerable.

I really expected more from this based on her other books, but this feels like a filler piece to put out a third book in the Adult Children of EI Parents "trilogy." Save yourself some time, money, and frustration by skipping this.

Wonderful for those who learned self-care from an emotionally immature person!

I am thankful that I have my mind opened to thoughts that I never dared to consider, such as, I might be worth something no matter how hard I work. I am worth something by just…being.
It seems that the blinders are finally coming loose from around my eyes and I am seeing the possibilities of what my life can be even at 55 years old. I sure hope there’s a lot more than what I’ve seen, lived, and been so far. This book helps me have hope for me even still.

R. H.

Not her best book

It is cheesy, but inspiring. Her other books were phenomenal and really helpful for me. This one was less so but there were definitely moments that I found to be particularly instructive.

Too scattered

Some good pieces, but overall too scattered to really be helpful. It was hard to know who the book was supposed to help.

Ever wondered what the hell is going on???

If like me you’re at mid life & taking a good loooong look around this book quite possibly holds many answers for you. It did for me. It’s basically the book that has changed my life - one short, wise chapter at a time. Some are on continuous repeat. I only wish I’d come across it decades earlier. A liberating experience I wish the whole world would read it.

Outstanding book!

This series of books by Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD has completely changed my life for the better. Adopting its teachings has transformed my quality of life and given me the inner happiness and tranquility I was truly searching for. I highly recommend it!

Incredible!

There are so many ideas to learn from in this book. It contains a lifetime of helpful suggestions no matter what your parental background. Thanks for putting it together.

Excellent…

It’s like an encyclopedia of every aspect of life… The wisdom within can’t help but improve your understanding of human behavior and your own.

Emotionally Rewarding

It's an all-around good book that reminds us to forgive ourselves and others. It allowed me to see things from a new perspective while validating my experience and emotions. 10/10 recommend. Also, the narrator was phenomenal. I am very particular and they did an excellent job.

Insightful

I liked the knowledge shared and how it was shared, from a compassionate perspective on the self. This is a valuable book that I will return to over and over to assimilate this knowledge.
Thank you Dr. Gibson, Rachel Perry and Audible!

Not as good as her other books

loved her other books but not so much this one. I felt it was mostly about how NOT to be in an EIP .

Loved it!

It was fabulous and inspiring. Highly recommend. Thanks so much Lindsey for your insights :) xx

Good advice presented shortly and understandably

I struggled ot finish mostly because some chapters hit home so hard, I needed some time to process them.

An easy informative book

An easy digestible informative book about reparenting yourself after being raised by emotionally immature parents . My only issue with the book is that it is about mild cases of being raised by immature parents and maybe is not 100% helpful for people severely abused in childhood dealing with cptsd

Great

I found this really useful and interested to get the next one. Need to get a book on trauma now though as actually bit of a revelation that family life was dysfunctional and depression comes from that. Love to all xo