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Publisher's Summary

A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of the international best-seller The Boston Globe dubbed "The Parenting Bible".

For over 35 years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele's daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk's powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven.

Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life.

What do you do with a little kid who...won't brush her teeth...screams in his car seat...pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.

This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.

©2017 Joanna Faber and Julie King (P)2017 Simon & Schuster

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Interesting, practical, useful.

Thank you for writing this! I recommend to any parent. Was extremely helpful. Already seen improvements and got me thinking about it scientifically again instead if just flabbergasted parent.

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Changed my life

This book completely changed my perspective about how I should talk to my children. It radically changed what I say to my children. I have both the print and audio editions and really enjoyed listening to it so the parental voices became someone else's besides my own.

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Loved the book! Not so much some narration parts.

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The person who narrates "Sarah" uses mutliple upward inflections in the wrong places and emphasizes parts of speech that shouldn't need it. It becomes so annoying that I began skipping her stories altogether. This is still a great listen/read and I would still recommend it to any parents with a toddler.

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I want to be just like the authors

These authors emphasize the importance of remembering what it's like to be a kid. Big takeaways for me were to acknowledge feelings, describe what I see, be playful, give choices, and describe their wish fantasies. I've used these tools--now my daughter is hopping into her pajamas and likes to be carried to bed upside down. Really resonated with me and made me re-think how I talk to my daughter. Thanks!

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Love All the How to Talk Books

There were so many times when this book anticipated my "Yeah, but..." thoughts and doubts. Well written, fun to listen to, and lots of tools to practice using with my 3 boys all 7 and under.

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It works

Just by starting to acknowledge feelings there is a noticeable progress. I am happy the authors noticed the previous book was neglecting children in the age range.

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Must read for parents of small kids!

Would you consider the audio edition of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen to be better than the print version?

I loved this book. My only regret is that I didn't read it earlier. My daughter is 5 and I learned a lot still.

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Wish every parent in the world could read this

I think a solution to world peace is if every parent could read and try to follow this book. Seriously. The skills taught in this book could be applied for a life time. Sometimes I feel like the book were a perfect parent speaking to me pointing out ways I could improve on my own life, learning with my toddler.

I've read the famous How to Talk book by her mother, but this is still an excellent read specifically targeted towards younger children's challenges.

What I love most is how practical it is, even acknowledging that kids do turn parents crazy sometimes and how to deal with those tough times!

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Amazing!

I purchased the audio and paperback version of this book. I have read several parenting books and this is the best and most helpful one by far! I loved all the tools, scenarios, and stories. Even after only reading the first chapter our family life changed. We had known for a while that what we were doing wasn't working, but we didn't know what to do instead. I am so thankful for how empowering this book is for me as a mom! Our home life is completely transformed! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!!

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I found the answer!

I knew there was some peaceful and loving way to treat my children and make them behave civilized without turning them into spoiled criminals in the process. This book changed my life and that of my kids for the good!!!

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  • 09-17-17

Never too late to try different approaches

It's not a magic wound - nothing is. But there are some good tips and explanations. Happy I bought it.

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  • Szabolcs S.
  • 11-11-17

very-very-very good

Excellent performance from all the narrators and authors! Really enjoyable to listen and very informative. I'm still in progress to change how I'm with my kids along the advises from this book, but can say that after a week - loosely using the tools that are presented in the book - got some very positive changes.
It also had some life gems for me. Never really understood why I couldn't take praises when I was a child myself, but after listening the part about praises, now finally understood what mistakes most of us do when praising one and another.
The authors are not pretending to give you a 100% working examples, since all kids are different this would be impossible, but rather many-many good techniques and advises.

Must "read" for all busy/stressed/normal parents :)

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  • Gopal Peddinti
  • 07-05-18

Very practical; I highly recommend

This is the best among the couple of books I read. The conversational style of the book makes content easy and interesting to follow. Advice is totally practical.

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  • StardustSalvage
  • 07-05-18

Worth listening but overrated.

There are some valuables ideas and tips, however after finishing it it feels like I need some more.

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  • yulia
  • 06-27-18

Absolutely brilliant!

This book is a perfect Guide on the gentle parenting I was looking for! Thank you

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  • Sam
  • 06-14-18

I feel equipped to handle my 2 year old!

Some real golden nuggets here! This book was well layed out and easy to listen to.

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  • DB
  • 06-07-18

the must book for parents

it is the best book on parenting I've ever read. loved the all examples and did try few and guess what!? They worked!!!

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  • Sophie76
  • 05-12-18

Great tips that really work

im going to buyba physocal copy of this book as i want to be able to refer back to many of the points. this book has some very straight forward and clear truths about kids and how to approach everyday situations that really work and help dissolve scenarios that would otherwise end in tears. highly recommend

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  • Ms. J. Barron
  • 04-26-18

Must read

A game changing must read for parents of small humans. I loved it and can’t wait to try out its many helpful tricks.

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  • matthew j greenwood
  • 04-21-18

very useful tips<br />

loved it very useful tips. could do with a workbook to help practice and remember. great book.

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  • Donna
  • 04-13-18

loved the tips in this book

I can't wait to try these techniques out on my 2.5 year old! they all seem reasonable and easy enough to implement

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  • Sharee
  • 02-10-18

Loved it!

I had been looking for practical strategies to support parents in dealing with childhood anger and anxiety when i purchased this book.
I'm so glad i gave this book a chance. The ideas offered are simple yet powerful in creating behaviour change. I also like the way the authours reassure parents that mistakes are ok and there is no such thing as a perfect parent.
I loved the narration too. i sometimes struggle listening to American narrators who speak too fast, but this one was perfectly paced. It also used several 'actors' which improved the clarity of the stories as well as making them very entertaining.
i will be purchasing the paper copy of this book and recommending it to all parents attending my programs. Thank you.

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  • Ruth
  • 02-20-17

Very Helpful & Comes With PDF Concept Summary

Rich in examples used by varied parents/kids. General applicability, less useful for behavioural disorders.

The PDF summary is a fantastic resource for time-poor parents.