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Publisher's Summary

A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of the international best-seller The Boston Globe dubbed "The Parenting Bible".

For over 35 years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele's daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk's powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven.

Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life.

What do you do with a little kid who...won't brush her teeth...screams in his car seat...pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.

This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.

©2017 Joanna Faber and Julie King (P)2017 Simon & Schuster

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Changed my life

This book completely changed my perspective about how I should talk to my children. It radically changed what I say to my children. I have both the print and audio editions and really enjoyed listening to it so the parental voices became someone else's besides my own.

6 of 6 people found this review helpful

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Interesting, practical, useful.

Thank you for writing this! I recommend to any parent. Was extremely helpful. Already seen improvements and got me thinking about it scientifically again instead if just flabbergasted parent.

4 of 4 people found this review helpful

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Love All the How to Talk Books

There were so many times when this book anticipated my "Yeah, but..." thoughts and doubts. Well written, fun to listen to, and lots of tools to practice using with my 3 boys all 7 and under.

7 of 8 people found this review helpful

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It works

Just by starting to acknowledge feelings there is a noticeable progress. I am happy the authors noticed the previous book was neglecting children in the age range.

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I want to be just like the authors

These authors emphasize the importance of remembering what it's like to be a kid. Big takeaways for me were to acknowledge feelings, describe what I see, be playful, give choices, and describe their wish fantasies. I've used these tools--now my daughter is hopping into her pajamas and likes to be carried to bed upside down. Really resonated with me and made me re-think how I talk to my daughter. Thanks!

6 of 7 people found this review helpful

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I found the answer!

I knew there was some peaceful and loving way to treat my children and make them behave civilized without turning them into spoiled criminals in the process. This book changed my life and that of my kids for the good!!!

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Awesome!!

this is one of the most gentle yet realistic books I've read!! the time invested is totally worth it and it's so interesting that you don't feel the time is passing by! 100% recommended!!

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Must read for parents of small kids!

Would you consider the audio edition of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen to be better than the print version?

I loved this book. My only regret is that I didn't read it earlier. My daughter is 5 and I learned a lot still.

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Loved the book! Not so much some narration parts.

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The person who narrates "Sarah" uses mutliple upward inflections in the wrong places and emphasizes parts of speech that shouldn't need it. It becomes so annoying that I began skipping her stories altogether. This is still a great listen/read and I would still recommend it to any parents with a toddler.

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  • JR
  • 10-30-17

Incredibly practical and effective parenting book!

I've spent a lot of precious hours reading books about parenting my 2 children. Hands down this is by far the best, most practical, most immediately effective and useful book I have found on the topic. I only wish I had been equipped with these tools earlier. I recommend this book to every parent of littles! I have also purchased a paper copy to keep on my nightstand for quick reference/refresher skimming on specific topics and struggles as the needs arise.

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  • lv
  • 09-17-17

Never too late to try different approaches

It's not a magic wound - nothing is. But there are some good tips and explanations. Happy I bought it.

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  • Szabolcs S.
  • 11-11-17

very-very-very good

Excellent performance from all the narrators and authors! Really enjoyable to listen and very informative. I'm still in progress to change how I'm with my kids along the advises from this book, but can say that after a week - loosely using the tools that are presented in the book - got some very positive changes.
It also had some life gems for me. Never really understood why I couldn't take praises when I was a child myself, but after listening the part about praises, now finally understood what mistakes most of us do when praising one and another.
The authors are not pretending to give you a 100% working examples, since all kids are different this would be impossible, but rather many-many good techniques and advises.

Must "read" for all busy/stressed/normal parents :)

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  • Mrs A
  • 12-19-17

Life changing!!

Although a couple of the narrators grated this is a brilliant parenting book! Listen now!

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  • 11-29-17

Soooooo good!

Loved this book! I have given some of the tools a go and even though I need practice some have already worked 👌🏻

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  • Sarah Harrison
  • 02-15-18

Bible for understanding little ones behaviour

If you could sum up How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen in three words, what would they be?

Parent survival manual

What other book might you compare How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen to, and why?

Danish Way of Parenting

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Would be nice to hear it in a British accent

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  • Magdalena Buchowiecka
  • 01-29-18

Definitely must read if you are a parent!

Found lots of interesting tips in this book that I am definitely going to try with my two young children (4 and 19 months). Quite fun to listen to too.

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  • M Rasul
  • 01-25-18

An eye opening read

An eye opening book which has had instant impact in how we interact with our kids.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-24-18

Molto bello - prattico e innovativo

Il libro l'ho trovato molto interessante. Un approccio per quanto me riguarda innovativo. Non punire, non premiare, non lodare in modo generico, ma concentrarsi sulle emozioni del bambino e usare la technica problem solving per trovare soluzioni che vadano bene per tutti. Di sicuro cerchero di mettere in atto questi consigli.

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  • Sharee
  • 02-10-18

Loved it!

I had been looking for practical strategies to support parents in dealing with childhood anger and anxiety when i purchased this book.
I'm so glad i gave this book a chance. The ideas offered are simple yet powerful in creating behaviour change. I also like the way the authours reassure parents that mistakes are ok and there is no such thing as a perfect parent.
I loved the narration too. i sometimes struggle listening to American narrators who speak too fast, but this one was perfectly paced. It also used several 'actors' which improved the clarity of the stories as well as making them very entertaining.
i will be purchasing the paper copy of this book and recommending it to all parents attending my programs. Thank you.

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  • Ruth
  • 02-20-17

Very Helpful & Comes With PDF Concept Summary

Rich in examples used by varied parents/kids. General applicability, less useful for behavioural disorders.

The PDF summary is a fantastic resource for time-poor parents.