He's Just Not That Into You

The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

By: Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo

Narrated by: Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo

Length: 3 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

He's Just Not That Into You, based on the popular episode of Sex and the City, educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you".

He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out", consider the glorious thought that maybe He's Just Not That Into You. And then set yourself loose to find the one who is.

©2004 Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo (P)2004 Simon & Schuster Audio

Critic reviews

"By all means read this smart, funny, and surprisingly upbeat little book." (Publishers Weekly)

I listen to this over and over

In the world we live in. I need to hear this over and over again because the dating and I just listened to this book as a friendly reminder that if he’s just not into me, it’s OK

Life changing and simple

Simple honest and sweet. I must read for all women. I have excused a lot of behaviour in the past and in the end, the guy just wasn’t that into me

Straightforward and Helpful

Very practical and straightforward. Good humor for tough issues. Good listening.

All of it was obvious until they got to my story

I sat there listening to this book, thinking that all of the little anecdotes were so obvious - yeah of course he's just not that into you. And then they got to MY situation. I waited for 6 years with a guy who didn't propose, didn't interact with my family, didn't call. He would insist he loved me, he would insist he just didn't like calling, he would insist he just wasn't that kind of guy to want to hang out with my family - but then he regularly made me hang out with his. Why did I waste so much of my pretty youth? It was like I was blind to my own situation, even if I would clearly understand the other situations described in the book. This helped me gain clarity in the breakup, and I'm glad I read it. Even if it is a bit cis-heteronormative, the message generalizes. When they like you, you'll know.

Horrible audio

The book itself is fine and I think every young woman should read it. However, notice I say READ and not LISTEN. The audio makes Greg sound like an all-knowing mansplainer, and the women sound petty, pretentious, and downright stupid. I'm sure that's not how the author intended it to be...

Life changing! Hilarious if you have a somewhat dry sense of humor!

This content changed my life by opening my eyes and accepting that my marriage of 24 years had deteriorated to the extent that my husband just wasn't that in to me! In the end, it was so obvious, but I was in denial to believe something else. Both of us are loyal spouses and there was no infidelity. Literally, we were a disaster and this book helped me laugh at the ridiculous situations in our marriage only to realize it was best if we both moved on. The book is designed for singles and it was just as important for me to hear this message.

Awesome

Worth several listens, it's a great book. There's no reason to be in a relationship that makes a gal sad and messes with her self-esteem. And why would a great guy want to be with a girl who'd treat herself poorly? They deliver all the important info in a digestible funny way. Why cry when bullshit perpetrated by bullshit dudes is actually hysterical when presented in the right light? Buy it!

Eye-opening

This was a great book. It is causing me to give more thought to how I do relationships and I'm ready to make changes.

excellent but too short I need 24hrs of this!!!

excellent but too short I need 24hrs of this!!! it was great great stuff

I was the “he”

I just wish there were some same sex examples and the females behaving the “he” way. I was put in my place a few times through the book. I am a straight female but have been guilty of all the above. Now that I’m ready to settle down I want to make sure I am a great version of myself and this book helped me 1. Be a better partner 2. Move on quickly.

Thank you!