Act like a Lady, Think like a Man

What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Narrated by: Mike Hodge
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An international best seller

With translations in more than thirty languages, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is the definitive relationship guide for women.

Steve Harvey can't count the number of impressive women he's met over the years - the many incredible women who can run a business, have three kids, maintain a household in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So when it comes to relationships, why can't these same women figure out what makes men commit? According to Steve, it's because they're asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In this expanded edition, Steve includes an added section of all new advice, with tips on dealing with your partner's exes, spicing up your relationship, ensuring you're ready for that walk down the aisle, and much more.

Sometimes funny, often unflinchingly direct, but always truthful, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book you must listen to if you want to understand how men think when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and love.

©2009, 2014 Steve Harvey (P)2015 HarperCollins Publishers
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Worth a listen

I had mixed feelings about getting this book from some of the negative reviews. One of my friends recommended it to me so, with the audible return policy in mind, I purchased it.
I am an educated professional woman and did NOT find this to be "too 1950s". I feel that I gained some understanding into the way many males approach dating. I will listen to it again

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Insightful look into the minds of men

Although I might agree with all the opinions and what not expressed in this book it did open my eyes a bit to how I could improve my relationship with my partner. Things that seem normal or logical to us women might be totally different in a man's mind. Things I learned in this book that I have already applied in my own relationship have given positive reactions so I look forward to using this reference more in my life. I hope others in a similar situation as I am will also use this and be successful with it.

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Blegch... Avoid

Not the revolutionary eye-opener many purported it to be. Just a lot of common sense tempered with a load of antiquated advice. Save yourself six hours; book sums up like this: just be Donna Reed, but also a closet nymphomaniac, and make sure to have the patience of a saint, but, you know, have standards and stand up for yourself because you're strong, except don't expect men to talk because they're simple, and -- whatever you do -- don't ice a man out for more than a few days, otherwise he'll cheat and it'll be your fault because he can't help it. Never met an actual man as gross as the supposed 'Everyman' Harvey describes.

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As a man, I think this is a great primer for women

This book was mentioned to me by a friend, and I agreed to have a listen and see what trash was being spouted by Steve Harvey. From the beginning to the end, I couldn't believe hiw spot on it was. This is not a book just for women in my humble opinion - this reminds a man that he is a beautiful creature made exactly as he he was supposed to be. We can curb our more destructive tendencies, but this book severed as a sort of affirmation that being a real man, especially in today's world, is not only achievable, but preferable and expected. highest praise for Mr. Harvey's work here.

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Offensive, sexist, homophobic, materialistic and disrespectful in many ways.

This is everything modern society should stand against.

To women out there: please don't take any of this seriously, this a bad joke, reflecting an uneducated man's own opinion.

Read "The Man's Guide to Women" and "The 5 love languages" instead if you are looking for a meaningful relationship.

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Men are Pigs

What disappointed you about Act like a Lady, Think like a Man?

What I detested about this book is that it stated that all men are generally all pigs who can't control their desires. Which makes them animals incapable of making higher intelligent choices. And all the fault in a relationship gone wrong is the women in them. There are some good points in the first half of the book (because I couldn't finish the second half) about women standing up for themselves but overall rubbish. Also, I figured Steve harvey was a man who supported women but he applauds the fact that his wife gave up two things she really enjoys because it bothered him....I am assuming in their relationship that works but in the book it comes off as unfair.

What could Steve Harvey have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

Been his own narrator and.

Any additional comments?

Don't waste a credit.

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Overall it was very informative

I'm a man reading this book. was recommended by a friend. At first I was thrown by the title but, after the first chapter the insight helped explain some of my own hang ups about why I hadn't found a good woman yet. some of the content was not for me and that was to be expected.
the standards to hold others by and how to quickly identify what others are looking for was not exclusive to the male gender. I would recommend this to all who have found and wasted time on someone (whom you've always known deep down) that was not really giving themselves to your relationship.

I identified with both sides of the stories in this book, I gave my love to someone that always knew I was never the one and couldn't admit it to herself, or was simply just using me until my usefulness went away. on the otherside I have given time away on those looking for a quick hook up and wanted more after. Now with the help of this book I will use the tests set up to identify who is looking for love and who is looking for love "tonight".

......recommend to Men by a man if you want love and are not sure why you haven't fallen in love yet!



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just nope.

did not agree with a lot of the things he had to say. too old school

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The Cookie!

Steve love u to death bit constantly referring to my personal gift as "the cookie" made me feel a bit insulted. It would have been fine if it was a few times but not every moment through out the book. Now the base information was ok. I definitely got something out of it! Good job.

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A book that teaches you to be sublime

Maybe I am too independent, maybe I am not that old fashion, but this book is basically telling you, suck it up, please your man, compliment you man, do things for your man, because for him to feel a man you must do all this things. Worse book I have ever read.

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  • Mrs E. Whapshott
  • 12-01-15

Entertaining and helpful!

I loved listening to this book! This book IS helpful! I have a friend currently being used by men and I have recommended that she gets this book as honestly ladies, there is soooo much truth in what this man says! I know this from how my boyfriend treats and respects me, and from thinking back to other relationships where I was not treated as well, and now I know why, and what I would have done differently having listened to the book to change the man faster and NOT my behaviour.
Give this book a go, I have never written such a glowing report on a book, so please don't think twice, listen and enjoy, but most of all learn, and respect your boundaries.

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  • Caroline dalton
  • 11-11-15

Surprisingly informative

Liked the Insite in to how men think

Great for single woman/ early dating

Worth the read .

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  • Moriam. O. Baruwa
  • 04-22-16

I wish this book was placed in my hands 13year ago

I love the humour in this book. it encompasses knowledge all women should know. Narrator was great and enjoyed listening.

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  • Ms
  • 06-11-15

Enjoyable

Clear and to the point. Not a difficult listen. Waited s long time and it was worth the wait.

An opportunity to understand the other gender a little better.

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  • Em&Me
  • 05-27-19

The 1950s called, they want their advice back...

I’ll start with the fact that there are a handful of useful tips in this book.

The trouble is that the useful parts are smothered in so much outdated, sexist and religious nonsense that it really is difficult to pick the diamonds out of the bull.

In the interests of full disclosure I will happily admit that I listened to the end, this was because it was like watching a slow motion train crash. I kept listening, thinking ‘wait, he surely did not just say that’ but oh yes, he most certainly does.

Undoubtedly this is a good performance, but I’d expect that from a man who cut his teeth in stand up.

Would I recommend women should listen to this? For the advice, no but for the (unintentional) laugh at his ideas? Oh yes but wait until the price is reduced.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 05-01-19

so sexist but funny

A lot of this sounds plausible and could ve helpful in prompting men or women to assess their behaviours in a relationship more. Lots of parts sound very sexist but he is a comedian and it certainly made me laugh too.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 06-20-18

great

Great book I learnt so much will defiantly recommend to all my friends and anyone having difficulty in their relationship

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-12-18

more for single women

i learnt a little from this book but it is predominantly for single women. its funny and very realistc

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  • SIMONEDAVID
  • 08-31-17

Excellent

Lovely reading for the ear....well worth buying....thank you for sharing your book with us Steve!

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  • regina
  • 02-20-17

Such an insightful book, loved the funny comments!

The tips in the book are really useful, really recommend to all women who wants to know what men think!

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  • C&J.A18
  • 02-28-16

Enjoyed it and laughed along the way.

Book flew! I still think some of the ideas were a bit old fashioned but I will take the suggestions on board and see where it takes me.

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  • Sandie
  • 01-31-18

entertaining and educational

I prefer the author to read but the narrator was good. funny and educational book.

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  • Jeanne Bowry
  • 09-16-18

To much emphasis on God

For the most part I enjoyed this audiobook, however, I was endlessly bored and disgruntled by the frequent reference to the importance of God. For us atheist listers (who also manage to have good morals and values, thank you very much) the inclusion of God in a relationship is redundant and in all honesty would be a great detriment to a potential relationship. The book fails to acknowledge that there are plenty of genuine catches that don’t believe in God, and that it is better to find someone with a similar belief system to yours than to blindly look for someone that worships God, when you wholeheartedly don’t believe in such things and can’t understand those that do.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-05-20

Ehhh not bad

I've read the book many years ago but wasn't feeling it as much the second time around

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-03-20

Sorry - Basic 'Manospere' Advice

Finding and getting a man to commit is the easy part.
Unfortunately, there's no substance here apart from references of God, in one form or another, to sustain a happy marriage, and especially, know exactly who's the One right for you.

i suggest Harvey, is one lucky, confident man because he is the Spiritual kind. But most people who don't make it - don't have a clue as to why.

Most people, everyone really, needs to come to terms with 'who they are', 'what, inside us, do we fear and won't accept or have a look at.
Because sooner, than later, the relationship will change into repeated arguments. All of which, is the stuff inside the person complaining.
Our ego. The voice in your head.

If we aren't consciously aware of our Egos persuasion, it will continue to control every thing one says, thinks, does, reacts, and the pattern of dysfunctional relationship crops up again and again because it's what we think we want. To re-integrate the child within us. Only We can do that.

These following book recommendations I'm about to provide, will prepare anyone to design a life without regrets.
Hit the home run in every area ones life.

Live your End Game starting tomorrow.
Meaning, you will never feel lack, sadness, or frustration when you do the work on yourself.

Fact is, your intimate relationship won't fufill your every need. Each and every person has the power - to attract and have exactly what they want in life, in a harmonious positive way.

In no particular order, here are some powerful books to master your mind.
The number one thing to get to work on, so to appreciate every moment in life.

The Power of Now, The Five Wishes
The 5 Love Languages, The 5 Languages of Apology, The Science of Trust, Attachment, Relationship RX, Boundaries, The Psychology of Self Esteem, and Learning to Love Yourself. Erroneous Zones.

May you be filled with inner peace and be truly happy.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-03-20

Steve tells it how it is

This book is a true in site into what men want in lady. Steve dispells many things us woman think we know about men and teaches in such a clear and honest way. I've already recommended this book to so many girlfriends.

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  • Nautilus
  • 10-02-19

Honesty bullet

If you’re a confused modern day feminist with degrees, drive and fire, you might find some of this hard to swallow. It is honest, straight-up and gets to the core of masculine/feminine energies. As someone whose dad died when I was young, I was never told this stuff. I have already botched one marriage and I am sitting here now thinking maybe all this feminist drive wasn’t helping. Steve tells it like it is - if you want the protector/provider then you’re going to have to get out of your man boots and actually be a woman. It’s hard to reconcile in parts but I loved it and I can only give it a try since wearing the pants definitely did NOT work

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  • Carla Quintela
  • 09-03-19

Sexist

I couldn't possibly finish this book. It made me feel sick.
This book is pretty much conditioning a woman to believe she is that less than a man.
That her values, her desires must be compromised in order to keep a man around.
That men naturally cheat and forgiving is the first thing you should do.
This encourages women to lose their own self worth, leaving them with absolute paranoia.
It says despite how much you do at work and at home now how tired you are.. Your job is to provide "the cookie" first and foremost.
Here's my advice, don't read this book. Simple and love yourself most, if you love yourself then why wouldn't he /she?
And if you're not compatible, move on and move on quickly.
There are 7.7 billion people, help yourself to another chance with somebody else.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-11-19

Overall I rate it because it is insightful

Interesting book. Very insightful into a man’s mind; however it is a generalisation of men and some aspects are misogynistic; but I could shake that off as I was thankful to hear the authentic thoughts of a man (Steve Harvey).

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 04-09-17

A must read for all women

Insightful, tasteful and honest approach to finding common ground with men. A tool for the modern women's world.