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[Contains mature themes] Free for a limited time for Audible members. A husband and wife are united in their desire to help their daughter, two years after she suffered a breakdown and moved home, shutting herself off from her family and friends. Esther urges them to examine the way pressure and expectations – no matter how well-intentioned – can shape a child’s upbringing.
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Esther is my favorite therapist to listen to!

I have 3 daughters of my own. The oldest is 14, so this information if definitely something I can use.

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I’ll have to respectfully disagree...

I usually enjoy Esther’s words but I’d have to disagree with Esther on this topic.

Particularly the part where she barely addresses the racial component to overseas adoptions. The parents raised her in a predominantly white household with white relatives and had her attend all white schools even though she is or Korean descent.

They say that they’ve only had the best intentions for her but they’ve never addressed her race or her cultural heritage and have instead taken race completely out of the equation even though their world sees her as other and not one of them.

No wonder this child could never approach them about being racially bullied. The disconnect and dissonance would make any child depressed.

Sadly, I feel like race is a blind spot in Esther’s work which I’ll have to take into account when I listen to her other works.

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Deeply helpful

Esther Perel is gifted at uncovering a path to healing. Uncovering the real issues in the middle of the pain, find ways to reengage with curiosity and humanity. Her insight and humility is as close as we need to get to magic.

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Needed antidote to pervasive norms on handling a depressed loved one

This is the first time I’ve heard Ms. (Dr. ?)
Perel approach family dynamics outside of one-on-one intimate relationships. In this case, it’s a couple perplexed by the onset of a serious mood disorder for their college aged daughter.

What drew me to Ms. Perel, when I first heard her on This American Life, was her ability to challenge her patients while remaining deeply and genuinely empathetic toward their suffering. As popular as the antidote:

Suffering Person: “Why me, God?”
God: “Why not?”

Is in American culture; I’ve only seen that mentality promoted by people in denial about the mechanisms of their own pain and - perhaps more relevant in a culture still so thoroughly influenced by organized Christianity’s emphasis on the selfless ideal - the pain they’re spreading to those who love and possibly depend on them.

Ms. Perel seems prepared for the fact that most of her American patients enter the room clinging at least partially to the above referenced ideal, and possesses the ability to guide these patients to a more nuanced view that appears to help them feel more compassion toward themselves and whoever else is involved.

After this first episode of Season 2, I can say that Ms. Perel appears to be able to apply her gifts to family dynamics that extend beyond the individual couple.

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Drastically different from season 1

After listening to, and adoring, season 1 I've been looking forward to more golden relationship advice in season 2. This episode however is not about couples counseling, but parent counseling. It was still no less valuable. As always, Perel's advice was practical, relatable, and profound. I'm still looking forward to season 2, but differently which in a way is even more exciting.

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A voice for relationships

Though her accent is at times distracting, I find that I listen more carefully. In fact, much of what she imparts I want to SEE in text format, so I have purchased the books as well as audio editions.

I think this woman is a compassionate, reasonable, realistic voice for relationship work for our time. So many books try to, and succeed, in polarizing the sexes, ignoring same-sex unions and unmarried as demoralizing. I found her insights to be inspirational, instructive and challenging in the best way possible.

Each time I read or listen to her work I am continually astounded at my own ignorance of how to be healthy in a close relationship, sexual or nonsexual.

Well worth the listen and the read. Buy her books. You won't be disappointed if you are interested in loving and living fully.

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another perspective

I have 'mating in captivity' and enjoy her perspective on things. the idea of embracing your child for being committed to something even though it may not be in the direction in which you want seems to be disarming while encouraging the action of commitment. one example of many!

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great insight to parenting

seemed to be a bit slow but the value gained from the information and perspective was awesome as usual

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Beautiful work captured in a therapeutic session.

Would you consider the audio edition of Ep. 1: You Need Help to Help Her to be better than the print version?

First, the production is wonderfully done. Sound quality, pace, music interludes, narrative annotations and clients' content in the prologue. Great work! I am a clinical social worker and find this to be amazingly insightful and affirming to my work with my clients.

Who was your favorite character and why?

the french guy with his girlfriend because it shoes the power of adaptation available when the system is overwhelmed.

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Excellent...

Excellent. very insightful. I love Esther Perel and all she does. This series is worth your listen.

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  • 11-16-17

Like free therapy

Esther you are a humble queen of knowledge and understanding. The world is a better place with you in it <3

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Excellent example of family dynamics

This is a great session on understanding family dynamics and how people cope with mental illness within a family. It's really a beautiful session recommend to everyone to listen to.