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Publisher's Summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Critic Reviews

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

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  • William
  • Gilmer, TX, United States
  • 02-17-12

no woman ever told me that

Where does She Comes First rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

It falls right in line with other topics on sex. Yes a man wants to please a woman but if she don't talk to you how do you know. Finally a book that does tell you how to know and how to get her the enjoyment she deserves.

Who was your favorite character and why?

No one favorite.

What about Ian Kerner’s performance did you like?

Being honest and saying it hiw it is.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes

Any additional comments?

Keep writing on this subject

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  • Joann
  • waterford, NY, USA
  • 11-02-07

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pretty much what everyone else is saying its an okay read but the author does sound a bit out of place reading it, still he helps with some toppics....

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Learn and perform!

Dr. Ian has done men a great favor in putting together a clear, easy to follow guide to orally pleasuring a woman. Surprisingly, I even found his clinical descriptive definitions of ten parts of a woman's genitals very helpful. Its very comforting to finally know "what's what" down there. I continue to replay and review the terminology and incorporate his "core-play" techniques with great results. This is a skill that's great to have!

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  • Guy
  • IN, IN, USA
  • 06-27-05

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I was a 42 year old "virgin" to oral sex. I listened to this book and even told my girlfriend about it. She dismissed it as hooy. Then I actually mustered the courage to try it out on her and she called me a liar. She said there is no way I could have learned what I did to her from a book. We are now listening to it together and having a very enjoyable time. Thanks, Ian, for wrighting such a helpful book.

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Everyone can learn something.

Just when you thought I knew it all... I found this book to be well written and tasteful (no pun intended). The author did a good job of presenting the subject matter in a very straightforward and easy to understand way. I learned things about the female anatomy that I had never heard of before and other things became clearer. I would recommend this title to those in a monogamous and secure relationship that want to improve their intimacy. Well done treatise of a delicate and not much talked about subject. I have tried some of the techniques and found them to be very useful.

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Wow

Every 21 year old male should be forced to read this before moving on into the best years of their lives. Where was this when I needed it and thank god I found it before it was too late

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Everyone should read this book

Truly amazing. I wish that I had read this book several decades ago. Although it is certainly a "how-to" book in many ways, it carries a deep and fundamental message that goes so far beyond mere technique.

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  • AV
  • 03-17-17

Don't leave your sex life to chance

Super educational and informative, even for a woman. Can't wait to test this out with my husband...

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Wife loves techniques

Great info multiple orgasms perfect wife noticed the difference flat toung technique works great very happy

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My girlfriends love this book.

I'm a woman, and not only are my two girlfriends and I HIGHLY satisfied by this practical and amusing book, but we're each making the men in our lives read it asap. I didn't realise I could feel that way.

Seriously, men, read it. It'll be the best money you spend this year. If a man had no further credentials than that he applies the principles of this book, I'd take him to bed on the spot. If he's doing it, he's a guaranteed good lay.

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  • David
  • 01-06-16

Blah blah blah

What a long winded philosophical and repetitive book! How many times can one thing be repeated in a single book? How many quotes and references to authors and quotes can one put into a single book?
The entire substance of the book could be condensed into 10 minutes!!

Waste of money! Don't buy it

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