• Discovering the Inner Mother

  • A Guide to Healing the Mother Wound and Claiming Your Personal Power
  • By: Bethany Webster
  • Narrated by: Cassandra Campbell
  • Length: 9 hrs and 36 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (93 ratings)

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Sure to become a classic on female empowerment, a groundbreaking exploration of the personal, cultural, and global implications of intergenerational trauma created by patriarchy, how it is passed down from mothers to daughters, and how we can break this destructive cycle.

Why do women keep themselves small and quiet? Why do they hold back professionally and personally? What fuels the uncertainty and lack of confidence so many women often feel? In this paradigm-shifting book, leading feminist thinker Bethany Webster identifies the source of women’s trauma. She calls it the Mother Wound - the systemic disenfranchisement of women by the patriarchy - and reveals how this cycle is perpetuated by wounded mothers who unconsciously pass on damaging beliefs and behaviors to their daughters.

In her workshops, online courses, and talks, Webster has helped countless women re-examine their lives and their relationships with their mothers, giving them the vocabulary to voice their pain, and encouraging them to share their experiences. In this manifesto and self-help guide, she offers practical tools for identifying the manifestations of the Mother Wound in our daily life and strategies we can use to heal ourselves and prevent our daughters from enduring the same pain. In addition, she offers step-by-step advice on how to reconnect with our inner child, grieve the mother we didn’t have, stop people-pleasing, and, ultimately, transform our heartache and anger into healing and self-love.

Revealing how women are affected by the Mother Wound, even if they don't personally identify as survivors, Discovering the Inner Mother revolutionizes how we view mother-daughter relationships and gives us the inspiration and guidance we need to improve our lives and ultimately create a more equitable society for all. 

Supplemental enhancement PDF accompanies the audiobook. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2020 Bethany Webster (P)2020 HarperAudio

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Meh.

Look, I’m a fan of Bethany Webster and have learned from her writings and enjoyed listening to podcast interviews with her over the years. She’s done big important work that has benefited me and countless others! But this book, partly narration and partly just the writing, feels so long and drawn and out and I couldn’t finish it.

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Left with Questions and concerns.

Repetative.
Seriously concerned about the need for a 20 year relationship with Therapist Nicole. Especially when the author admits to getting from Therapist Nicole all the things she wanted from her mother.
Missed opportunity speaking about the roll/impact her father had on her life. This is a parental Wound vs. specifically a female mother wound. Predictably leads into a relationship with a woman after hours and hours of hounding on the idea of "toxic masculinity".
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Had a few interesting ideas and the computer reader wasn't to bad. 3/5 stars.

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Thank You

I am so grateful for finding Bethany on youtube. Im at the beginning of this book and I know I will be transformed

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Just what my soul needed to heal.

Thank you for sharing your light; it’s been such an uplifting and healing book. Gave me answers around family dynamics and how patriarchal systems were infused to create the toxic environment we get to inhabit. At all times we must choose the truth of our souls and act accordingly. It sure does take courage & fierce integrity- I thank you 🙏🏽

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Excellent guidance

Listening to this, i no linger feel so aline in my pursuit to "not be like my mother". Now i understand the reason for the confusing relationship I have with her. More explanation of how to reprogram my own behavior would be good. The death mother apocalyptic mother explanation made sense to me, but seemed a little out of place with the rest of the book style.

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Empowering

This book spoke to me in ways that I have needed my whole life. It validated and helped me identify the target areas that I am seeking to heal. It allows me to understand that I have freedom of choice and the a relationship bond isn’t synonymous with being bound to a relationship. I am truly grateful for this book and have already recommended it to a couple of my friends and even played a chapter for my mother. Ultimately, my hope and personal mission is to show up as my most authentic self. To rectify my relationships with my sons. To apologize from an informed and reframed perspective. To build up the confidence to carry out the things that I have always been passionate about. To help others feel loved and supported as well.

Thank you for your message in this book.

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Amazing

I will be reading this again soon, going to order it in paper form. I am deeply gratefull that found this book

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Great

This book is a game changer. I particularly enjoyed the chapter on boundaries. Thank you Bethany for taking the time to write it. And I loved the discussion from Bethany’s therapist in the appendix to provide context to the therapy within which all of Bethany’s spirallic transformations took place.

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I have never related to something more in my life. Thank you so much. So amazing and so just life changing.

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Amazing

Listened to it over two days first and I’m on my second time. It’s life changing if you’re on this path.

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  • Tigerlilly
  • 02-26-21

An interesting, but sometimes frustrating, book

There are definitely some really helpful and profound messages in this book, I did also feel some negatives though. I’ll start with the positives; this book opened up some interesting reflection in me, especially with regard to thinking about family dynamics and my relationship with my mum.

It was quite profound to explore how patriarchy moulds our families and, in turn, our own identities as daughters. I feel that this book would be especially helpful for women who suffered abuse or mistreatment at the hands of their mothers, by helping us to realise that we aren’t responsible for our mother’s actions or pain. My favourite part of the book was the chapter on cultivating our inner-mother and I would have enjoyed learning more about this.

Now for the negatives; although the author says that this book isn’t about blaming mothers for our pain, I felt an overwhelming amount of blame was targeted at mother everywhere. Every issue or difficulty which daughters experience is caused by their mothers. For all the talk of showering ourselves and other women in empathy, I didn’t feel much empathy towards mothers. At some points I felt that the author ‘othered’ mums, that’s to say she talks about mothers as though they are somehow a different species to other women. There was some reflection on the historic and social circumstances which may have led our mothers to struggle with emotions, but I didn’t feel the author really grasped that many older women simply didn’t have the tools, insight or opportunities to be ‘enlightened’ women. If our mothers have fallen short or mistreated us then simply labelling them as ‘selfish, unenlightened, unwilling to do the work of self-actualisation’ does an injustice to women everywhere. If there was one message which I could pass on to the author it would be this: mothers, even the bad ones, are people too.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-30-21

Great, but listen with an open mind

This book is important and will really help the reader understand the dynamic between mother and daughter, particularly when it's a tricky one.

However there were elements of the book that felt icky and toxic and under-minded the important message. I wish there was more empathy for mothers. I'm still unpicking why it made me feel uneasy but i think it boils down to the the messaging that you need to cut your mother out if she doesn't behave how you want her to when you confront her of all her ills.

Bethany's own personal story is important, but i feel it has too much text dedicated to it.

That said, there were some real a-ha moments for me and its been an important read in my self improvement journey.

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  • thesurealist
  • 02-01-21

Beautiful, honest, personal and liberating!

I’ve followed Bethany Webster online for some time. I was thrilled to hear that she was writing a book and excitedly awaited it. I bought the audiobook immediately.

Bethany is a beautiful soul, her work is compassionate, wholesome, generous, encouraging, hopeful, balanced and full of love. I’m so grateful that Bethany has written about her personal journey, growth and fulfilment. Difficult childhoods hurt millions of us. We feel broken, silenced, struggle and feel hopeless. We blame ourselves and become embedded in treading a path that we feel we cannot leave. We can.

How beautiful to hear Bethany encourage women to take up our rightful voice, space, womanhood and heal from within. I wholeheartedly urge my sisters to open your heart and mind, body and soul, to listen or read this book, get involved with Bethany’s online community and find a way through the darkness.

My life is nothing like Bethany’s. However, the boot or patriarchy is ever present, reminding me that I am a woman and therefore lesser than man. How wonderful for women to be able to live unashamed, valid, equal, loved and safe. We can.

I am a mother and I listened to this book with my mother lenses. I love being a mother. There is NOTHING greater than enabling my grown womanchild to know her value, worth and be heard with her own beautiful voice. I can and have and will continue to be sensitive to every hurtful cycle that I realise and make it good if I can. This is the privilege of healing the mother wound. We can close the mother gap and draw our daughters closer so that they will never want to repeat the patriarchal cycle.

This book encourages spiritual growth within us, defies patriarchy, encourages us to stand up straight and keep moving forward. Women matter, our lives are sacred and rich. The awful harmful cycle of patriarchy ends in our homes when we expose it and blast it open. We can reach the unconscious harm, motivations and inner turmoil and live a conscious, open, relaxed, liberated life - and help our sisters too.

Thank you Bethany for sharing your life work with the world. I hope that all women and men will read this book and find that peaceful, contented, space that is rightfully yours. Patriarchy harms us all. We can all heal from the deep wounds it causes.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 04-13-22

Lots of good points made

This book is a good introduction to mother wombs.. a good self help book easy to understand

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  • Santa Baneviciute
  • 01-12-21

brilliant

relevant for current times and essential book for most of the women. I will listen twice or three times.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-12-21

Crucially important book

This is an amazing book and one I’d recommend to every woman. Even as someone who has had a relatively good relationship with my mother, this book was full of incredible insights and inspiration to delve deeper.
I have listened through in just a few days, and will now go back and listen again, chapter by chapter, and journal on the reflection questions at the end of each.

I can’t recommend this highly enough.

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