Cheating in a Nutshell

What Infidelity Does to the Victim

By: Wayne Mitchell, Tamara Mitchell

Narrated by: Sarah Zimmerman

After being cheated on, individuals may feel battered by emotion, with nowhere to turn, and no roadmap in sight. International relationship advice authors Wayne and Tamara Mitchell provide that roadmap through Cheating in a Nutshell: What Infidelity Does to the Victim.

This book is for you if:

• You just learned your partner cheated on you
• You have been staying with a cheating partner
• You were betrayed in a past relationship and seek a deeper understanding of your emotions

This text is intended to provide a path out of darkness for those in need, grounded in research, but delivered with empathy. The advice is honest and straightforward, even when it may be difficult to hear. This audiobook is skillfully narrated by Sarah Zimmerman.

Produced and published by Echo Point Books & Media, an independent bookseller in Brattleboro, Vermont.

©2019 Wayne Mitchell, Tamara Mitchell (P)2023 Echo Point Books & Media, LLC

©2019 Wayne Mitchell, Tamara Mitchell (P)2024 Echo Point Books & Media, LLC

Finally! An Evidence-based Approach to Cheating and its Aftermath.

This book is a must-read for anyone who is abused by a cheater. The authors discuss every facet of these traumatic experiences from the bodies initial disgust at discovering the betrayal through the gaslighting and victim-blaming that cheaters routinely embrace in an effort to justify their abhorrent choices. Unlike many cheating apologists, this book refuses to allow cheating to be characterized passively as “a mistake” or something that “just happened” but rather, the authors powerfully persist in exposing cheating for what it truly is—a series of intentional acts of fraud and deception that are chosen by the cheater because he feels entitled to whatever he wants regardless of the harm it causes his partner or his children. Understanding the choice to abuse a partner in this devastating and intimate manner is critical to understanding who the cheater really is. Understanding this is in turn critical to the survivor’s ability to truthfully evaluate the risks that she would be taking if she chose to stay with an abusive and dishonest partner.

Finally! Literature that focuses on the betrayed.

I am a victim of betrayal and have read and listened to many books on this subject. It has been 3 years since discovery and I still feel stuck. This book journey in detail. You can forgive but you’ll never forget. I feel understood and know that I’m not the only one going through this hell.

Good for understanding and moving on

Not for those trying to stay together, but exactly the book I needed after leaving and going no contact.

Very anti-forgiveness

Be aware that this book has a negative view of forgiveness toward an unfaithful partner and doesn't really distinguish between people who continue the cheating behavior and those who make amends. It also erroneously combines forgiveness and reconciliation which are two different things. It views forgiveness as detrimental to the betrayed partner and is very negative in terms of couples staying together. Not pro-marriage. Not the book for you if you're looking to heal together.

Negative expectation

I did not like that. This book seemed negative to me. It seemed to encourage the betrayed partner to leave. I am staying in my marriage and I was hoping this would give advice and encouragement on how to move on.