Why Do I Keep Doing This?

Unlearn the Habits Keeping You Stuck and Unhappy

By: Kati Morton LMFT LMFT

Narrated by: Kati Morton LMFT LMFT

Leading mental health advocate and licensed marriage and family therapist, Kati Morton, explores our common struggle and contradiction with control in ourselves and relationships, giving readers the ability to not only ask themselves whydo I keep doing this, but have the insight to find a real answer.

Many of us were told to stuff our feelings down when we were younger. We were taught that that our emotional reactions and responses should be controlled so we didn’t embarrass or upset our parents and those around us. However, if that control oozes over into our relationships it’s considered a bad thing. Controlling our friends or romantic partners is seen as toxic. Control is a precarious thing. Some sides of control are meant to keep us safe, while others harm connections. So, what are we supposed to do?

In Why Do I Keep Doing This? licensed family and marriage therapist , Kati Morton, explores this common struggle and contradiction with control. Kati shows how our upbringing and anxiety are often connected to our struggle to take up space. We can feel like we are too much by just existing in the same place as someone else, or that we are less deserving of their time and care. This struggle with asserting ourselves, or taking what we require can harm our development. We sometimes think the only way to feel okay and get what we need is to please everyone else first.

Why Do I Keep Doing This? is a vital tool in helping us understand why control can be so attractive, but if left unmonitored can become detrimental to our lives. We all go through tough times and face uncertain futures, and we do what we can to cope, but as we get older and in an attempt to get wiser, we have to notice what behaviors are holding us back and change them.

Why Do I Keep Doing This? will shed light on shared struggles as readers follow Kati through some key points of growth in her own life while incorporating what she has learned as a therapist and content creator who knows how to create lasting healthy change. This book gives readers the ability to not only ask themselves why do I keep doing this? but also have the insight to find a real answer.

My exact issues

My exact issues starting with child hood all up onto what I’m dealing with today with my marriage! Always trying to please the person that’s abusing me mentally and sometimes physically but thinking if I keep him happy, this will make him treat me better. Agreeing with him to make him feel better even when I disagree! It’s almost like a festered up pimple that’s just waiting to explode!!! Codependency is so real! Addiction is so real! Suppressing my emotions just so I can make him feel better or in control and superior to me and our relationship and our children and then he’s clueless as to why they don’t want to be around us and definitely don’t want to live with us ever again because they are so insecure and scared to be around him especially when we are arguing because they are scared that it will get worse and possibly even get physical!m