The Fine Art of Small Talk

Publisher's Summary

Nationally recognized communication expert, keynote speaker and trainer, and best-selling author Debra Fine reveals the techniques and strategies anyone can use to make small talk - in any situation. Do you spend an abnormal amount of time hiding out in the bathroom or hanging out at the buffet table at social gatherings? Does the thought of striking up a conversation with a stranger make your stomach do flip-flops? Do you sit nervously through job interviews waiting for the other person to speak? Are you a Nervous Ned or Nellie; when it comes to networking? Then it's time you mastered The Fine Art of Small Talk. With practical advice and conversation cheat sheets, The Fine Art of Small Talk will help you learn to feel more comfortable in any type of social situation, from lunch with the boss, to an industry event, to a business networking opportunity or even a cocktail party where you don't know a soul. This fast paced, informative audio program offers concrete tools to:

• Strike up conversations and keep them going
• Master introductions and remember names
• Come across as composed and self-assured when interacting with decision makers, clients, and colleagues
• Develop rapport with anyone
• Become an "active" listener
• Overcome communication barriers
• Handle awkward situations
• Come up with topics to discuss
• Avoid conversation "killers"
• Prepare for successful conversation
• Exit conversations with grace
• Feel more at ease at award receptions, banquets, receptions and networking events

©2005 Debra Fine (P)2004 Debra Fine

Excellent book!!!

Gentle instructions of how to become a skilled small talker. The most important skill I have learned so far. I noticed immediate change, thank you!!!

8 of 8 people found this review helpful

Helpful but not entertaining

This book is for introverted people who need help with approaching and talking to people. It offers good advise, but it's a little more florid than it needs to be and, as with most books, it would be better if it was read by a professional and not the author.

12 of 13 people found this review helpful

Exactly What I Expected

I spend a lot of time alone, both at work and at home, so my social skills are dismal to say the least. Every now and again, I feel the need to remind myself that such things are exactly that: skills. They can be improved and practiced. It's just a question of getting the basics fresh in your mind. Building a solid foundation is the always the most important part.

And that's the entire nature of this book. Most of it is common sense to those who are have built the skill set, and even for people like me, it makes sense. Anything more than what this book covers is going to come down to personality. Some things you just can't get from a book. For what this audiobook offers, it's worth the listen if you're inclined to to give it a go.

17 of 19 people found this review helpful

Great advice, awful monologue.

Would you consider the audio edition of The Fine Art of Small Talk to be better than the print version?

Minutes after listening to the audio book, I started thinking that the print version would have been better.

Who was your favorite character and why?

N/A there's only one character as far as I know.

What didn’t you like about Debra Fine’s performance?

She just wasn't engaging enough. At lot of times I got lost and had to listen to a chapter again because I got distracted.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Nope.

Any additional comments?

Don't get me wrong, the book is really good but it'll be better with another narrator. She might be good with small talk but audiobook narrating is not her strong suit.

9 of 10 people found this review helpful

worth the time even if you "think" you know how.

at first, I asked for a refund because the first few chapters I do natural. however, I continued listening and came across a lot I didn't realise myself and a lot of mistakes I have been making and why. thanks a lot Debra Fine :- )

3 of 3 people found this review helpful

Not very helpful...

The book's ideas were pretty basic and very business oriented and the narrator was a bit boring.

3 of 3 people found this review helpful

Great for me. Great for my kids. Outstanding!

If you could sum up The Fine Art of Small Talk in three words, what would they be?

I wanted something that I could listen to in the car... With my teens. My kids are more introverted than I am, and I just starting playing this recording w/o asking them in the car. What a success. If the recording was horrible, my plan never would have worked. But this is beyond great. Great information delivered very well.

By the way, though I bought this to play for my kids, I picked up tons of great advice and tips that more than pay for the investment in time and the cost of the recording. Such a no brainer; just buy it and listen to it. Awesome.

What did you learn from The Fine Art of Small Talk that you would use in your daily life?

Conversation skills for all of us. How to not be intimidated by a group of outgoing people.

Any additional comments?

Great listening. Listen with your partner and/or kids. Such great stuff. Besides...it gave us something to talk about ... Which is both ironic and helpful. Fun recording. Such a great buy.

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

In her book Devorah talks more about her life.

I did not find it helpful. It does not teach good strategies and only keeps repiting the same things. I already know these things like asking people what they do for a living. A waste of money in my opinion.

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

Simple and Easy

Great book for learning how to use better transitions and and make strong connections when getting to know new people or continue established relationships!

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

An absolute struggle to get through this one.

Debra should've hired someone to narrate. Gave two stars because I learned a few things.

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

Badly paced, not great to listen to.

The content seemed quite good, but the narrator speaks too fast and sounds awkward, almost shouting at the listener.

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

Load of crap

Learnt nothing. I think Debroah Fine was bored so decided to write a book, badly

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

Useless unless you are a hermit

Defintely give her credit for managing to get published with this. As my title says, unless youhave lived in a cave for your entire life, this shows you nothing. It makes you feel like a fool for even wasting some time on it.

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

Few good tips that I will now put in practice.

This was my first Audiobook ever. I liked the experience and learnt few good tips that I will now try to put in practice in my daily life. Not everything can be put in practice, you need to revise the suggestions and adapt them with your own personality and life.

Positive guidance

positive and clear but perhaps more applicable to those in the US or established career professionals

Good start for a variety of circumstances

The story is told through genuine depictions of situations that are relatable and varied enough to capture a wide audience (thus actually emphasising the underlying point she is making).
The book concludes with a series of guidelines to practice to increase confidence in this area. Booking my next social event to practice now! Thanks Debra!

A must read

Anyone interested in improving small talk skills should surely benefit from suggestions in this book. However it presumes that you have all you need already and the issue is that you dont know how to 'get out of your shell'. It gives quite a few good tips, but the list and conversation examples are not exhaustive, so it could be a little more practical. To conclude however its definately worth a read. information is presented in a nice clear manner.

1 of 2 people found this review helpful

Social noob

I read two other books on the subject via audible that were rubbish and unpractical. This was great, the right mix of practical and theory, lots of situations covered. Give it a go if your looking for some help!

Would give the performance 5 star but my app won't let me!

1 of 3 people found this review helpful

Practical

What made the experience of listening to The Fine Art of Small Talk the most enjoyable?

I enjoyed the practical tips and also actual sample dialogues which put real life conversations in perspective. Read this ahead of a networking event and can't wait to get the tips tested.

0 of 1 people found this review helpful