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Publisher's Summary

For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle - from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.

©1994 Celestial Arts (P)2012 Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy

Critic Reviews

"I couldn't stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives...a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends." (Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One)

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Great for all but really great for beginners.

This was the sixth book I’ve read on this subject as I attempt to move from monogamy to a open relationship. The idea was completely scary and foreign to me however this is one of my favorite books that really gave me some relevant information and tips on how to manage through this transition. I feel I’m well on my way to understanding where I sit in on different relationship styles. I highly recommend this book for anyone considering or currently in this lifestyle. I may return to monogamy eventually however I feel this book helps me get a good understanding of my other options leaving me feeling non-judge and free to make a choice regardless of what that is. The authors are very kind and gentle however direct in the information provided

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The information and advice is 100% totally solid!

Where does The Ethical Slut rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

The open mindedness, sex positive approach, and enthusiasm was enjoyable.

What did you like best about this story?

Good solid read, with enough examples to use in everyday life.

What didn’t you like about Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton ’s performance?

Having a younger, more modern adaption would have enhanced my experience. Their performance was good, my extreme reaction was more toward the grandma-like reading from Hardy and Easton - describing hardcore sex acts in detail to 20 and 30 something’s leaves a little bit to be desired.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

Hire a much younger staff and make it relevant to our modern time.

Any additional comments?

I don’t want anyone to misinterpret this review, this book is great! – all the information herein is solid, well delivered, and 100% on point. I have been in a relationship for 8 years where my wife and I love to take women home for 3 way sex, bondage and discipline, top/bottom sex – or whatever you want to call it. This book is specifically geared to relationships like these. Some of the ladies we hook up with end up staying around for a while because it just works - some don’t. This book is very good at looking at the dynamic of relationships like these and also very good at offering advice for this type of situation.My critique lies in the delivery, and approach. No offense to the authors who also speak the audio commentary (read the book to you), but the experience is like having my hippy grandmother tell me very detailed stories about how her and all her old friends used to get it on back in the day. A lot of the material doesn’t translate well to someone who is, say in their 20’s or 30’s; it just doesn’t – I feel our generation is way more open than those of the past. So even though, all the information in the book is absolutely great advise for a kinky relationship or a vanilla relationship. They push good, open values that stress on the importance of communication, it's just weird having it told to you by an older person. So I would suggest this book to everybody – just be ready to have it read to you by a nice old woman who loves to use terms like cunt, cock, & ass fucking.

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fairly decent

the information was fairly decent, the reader a little bit boring for my taste. Listening to this book was almost like listening to some Christian book, except with a complete opposite point of view. Where Christianity tells you any kind of sex before marriage is a terrible idea, this book makes it sound like any kind of rules in regards to monogamy, or heterosexuality are the worst ever. In my opinion either extreme is narrow-minded and above all, untrue.

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Like a "Choose your own Adventure" book about sex.

Would you try another book from Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton and/or Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton ?

No, I do not think their viewpoints and spectrum of knowledge are helpful to me.

Would you ever listen to anything by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton again?

No

Which scene was your favorite?

The chapter on sex parties and group sex were the most useful.

Was The Ethical Slut worth the listening time?

At a mere 10 hours, you would think it would have been easier to handle. But I found this book to be a trudge through monotone voices and delusional sexual utopia.

Any additional comments?

I really looked forward to this book. All the reviews and feedback from friends and colleagues, I expected a revelation and what I got instead was a book that was constantly telling me to refer to another chapter for more information. (A little hard to do when you are listening to an audio book.)

The authors speak a lot about their own personal lives and their existence within a sexual utopia where there is no jealousy and everything seems to fit like a glove. It is a hard lesson to simply tell someone, "You're feeling jealous? Well don't."

If it was that easy I would simply choose not to feel that and save myself the credit for "The Two Towers" by Tolkien. At least that will not be constantly sending me back on an adventure on page 69 to find out more.

12 of 15 people found this review helpful

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Well written, dense book

"The Ethical Slut" is an excellent, well written book to learn about different relationship types outside of monogamy while also respecting monogamy.

If you are looking at this book, you are probably curious about the many topics of relationships. You will find a lot of good tips in this book whether monogamous or considering open, polyamory, or more. This book can actually help enforce a lot of positive communication techniques for yourself and your partner(s). At its center, the book is all about honesty and trust which is the building blocks of every relationship.

The book is also extends the idea of what sex really is. If you think you know, listen to the first half of this book and see if you still define it the same way.

The authors read the book and they do an earnest job. The fact that they switch between the authors to accent parts is nice. Also it helps that they both practice what they are explaining so can provide personal experiences, emotions, and really relate the content.

The book gets a few down sides that keeps it from a 5 star.

The book feels it is geared largely to women and couples even though they try to cover all sexualities and relationship types. Single men can get quite a lot but some examples or exercises are difficult to relate to.

Also the second half of the book drags a little and the dual voice use takes a little bit of a hit that kept it moving so well the first half.

Finally, it can almost be an overload of information. You might need a few listens to get the full use of the book.

Overall, for anyone who ever "what ifed" or want to consider a different type of relationship in an open and honest way, this well written and dense book is for you!

11 of 14 people found this review helpful

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Disorganized n jumps around

The book starts very well and empathetic but it gets a bit disorganized and the content is all over. While some of the exercises and suggestions were helpful, I didn’t like how she was talking down to its readers. In fact, it detracted me from listening to the rest of the book and had to force myself to finish listening to the book. The last chapter however ends well.

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Great for all relationships

Definitely a good read for all relationship types. Read by the authors which makes it super personal and comforting. Loved every minute of hearing this.

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This novel was eye opening and very informative.

I felt that this author spoke of and disccussed controversial taboo topics in way that made them acceptable and perspective changing .

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Narrator quiet, good info to think about

Yeah, I'm 1/2 way thru this, but I can barely hear parts of what she says, she just has a quiet, muffled voice, I'm pretty fed up. But I need the info in this book so.. BLAST THE STEREO IN YOUR CAR, and I have some amazing equipment in my DJ studio and I actually have to raise the volume to 3/4 of max to hear every word. As for the content, i've been putting people to shame with my approach to learning more about Poly, studying up before I make bad mistakes, some of the more experienced I know never did any research into the subject they just "did it". I think that some poly people could benefit because they bring up a lot of possibilities, and all sorts of details I never thought of. it's a thoughtful book, it has valid points. IF I CAN HEAR IT!! thank you to the authors.

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An interesting topic with mediocre execution

while I am not practicing in an open relationship, I was curious as to how this would be written. The book explores multi-partner relationships, polyamory and open relationships in an interesting way in its intention, but I didn't feel like it give specifics or anything else that I didn't already think about or know. A good book if you're curious, but you can pretty much guess the content. Borrow it for free before you buy it.

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  • Daniel
  • 01-08-14

A wonderful book - and perfect as an audiobook

What did you like most about The Ethical Slut?

Much of the writing is done as if you were being spoken to. So naturally, when narrated as an audiobook, you often are being spoken to directly. A wonderful book and the perfect subject of an audiobook.

What was one of the most memorable moments of The Ethical Slut?

Listening to the narrator describe how she fell in love with a woman who at first intimidated her.

Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

I very often laughed out loud in public. Quite embarrassing.

Any additional comments?

A great book. Even though it may be targetted at women, there is no reason a man cannot enjoy it and glean a great deal of wisdom from it.

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  • soozeekyoo
  • 04-01-18

Essential reading for all

Inspirational and thought provoking. Wish I'd read it sooner. Narration was also excellent. The true stories were particularly helpful and I believe I'll approach relationships, intimacy and sex differently (healthier!) as a result of this book. I'm going to buy the hard copy to to refer back to, to do the exercises and to share with partners. Thank you

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  • rox
  • 04-19-18

What a book... thank you!!!!

Such a great book, it made me feel that I am not alone. I loved that it wasn't completely serious, it had many funny little moments which made me even giggle at times :) Learned so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you..

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-01-18

amazing book definitely one of my favorites

this is an amazing book for all of those looking for in alternative relationship.
started on the bus yesterday evening and the super today at 5 pm took only one break of two hours today that is how amazing I found this book

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  • Suzanne Cooke
  • 10-11-15

Great guide to not being a dick when multi dating

Beautiful! Real and practical guidance for loving love mindfully. How to have your cake and eat it without being a dick.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 11-01-18

Very insightful

I love learning about things that test our culture and behaviours. A very good book to help you further explore yourself. Is it right? Who knows?! But I'm willing to try and see if it feels right. It's important to step outside of our comfort zones and accepted behaviours. We might be missing something great otherwise.

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  • XY
  • 07-11-18

Very good, though a bit patronizing at times

I very much enjoyed this book, lots of good hippies and feminist spirits, though I definitely prefer "more than two" in terms of Polyamory as it has -in my opinion- a better stance with regards to veto rights and hierarchical relationships (both of which are dealt with more critical in MTT). I also found TES slightly more rebellious, but perhaps that's perhaps because it is a newer book, faced with the challenge of introducing a new concept, whereas MTT most likely built upon that knowledge.

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  • Lisa
  • 04-23-18

Truly a practical guide

Hilarious and entertaining, even as I read it a second time. Great advice that I enjoy putting to practice in my relationships.

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  • K. Notley
  • 11-09-15

Fantastic Don't Let The Title Put You Off!

Read it cover to cover. Be you whatever gender and whatever status there is ultimately something here for all. Even those not seeking the title of the book. Wise words and ones to live by, be free and be happy read this book and keep an open mind before you do!

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  • p f chester
  • 08-14-17

flower power

ive gone back to the 60s. i did not rate it. bit of a wadte of money. thats in my opinion.

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  • Amanda
  • 10-17-17

inspirational and enlightening, thankyou

I have waited so long to find these beautiful women and their knowledge. I embrace their values as my own

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  • Catherine
  • 06-05-17

Great for any relationship

Loved it, completely amazing information on dealing with jealousy and opening up communications that can be used in any and all circumstances.

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