Open

An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy

By: Rachel Krantz

Narrated by: Rachel Krantz

An award-winning journalist chronicles her first open relationship with “breathtaking honesty” (Los Angeles Times) in this “sexy, messy, necessary look at polyamory” (The Advocate).

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When Rachel Krantz met and fell for Adam, he told her that he was looking for a committed partnership—just one that did not include monogamy. Intrigued and more than a little nervous, Krantz decided to see whether their love could coexist with the freedom to date other people. Could they strike an exquisite balance between intimacy and independence, and find a way to feel passion for each other once the honeymoon phase ended?

Krantz documents her dive into polyamory, from Brooklyn sex parties to swinging and beyond, in her extraordinary debut memoir. As she attempts to write a new plot for her love story with Adam, she runs up against miscommunications, gaslighting, and ancient power dynamics, and seeks solid ground in a relationship where the rules are ever-shifting. An award-winning journalist, she interviewed scientists, psychologists, and people living and loving outside the mainstream as she searched to understand what polyamory would do to her heart, her mind, and her life.

With an unflinching eye and page-turning storytelling, Open is groundbreaking in both its documentarian approach to polyamory and its explicit subject matter. From debilitating anxiety spirals to heart-opening connections with the men and women she dates, Rachel puts her whole self on the line as she attempts to redefine what a relationship is—or could be.

Captivating!

It was like a scary roller-coaster ride. A fantastic insight into an alternative lifestyle.

Whew

Well, that was intense. But worth it. It reminded me so much of previous toxic relationships I've been in that my own trauma was triggered multiple times. (I'm made thankful that I only stayed for a few months, not years...) But I'm glad I pushed through to the finish and the healing process. Very relatable, well written, and inspiring!

Moved to tears countless times

I’m in a particular phase of my life right now where I don’t know if the traditional mold of relationships fits with my personality anymore.
I’ve been in a long term monogamous ( not married, but we live together) relationship for 11yrs.
I however am 44 and not starting off as this author did, in her 20’s, but I don’t know what would be best suited for my partner and I.
This book was incredibly informative, inspiring, interesting, and my heart broke with her on her journey of discovery and growth during her relationship with “ Adam”. I have not been in officially open relationships, but I have ABSOLUTELY been Gaslighted before & as it was unfolding on the page my heart squeezed in anxiety and anger.
I identified tremendous with Rachel ( especially the younger me in my 20’s and exploring relationships)
This book managed to be be filled with so much information in regards to ALL the different types of ways of being in relationships these days, as well as so much inclusivity in queer and all related subjects ways of being in relationship ( if there was something to note that was different)
Also factoring race and culture in , this book was very politically correct and sensitive, without feeling righteous or preachy.
It felt raw, authentic, it felt like a woman sharing her story, her feelings, even when they might not be deemed socially acceptable by the general standard of normative ways of being.
But I devoured it and I am beyond grateful for this author and her words and honesty.
I would absolutely recommend reading this.
It’s at once a beautiful story of a young woman growing and learning, discovering who she is and what she’s really made of, a love story, and sexual exploration journey, and also a wealth of information about a ton of topics that are truly fascinating to learn about.

An honest, well written contemporaneous journal of one person’s experience testing open relationships.

I think what I found most interesting about this book is that it vulnerably explores the pains and the pleasures of an open relationship.   That it’s from a woman’s perspective and based on real time journal entries with after-the-fact research offered in support of many of the ideas and experiences ultimately makes for a well written, engaging read or listen.
 
If you are at all interested in the topic of open relationships, this book should be on your short list.

Really relatable

I really like how honest this came across and loved the moments that as someone in the life style there were parts were I'm like "That was totally my exp too!" reg little things that are talked about that are details that only someone that has been in the life style would be familiar with and it really brings home this is someones account it's not just fiction. Totally worth the read