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What seems like just a common, no-harm-done excuse - "It's not my fault!" - is often a dangerous trap, say Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, because people don't recognize what the blaming mindset does to them. It not only keeps them from overcoming the effects of all that they can't control-like other people, circumstances and genetics-but separates them from a solution. And when they give away the ownership of their life, they end up losing the one opportunity they have to fulfill their dreams and enjoy God's best.

Using eight principles, a variety of true stories and their years of experience as professional psychologists, Cloud and Townsend enlighten readers on how to make empowering choices-and how to build the life they want to live. It may seem impossible but it's true: taking personal responsibility is not only liberating, it is the best-and perhaps the only-way for a person to get what they really want out of life.

©2007 Henry Cloud & John Townsend; (P)2008 Oasis Audio

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  • David
  • South Hedland, Australia
  • 03-14-11

TOP BOOK of 2009

This is MY FAVOURITE BOOK for 2009. Each year I choose my favourite out of the 20-30 I read/listen to.
This book was revolutionary for me in two directions. 1) inward - helping me to 'Man Up' and own my situation, whether it be my fault or not. 2) outward - It makes it very clear to see why people are having their issues, and how to help them see that they need to OWN their situation too. Helping people OUT of Victim Mentality INTO Victory mentality.
It's NOT my fault, but it IS my problem.
It's MY job to deal with it.

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  • M
  • USA
  • 01-22-15

torres.marthap@gmail.com

Very honest, helpful and substantial!
I highly recommend it! ! It's is a must read.

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Way to look at what responsibility is.

I read and listened to the book. very insightful. you only own your will. that is what you can control. nothing else.

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Great Book! Highly recommended!

I so enjoyed this book that I didn't want it to end. I hope and pray that I retain and am able to do what I learned from it.

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Outstanding!

This book's teachings provided the link that I have been missing for many years. The principles are solid, profound and very clear. DD

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Big help. Great help with focus...

Teaches us how to stay focused on what we can control and how to be proactive in advancing our lives to the next level.

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Henry is a champ.

5 or 6's book, that I read by this author, and still great content. This one have a lot about free yourself from guilt, except pain, that neccesary for change, and go and destroy, the thing that you want. Deffence ( no guilt, no false expectation, reject everything that not realted to goal) + offence ( attack your goal) is ridiculously good strategy to chieve whatever you want.

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must read

this is a must read for those feel life just isn't fair..and even those that want to become a better person

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Eclectic !

I love every part of this book ,the authors have used practical examples ,psychology and rooted everything on the word of God

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Information nearly everyone can use!

I have learned a lot from this book that will be positive for my life and would recommend it to anyone.