How to Have That Difficult Conversation

Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication
Narrated by: Henry Cloud
Length: 2 hrs and 41 mins
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Full of practical tips and how-tos, this audiobook will help you make your relationships better, deepen your intimacy with people you care for, and cultivate more love, understanding, and respect between you and others.

Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don't know how to have difficult conversations, and we see confrontation as scary or adversarial.

Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their award-winning and best-selling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:

  • Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships 
  • Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation 
  • Provide tips on preparing for the conversation 
  • Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattack 
  • Give actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more! 

This audiobook is a practical handbook on positive confrontation that will help you finally have that difficult conversation you've been avoiding. Includes a discussion guide. 

©2015 Henry Cloud and John Townsend (P)2015 Zondervan
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Very needed book

Awesome book to know how to get the book "Boundaries" into action in your life. I needed this to learn confront and most important to learn to reconcile , with boundaries .

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Straightforward but religious

Did not research prior to purchasing this book that there would be regular references to God as an authority. The principles behind it are good.

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Learn How to take control of your confrontation!

if you want to learn how to take control of your conversations and get results by learning how to speak in such a way that you get results then this is the book for you I've listened to this book over four times and I have learned how to used these principles to get the results that I need it will take some time but it's well worth it I thank God for Godly principles and change thank you Henry cloud John Townsend for your obedience to write this book and your partnership with each other I really appreciate it.

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Helpful advice for work or personal relationships!

I found this audio very enlightening and so helpful. I have been trying to reflect on how I say things to people and now I am trying to be more conscious of what I say and how to say things better. It has been a great book for me.

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Great read

loved it. Biblically based truths on how to have difficult conversation. I look forward to implementing these truths.

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I liked it!

Listened in my car on my way to and from work.
Very helpfull. Although fast pace. Wish I could of wrote it down. But how could I, I was driving.

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Misleading Book Description

The description of this book implies that it is research based, but it is not. It is a faith based book with a strong bias toward a patriarchal world view. I would not recommend this book to my friends and colleagues. And, I believe the description is highly misleading.

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A GOLDMINE!!!

Tons of scenarios to get the point across. LOVED IT!! It was valid for every rational issue I'm facing.

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Would you listen to How to Have That Difficult Conversation again? Why?

I always listen to Cloud/Townsend at least twice or get the book. The tools and strategies are helpful for every day life.

What did you like best about this story?

As always Henry Cloud and John Townsend have clear, specific advice which is easy to understand and follow through. Developing the tools outlined make for an easier, less stressful life.

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Struggled o finish, comes off as more fluff and "perfect world" ideas. Very monotone speaker. Kept feeling that I was listening to Stuart Smalley (sic) from the old Saturday Night Live shows.

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  • Mr Charles Carolan
  • 02-27-16

Did not like religious references

Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

I purchased this book in error as a friend had suggested a book by a similar name, however when she was recalling the name of the book she got the name wrong and suggested this one by accident.I did enjoy most of the content of the book however I found that it had too many religious references to Jesus and the Apostles and their various stories.I am not familiar with the Author and had I known that the content had religious references as a way of explaining the various scenarios outlined in the book I would not have purchased it.

What did you like best about this story?

I liked hearing about the various ways to communicate the same thing but come across differently.

Have you listened to any of Henry Cloud’s other performances? How does this one compare?

I am not familiar with the Author

Do you think How to Have That Difficult Conversation needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

I would not be interested, there are references to other books by the same Author mentioned in this book that cover some areas in more depth but I would not be interested.

Any additional comments?

The description gives no reference that various religious books and stories are used as a way to explain and elaborate the various questions and scenarios.

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  • Birsen
  • 12-08-16

ok

lots of references to the bible...not what i was expecting but the basic message is good and makes sense

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