The ADHD Effect on Marriage

Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps

De: Melissa Orlov

Narrado por: Laura Jennings

An invaluable resource for couples in which one of the partners suffers from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), this authoritative book guides troubled marriages toward an understanding of and appreciation for the struggles and triumphs of a relationship affected by it and to look at the disorder in a more positive and less disruptive way. Going beyond traditional marriage counseling, this discussion offers advice from the author's personal experience and years of research and identifies patterns of behavior that can hurt marriages - such as nagging, intimacy problems, sudden anger, and memory issues - through the use of vignettes and descriptions of actual couples and their ADHD struggles and solutions. This resource encourages both spouses to become active partners in improving their relationship and healing the fissures that ADHD can cause.

©2010 Melissa Orlov (P)2017 Tantor

Worth the read for marriages with an ADHD spouse

I am the ADHD (male) spouse. This book is directed more at the non-ADHD spouse, and contains great advice. So I highly recommend it for the non-ADHD spouse. My non-ADHD spousev had found it to be very helpful, and, as she progresses through each section, putting recommendations into action already facilitating improvements in our marital relationship.

However, if you're the one with ADD/ADHD, the way she talks about some things can be more difficult or even feel offensive at times. But this is because she's speaking to the non-ADHD spouse, and acknowledging their emotional experiences of living with you. And that can be hard to hear and accept, without feeling very threatened or judged. The author's time is clearly such that this is not her intent. The intent is to validate the non-ADHD spouse's experience. and that can be very hard to hear and accept. Taken in this light, the book can be helpful for both sides in gaining empathy towards the other's experience. And in that light can potentially facilitate better outcomes. Nonetheless, this can also trigger feelings of judgement, defensiveness, guilt/shame/blame, etc. for the ADHD spouse. so be prepared for that. Both of you will have to do your best to put the best construction in your respective approved in these situations.

I got through it fine. But I've also done a decent amount of work on myself in this area before listening to the book. Even with that, the general tone throughout the book was still very difficult at times.

So... non-ADHD spouses, please take all this into consideration before recommending to your spouse that they read it too. I'm not saying don't recommend it. Simply do your best to be aware of your spouse's sensitivities, while they are reading the book, if you choose to recommend it. For some of you, it may not produce the desired effect.

must buy if you have adult adhd

this is eye opening. If you are an adult with ADHD or a spouse of an adult with ADHD. You must take the time to listen to this. It hits every aspect of a relationship and how ADHD has effected it.

Helped understand relationship better

This book opened my eyes to how ADD has contributed to some ongoing behavior patterns in our marriage and how to address them. Full of helpful tips on how to change habits and thinking approach to help get a grip on living in an ADD marriage.
The book is mainly geared towards a marriage where just one spouse has ADD. I would have loved if it had addressed a marriage where both partners have been diagnosed (my case).
Although I did get a lot out of the content of the book, I didn't care for the narrator. Her voice was a little too soft spoken with almost a fake, sexy-tone to it.

Spot on

Great book to read. I was skeptical at first and was told by wife that I have ADHD. it wasn't till we really hit rock bottom on our way to divorce that I question if what she said was true. After reading this book my mind was open and makes we realized wow! there was a lot going on that I didn't know how I truly affected the other person. in my opinion this book is great by being able to explain what I'm going through as well as what my spouse is going through. it gives both spouse a different perspective on the effects of ADHD on the marriage This book also suggests ways that both spouses can work through the issues and become better in the long run. Great book

Eye opening

Absolutely loved this book. I have never read something and literally had it make so much sense lf everything going on in mkne and my wife's marriage. Granted at times it is very critical of the ADHD partner, but that is a good thing in my eyes (I am the ADHD Spouse). It generates a lot of empathy and helps you and your partner understand the ADHD is the culprit here not you. It also shows you that there is a way back. It is a long and difficult way but there is a way back. This book has inspired so much hope in me and has made so much sense lf my marriage issues.

Do your marriage a favor and buy this!

Very well written to see both sides of a marriage

Definitely worth the read for both sides of a relationship…spouse with ADHD and spouse without. Even if there aren’t any challenges in your relationship, there was some great info and ideas to keep the relationship strong.

So accurate

This book is so helpful in understanding a relationship that is affected by adhd. I have never felt more understood in my life!

Helped with marriage

Amazing tools for Adhd and non adhd couples. Great tips and exercises to improve marriage

Helpful information

So many things hit home for me. A great resource for anyone who is or plans to be married.

Great overall help!

So many great tips and information. Looking forward to putting this to use in our marriage!